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Deeply Scared
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Sad  Posted: 12:46 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I've been thinking about this a lot recently...not sure if it's because I'm going to be 50 in a few short months and my life is half over or what.

But do any of you feel the need to leave some sort of footprint behind? Maybe because I don't have kids I'm feeling like I haven't done anything truly exceptional with my life

I know I've impacted the lives of many by doing local volunteer work, being a great neighbor and friend. I'm kind to strangers and love animals. I've also done some pretty dangerous things...I can be a bit of a dare devil Which in itself is great, but what legacy will I leave behind?

Do any of you wonder about your end and what you will leave behind for people to remember you by?


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Maybe because I don't have kids I'm feeling like I haven't done anything truly exceptional with my life

Do you somehow feel that SI will not survive without you? If it was the only legacy that you and MH leave, than that's a pretty solid one. You'll live forever in internet search engines


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D-Day: 11/09/11
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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

All.the.time.

But you, how could YOU! Wonder that???

You created a haven that has saved lives and the sanity of tens of thousands of people! Not just the posters but the lurkers.

Your pebble in the pond has created ripples that impact the world. By healing so many that go on to be better parents, spouses, friends that then impact others to be the same.

You and MH have a legacy most could never dream up.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Tred...

That's not what I mean...LOL!! Not SI at all...but *me* the real person.

Don't we all have a plan laid out for us? Sometimes we know what the answers are and sometimes we never find out...I'm fine with that. I just want to make sure I've done something significant with the life I've been given.

Hey...I like your sig line

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"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I know that you are not joking in this, and I agree that even at 30 I realize that I have potentially lived half my life already.

However, I find it a little ironic that you are posting on a major footprint of your life.

Here at SI - the people you have helped and the way that you and your coherts keep it safe around here for all those involved in infidelity is huge.

I guess without knowing what you consider 'truely exceptional' I am at a loss at why what you do here, isn't considered that to you.

Something as simple as a new born baby's cry is exceptional, as is the simpleness of reaching 100 years old.

Oprah is exceptional, but so is an adult just learning to read.

I do not think that the world needs to know that you lived well, that you gave your time, that you LIVED - in order for you have a truely exceptional life.

But, if it really is bothering you. You have plenty of time to build a tomb, make arrangements to be mumified, so that in 2000 years, our future people will go through your tomb belongs and make up a story about you and how you lived.


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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I so understand this, DS.

This is what I've resolved. Often times the places that we have most impacted someone will often never be known to us. It may not can even be attributed directly to us (and not just unknown to us). But it's not any less important or impacting. In fact, some of those are the purest of all because they don't have the opportunity to be adulterated by our own ego (pride, self-serving, etc.) They remain wholly an act of service. kwim?

Allow them to be unadulterated. "Ego" is the only one asking this question. Let it go unanswered; the question/answer is not what matters.

(And I hope you understand/see that - though I certainly could - why I'm not citing my own list of personal examples to answer the question. - And, yes, I know that's not what you're asking for either. )


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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Pentup...

You're so sweet...thank you

Some things happened yesterday that really bothered me, I had a pretty bad day. Then all these thoughts started swirling around in my head (more so than most days) and I realized...what have I done with my life? I live in one itty bitty part of the universe and wonder if there is something I'm not seeing that I should be doing.

I don't know...


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I just want to make sure I've done something significant with the life I've been given.

You've done that through SI, though. I understand what you're saying, if you didn't have SI did you do what you're supposed to do, did you leave your mark? I think you did, I think SI was supposed to be your road, your journey.

At least that's just my understanding of your post.


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Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
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wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Er, yeah. I'm pretty baffled by the idea that you're worried about your footprint.

You and MH have left enormous footprints in the Wincing Family's lives through this place.

Without you, we probably don't save our marriage.

Without you, our kids likely don't have an intact home, with all the risks and dangers to development and success that entails.

Without you, there's no home for my wife's niece's kids (who just came to live with us) to come to.

I don't know about you, but from my perspective, that's almost 3 generations of lives directly impacted by your caring, grace, diligence, and effort.

I'd call that a pretty damned impressive footprint.


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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I'm feeling like I haven't done anything truly exceptional with my life.

Most of us know you only as DS and, perhaps "_____", so you've got almost total anonymity, but founding SI sort of defines 'exceptional'.

