I compare that level of rugsweeping to someone who doesn't truly grieve a loss - like a death.
I knew a woman who never broke down, never stopped being the 'perfect hostess' when people came over to offer sympathy for her husband of 50 years when he died.
Then thing is, more often than not, it will come back on you. My friend just about lost her mind about 6 months later. Then, it wasn't 'normal' grieving.
I think if you don't work through it - there will be a price to pay in the end. That's why I'm in such a horrible place. We have never dealt with it - so, like someone else said - it is part of my everyday life - like dog shit on the bottom of your shoe - it never really truly comes off unless you wash it all away!"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy