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TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Oh great members of SI...how I need your mojo for this evening. WH and I are meeting a financial planner to figure out what the best course of action is to pay of debts, save, etc. so he can get out of his mother trucking job and away from the whore. I have a feeling (or should I say I'm realistic about the fact) that we are going to have a timeline of years before it is safe for him to give up his job financially. I know healing takes years...I've always been prepared for that. I've never been prepared to have OW in my life that long. She has already been in my life too long as it is. I'm scared....very very scared of what more I need to shoulder to make this marriage work. I'm afraid that I have to give up my safety for years to come and fear every day that he leaves for work. That's the horrible part about A's with coworkers. He leaves every morning to something real...something that really happened...to a person he has history with. If you have any extra prayers or mojo, I'd be greatful.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

Posts: 1719 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Tons of mojo and positive vibes headed your way!

Posts: 6769 | Registered: Dec 2010
cancuncrushed
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Member # 28156
Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)

You have my prayers. The OW was coworker. I know your pain. Ground hogs day movie comes to my mind alot. Good Luck. Ow is gone for us. It was a big breath of relief.


a trigger yesterday

Posts: 891 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: athome
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)

TCD - Whatever the answers are, they will give you two power. Working toward this goal together gives you two power.

Keep that in mind. Kudos on taking this step!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25073 | Registered: Aug 2011
confused615
Member
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Done!


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7321 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
sisoon
Member
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Count me in. Congrats on taking this step for yourself and for your M.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9991 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Sending mojo and good thoughts.

Posts: 34777 | Registered: Mar 2011
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Sending mojo. I think that once you have a plan it will be a relief. Good luck!


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 37386 | Registered: Sep 2007
TattoodChinaDoll
Member
Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Thanks everyone! One more hour until the appointment. So scared. I think I need to get some Depends!


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

Posts: 1719 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
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