I'd like to do something worth remembering, but it's not a need.

Life is all illusion anyway.

Having said that, I felt suddenly relaxed and wise and, strangely, young on my 50th birthday. Wait until the day, and you'll see.

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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

what have I done with my life?

You've made people feel loved, cared for and welcome. You've touched people's hearts and lives in a way I've not seen anybody else do. You've inspired others to be better people.

You are somebody I'll never forget and will always adore.

Plus, you throw one hell of a party


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Oops, very sorry about the name - I thought is was OK because it was used publicly in an other arena.


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DDay - 12/2010
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I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Oops, very sorry about the name

I think DS now knows where to leave her footprint


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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Nah. I mean I'd like people to think of me fondly but I'll be dead so fuck it.

Thanks right now for all the work you guys do here.


"You have insulted my footwear."

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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Even with kids I wonder the same thing.

Like others, even if SI is gone when you're gone, you've made an impact. Without SI I would've handled the aftermath of the 2A differently, even though I posted on other boards looking for help. SI brought me to the truth, helped me seek a healthy mindset. That has been such a boon to me and my kids. You can even imagine. Even if we end up D because MrH won't do his part in healing this M, it will be with me in a healthy place. Yes, I did the work (with a great IC) but SI started me on the path.

It reminds me of the end of Schindler's List. He said something like one more...he should've tried to save even one more. He felt like he didn't make enough of an impact. Then they showed the real survivors and their descendants placing stones on his grave.

When you're gone DS, you'll have a mound of stones marking your footprint. Members and their families who have managed to survive infidelity and the debilitating pain it causes. Those who have managed to deal with the unimaginable because of the support they found here. You used your pain, your mistakes, your struggles and helped thousands of people; that has rippled out further than you can imagine.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

You all are making a lot of sense and I really appreciate your words of encouragement.

What happened yesterday and the events that unfolded really made me start to question my life and what I'm actually doing here. I don't want to feel this way...I don't like doubting and feeling sad....that's just not who I am, but I'm having a hard time shaking this off right now. Yesterday was a real eye-opener...unfortunately.

WAL...I'm always so touched when you post to me


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

DS, you have made an international footprint. If you need to mark the universe, well I don't know how you can do that.

I'm not sure what happened to you yesterday, but seriously you have changed lives, and probably saved a few with this site.

You rock.

I know your post was not an opportunity to gather compliments, but you truly have done a wonderful service here, and I think you need to pat yourself on the back. Other mods have come and gone because this is a HUGE job. I can only imagine what goes on in the dungeon, and behind the scenes with 40,000 broken people to manage.

We bow to your averageness.


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No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Approaching 30 I have been having the same thoughts. Then I read this. YOU don’t think you’ve made enough of a footprint? Well if that is the case, I might as well let up on myself now because I’m never going to touch a fraction of the people you have. This post is a nice dose of perspective. Life isn’t about the things you didn’t do, but the things you did. We all leave a footprint in someway and you will be leaving a wonderful one.

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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

You have positively affected THOUSANDS of lives. And those people you have helped will affect HUNDREDS of THOUSANDS of lives and so on. It's a pay it forward thing.

I have done the same as a physician to a smaller audience. I help others so that they then go on to help others. It's THE best thing we can do with our lives.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

((((DS)))) I can tell from your posts that whatever happened yesterday has shaken something loose. I hope you find the answers you're looking for.

But I also hope you are able to see what an incredible, indelible, and immeasurable mark you have made on the lives that have been touched by SI.


You can call me NIK

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- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

(((DS)))

Your footprint on this world is undeniable. I know sometimes things happen that shake us up, but I know you will find your footing again and realize what a remarkable and kind person you are and how many lives (and generations, as was mentioned) you have left your footprint on.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Thanks you guys

Its' funny, the other day I was on my morning walk and one of our neighbors joined me (I had to slow wayyyyyy down since he's in his late 70's) and we were chatting about all sorts of things and some how got on the subject of dying.

I told him that I'm not afraid of actually dying...its the process leading up to it that I'm scared of. So I always like to make sure the house is clean and organized because if I die suddenly I don't want anyone to think I was a bad housekeeper

He put his arm around me and said "dear DS, once you're gone the only thing that will matter is how much the ones left behind will always love you and miss you" then he hugged me and lit a cigarette

I suppose he's right along with all of you...I really shouldn't focus so much on what people will think of me but more of how they will remember me

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"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

First of all, how could you even question your footprint? This site is testimony to the lives that you and MH have lived. You're just a google away from immortality

What happened yesterday and the events that unfolded really made me start to question my life and what I'm actually doing here.

