I had a first meeting off of OLD last night. We met at 5:30 for a drink. No attraction at all on my side. He was making "jokes" about moving in with me. I was hesitant even before the date, but I am trying to be more open-minded. He seemed rather negative in some of our e-mails.
I would have ended the date after about an hour, but I stayed almost two hours, to give him more time to overcome my first impression, as well as because I was meeting a friend at 8 to go on a lake cruise and I thought it was better to give him more time rather than to sit at a bar by myself.
Today, he sent me this message: "How was your boat ride last night? I think you picked a better night because with it only being in the 50's right now it would be too cold out on the lake for a day in Aug. I was curious what you thought about me and what you thought about last night?"
I responded: "Thanks for the message. It was nice to meet you last night, and it's too bad that we weren't a match. I wish you the best of luck in finding the right lady for you!"
He replies: "I thought we had some things I'm common to explore getting to know each other more but I guess you feel different. I realise we only where meeting for drinks but felt awkward you where leaving to go meet someone else right away. Good luck find that special someone but it sounds like you have a lot going on."
Totally blaming me! (I did make it clear that I was meeting girlfriends.) I should just ignore, right? Because I really want to write something like this:
"You have no idea how much I had to stifle the urge to pin you down and brush and floss your teeth. I'm not sure if those are permanent stains in between each of them or if it's food (it looked so much like food, but how could that be since it was all of them?), but I almost got physically sick when I thought about kissing you.
You were quite boring, told inappropriate stories, and your "jokes" weren't funny at all. Yes, I own a house. No, you are not moving in. Also, jokes usually are funny, not awkward statements about how sad your life is and how desperate you are for a girlfriend.
Don't blame your awkwardness on me having to leave early. I didn't tell you I had to leave until about 10 minutes before I did. And if I hadn't had other plans, I would have left an hour earlier. You are a giant loser, and your pathetic attempt to blame me for us not being a match is laughable."
Oh man, I really want to go on, but instead I will delete him from my e-mail and focus on the next date :)Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo