User Topic: "A letter to my boyfriends wife"
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

I found this a few days ago.
I made the mistake of reading it and it brought back the feelings I have for the OW.

Warning,it's very triggering. If you can stomach it take a . Look and tell me what you think.

Me: 23

Him: 29

Together 6 years.

DS: 2yrs

Ow: 18 at the time. Our son's "God sister"

Doomsday: November 2nd 2012. A couple of days before our sons birthday

Posts: 28 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 33732
Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

I saw that, it just made me nauseous.

Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
Member # 8271
Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

I was actually amused when I read it. It sounds to me like she tells herself some flowery lies so she can believe he loved her so much he couldn't bear to hurt her anymore. If he really loved her, he wouldn't have let it go on as long as it did.

People tell themselves whatever they have to so they can deal. If she wants to believe what she had was love, let her believe it. But love doesn't relish in the vindictive the way she did and love doesn't end up alone and in pain. And no matter why she tells herself he left, she has no idea what the real reason is. She only knows what he told her and she ought to know better than anyone how well he lies.

Rather than leave her to avoid hurting her, it's more likely that he figured out that she was getting pleasure out of hurting the only innocent person in the situation, his wife. People rarely "love" someone like that for long. And knowing that's who she was probably made the justifications for cheating that he was giving himself a lot harder to swallow.

But in any case, in that whole situation, there were two dirt bags and his wife wasn't one of them. She proved that just by writing the "letter".

[This message edited by Tearsoflove at 8:36 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)]

"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson

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Member # 21183
Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)


This OW is a delusional, mean, sick bitch. I'm sorry you re-read that trashy letter.


Me BS 59
WH 58
Married 19 years
D-Day Nov 3, 2005
Child: Adopted Daughter 21 College Student now

I can understand being alone; but I hate being with someone and feeling lonely.

Posts: 6153 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
Member # 36519
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Yup, she's delusional. And morally bankrupt. Not really worthy of our time.

BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

Posts: 1061 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 39636
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Yup, she's delusional. And morally bankrupt. Not really worthy of our time.

Agreed. Almost feel sorry for her-she doesn't have the capacity to have a meaningful relationship(or even friendship) with anyone. sad.

Me: BW 42
Him: WH 47
Married 9 years-together 18
Dday: 6/17/2013 EA/PA(EA 1yr/PA 6mos-OW out of state)
status: Starting R 7/22/13

Posts: 151 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 32660
Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)

Yes. I just read it. She's a delusional idiot. What she didn't see when she was " stalking them" was after a year
of reconciliation a husband and wife who were going on with their lives and enjoying each other and she had nothing to do with that.

Me- BS (63)
Him-WS (63)
M- 42 yrs
dday#1 11/09, Dday #2 10/11 and many since
P.A.'s - too many to count
LTA's too many to count (one for 37 yrs)
escorts etc- way too many to count.
Broken heart- too many times to count.
R- Getting bet

Posts: 429 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
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