We all have moments like this in one form or another, but in the grand scheme of things, unless you're planning on coming back as a ghost to haunt us, I don't think you have to worry about what anyone thought of you because IMO, when you're gone, you're gone. That's why funerals are for those left behind, not the departed.

(Have I fully depressed you yet? )


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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I know this has turned into a DS love fest, which having met you and further being blessed to really get to "know" you over the years, I know was not your intent. True, you have shaped literally thousands of lives and probably even thousands more exponentially through your presence here. That right there is good stuff!

Beyond all that, in you I see a person who lives life to the fullest, has a true appreciation for the arts and people in general (even the ornery ones), and someone who stands up for the little guy. You champion other people’s causes, businesses and successes. As if that wasn’t enough, you’re a fab fur baby mommy, kick-ass decorator and you really know your wines. Seriously! What’s not to love?

All that said, I have often used Emerson’s “Success” as a measurement to life. Here you are – Enjoy!

“Success”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

To laugh often and much;

To win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children;

To earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;

To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others;

To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;

To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

This is to have succeeded.


AJ’s MOM

Edited to fix erratic spacing.

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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

has a true appreciation for the arts and people in general (even the ornery ones),



Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

But do any of you feel the need to leave some sort of footprint behind?

Maybe I'm strange, but I don't, really. However, I'm more than a decade older than you, DS, have had a couple of health scares recently, and what I DO find now is that:

"...at my back I always hear
Time's wingèd chariot hurrying near"

I am increasingly aware of the fact that I may not have many years left. Every month, it seems that yet another of my teenage heroes bites the dust and it's rather frightening. For I reflect upon all the things - large and small - that I intended to do in life, but have yet to get around to. And I have to accept the realization that now I probably never will achieve them. And I find THAT extremely depressing.

I tend to mark the time by garbage collections! As I gather things up and wheel the trashcans out, I often reflect on the fact that yet another week in my life has passed by in what seems like mere minutes. I really, really want to stop the clock, so that I can catch up with my dreams of yesteryear.

Although I am proud of some parts of my life, I know that if I'd put my mind to it, I could have achieved many more of the list of things I planned to do in my youth and have added to each year. But I've spent long years putting most of them on hold until later, when Life was less busy and I had more time.

And now, as the years accelerate in their passing, I realize that I have postponed them for too long. And THAT is what I absolutely regret.

One of my schoolfriends was a Catholic. I remember her telling me that one should pray in the morning, in case one died during the day, and again at night, in case one died during the night. I was very struck by this! And if I had my time over again, I think I would try to be far less of a procrastinator and force myself to work on anything I really wanted to achieve in life right now, rather than waiting until I had enough spare time and opportunity to do it really well. Because one day, usually unexpectedly, there will be no more time, or, indeed, opportunity.

I'm sorry - this is probably not in the least comforting. Apart from the fact that most people here are fortunate enough to have far more years to work on their goals than do I!

But as for that life footprint, DS, can you not see that with SI, you are creating footprints, both professional AND personal, of which Bigfoot himself would be unbelievably envious?!

Professionally, by creating and maintaining the web site itself. And personally, by making vast numbers of people's lives far happier than they'd have been without it. With this place, you're saving many a marriage; making it possible for those damaged by cheating to heal; giving those who are being ill-used to see that and go on to far happier lives; giving those who think there is no hope the strength to go on, or to escape their torment.... the list goes on and on. And don't forget that the aforementioned giant footprint needs space not only for the 40,000 plus members. But for all thee children of members, too! If enabling so many people to be happy isn't a personal achievement, then heaven help lesser mortals like me!

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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I think of this often DS. Somewhere recently my perspective shifted to "there's all this time!" to "time is winding down" . It's unnerving and I don't know when it happened.
Not 5 minutes ago I was walking across the lawn and noticed crab grass and thought "I absolutely will not spend precious moments of my life fretting about crab grass" .

I agree with the others. I think the biggest footprint is the impression you leave with the people that know and love you. Like me

Maybe just take a good stock of your priorities, the things that are really truly important to you, and make sure you are directing way more energy at them than anything else? I think that's the best way to feel like our lives mattered. Don't focus on the proverbial crab grass I guess. Enrich your friendships, spend your time with your loved ones, ask your neighbours to tell you more about their history. Just stuff that matters.

ETA) I was watching my dad and my son stand and fish off the dock at the cottage last week and thought .. THIS. This is what matters. I am just going to try and *be* in those moments. It's helping.

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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

If you haven't already, read "The Five People You Meet in Heaven" by Mitch Albom, this book touched me deeply and may help you as well. Sometimes you do not know the lives you have touched in a roundabout way.


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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

You all are just simply amazing...really and truly...amazing people

I completely understand now why so many people turn to you for comfort...you have no idea how much better I feel because of you all, right now

AJ...you're not going to believe this, but that was one of my mothers favorites of Ralph Waldo Emerson. In fact, when MH was designing her memorial card for her funeral, I was tossed between that one and another favorite of hers by Maya Angelou...it was about sitting still on a park bench and observing nature...I chose that one because of my mothers love of all creatures

Anyway...I do feel better because all of you. You lifted me up I'm still upset about yesterday as it was quite a scare but I have a better perspective and grip on how I can keep my life going in the direction I want it to.

Thank you again to all that took the time to help me...I really appreciate it. Your kindness I will hold close to my heart


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

(((DS)))

I didn't read all the replies, but gosh you and everyone of us has a great footprint to leave behind whether we realize it or not. You stated yourself all the things you are proud of and look at the community you and MH created here. I've been here for 12 years and its still going strong!! What an accomplishment. There is no other board like this one, with such caring people.

Maybe you can start a video journal of everything you did and want to say so that you can leave it with a friend or relative to share with generations to come. Maybe that will be sort of signature stamp you can put on tape.

Very thought provoking DS.

Love ya.

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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I agree with all the others DS. SI is a remarkable footprint to leave on the world. Because of you and MH, I was able (and willing) to look at myself and fix what was broken, help my H heal and build a stronger M. Because of this site we were able to help our DD when she was going through it - because we were able to give her advice that *works*. And just last night my H was able to help a total stranger on FB who just started navigating the sh*tstorm (hopefully he found his way here).

As someone else said, you and MH took a painful, devastating experience, turned it around and helped literally tens of *thousands* of people. I don't think too many people can say that. You and MH have created something as unique as the Mona Lida or a newborn baby. That's something to be proud of and will definately leave a large footprint.


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WW (me) - 49


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Hmmm... it seems nobody has asked, yet, WHAT happened yesterday, DS??

(((DS)))


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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Because of infidelity I think I know understand how someone can take their own life. Because of SI I have been able to recognize my issues, work through some of this pain and start to heal. SI is here because of you and MH. I am only one man but I know I contribute in a positive way in the lives of my family and friends. I don’t know if I or someone I have touched will do great things, but I am pretty sure they will. Thousands of others are like me in that SI has helped them live a meaningful life and touch others in a meaningful way. DH you certainly have – thank you. I’m not sure I will ever leave a footprint as big as the toe in your footprint.


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unfound
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I think people can leave their footprint, legacy or impression in ways that might seem insignificant to them, but are invaluable to others.

It's in not just big exposed acts, but small, fleeting ones.

A kind word, a smile, acknowledgment of another human being or life.

Of course I hope my own footprint is left on my children and their children and their children...but to think that long term out can be overwhelming for me. So I do what I can, in the now, in the moment and hope that my legacy is is just that: a brief moment that may be gone in the blink of an eye, or one that continues on, either passed on from me or through me.


"be kinder than necessary..."

I'm sure your 70 year old neighbor has little DH footprints that he carries with him. That in of itself is quite a nice legacy .



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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

DS my opinion is this: when people speak or think of you, if its with a smile and good feelings then youve left gour mark.


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

TIKY...

WHAT happened yesterday, DS??

We've been getting some pretty serious death threats. Serious enough to warrant the police coming over yesterday and interviewing us, taking our statements and filing a case.

We had to explain that we're an NPO running a support website and the sheriff says "whats the name of the site?" and when I told him he said "you and your husband created it? Why?" and I just blurted out "because I cheated" omg

And he said "I've been through it myself" I'm pretty sure he meant he had been cheated on because he kept walking over to my laptop and would say things like "can I see the site again?" "What's the name of it?"

So, that's what happened. It just kind of solidified that all we've been through is still tailing behind me.

Anyway I don't want to turn this into an infidelity issue since we're in OT...it's still my issue of wanting to leave a good footprint of my life.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Oh. My. GOD!!!

(((DS & MH)))

Can you trace them?? Do you know WHO is threatening you??

That just makes me so mad!


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

***waving Hi to our new cop member***


Take up your space (and do it well).

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

@AN!! He was super nice too

Do you know WHO is threatening you??

Yes, we know who it is but I don't think I should say much more publicly about it, because I'm confident this person is reading here.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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unfound
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I'm sorry ((DS and MH)). You don't deserve that kind of bologna.

[This message edited by unfound at 7:09 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)]


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Clarrissa
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

You and MH getting death threats?? Just goes to show you there are some *seriously* screwed up people in this world.


(((DS & MH)))


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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Hole-E sh!t. I'm so sorry. Do you need an enforcer


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Yes, we know who it is but I don't think I should say much more publicly about it, because I'm confident this person is reading here
. I realized that after I posted.

It's complete bullshit, nobody deserves to be treated that way, and I'm so sorry you are going through this.


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deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

OMG, I'm so sorry for what you're going thru.

I'm older than you, so it'll probably be what you remember about me.

But every single day I think about how lucky I am to have such a wonderful friend and how much you mean to me. You have made a HUGE impact on my life and I really don't know where I would be without you and this site.

What you will leave behind someday is thousands upon thousands of grateful people.


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Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

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booger bear
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Content  Posted: 7:22 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

But do any of you feel the need to leave some sort of footprint behind? Maybe because I don't have kids I'm feeling like I haven't done anything truly exceptional with my life

This ... And ad to that ... D'ed, I'm an LPN a broke in debt one at that. I literally have nothing to show for my 38 yrs alive ... and when my parents, sister and me all pass away, that's it our family is done. No bio kids for either me or my sis.

Sure I may touch some patients lives here or there ... I am kind and giving to animals and those less fortunate than I. But really ... nothing. I don't want to be president nothing like that ...

I don't know how to tell you what a huge foot print you have left on the lives of many DS ... This place is far more than you ever imagined, and has reached/touched so many ... The foot prints may be small because they are one life ... but ad them together and it is astounding the print you have left. A permanent carved out one, for others to follow.

And if your looking to adopt I'm available ...


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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

You've done more than help others. You've given us a way for us to help others. Speaking for myself I know my own healing would not be where it's at today if not for SI. It wasn't just the support I received but the support I was able to provide. Being able to take what I've been through and use it to help others was positive and constructive.

So if you're looking for footprints then realize you've left them all over the members of SI.

Hmmmm...

Ok, maybe that doesn't sound as flattering as it was intended but you get the picture.

[This message edited by Brandon808 at 7:37 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)]


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D final 8/2012

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I was going to PM you because I didn't want to come off all brown nosey in public but fuck it -

I know how hard it is to view ourselves objectively and see good. I've got a backpack full of guilt and it keeps me from accepting compliments and positivity way more often than I should.

That being said, I'm still surprised that you can't see all the good you do for the world around you and what a legacy you are leaving by the place you have created here and the massive part of your life and heart you have put into helping people heal.

There's the butterfly effect, and then there's the 40,000 butterflies effect. If the interwebs evaporated tomorrow you would still have helped thousands of people realize that life is worth living - that relationships are worth having - that not giving up is a worthy and amazing path.

And this is just a PART of what you do. You show kindness and generosity is so many other aspects of your life - the effects of which will surely continue to pay it forward in ways you cannot see or count.

I honest to goodness love you, DS. I'm a better mom to my Vrazz because you and MH built this house and gave me a place to vent my crazy and know that I'm not alone.

We're all your kids. xoxo


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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I often wonder if I've made a difference.

You DS and MH have made a real difference in the lives of so many people.

I hope the police quickly stop whoever is harassing you.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

t/j:

I know how hard it is to view ourselves objectively and see good. I've got a backpack full of guilt and it keeps me from accepting compliments and positivity way more often than I should.

This is SO true for me!!!

end t/j


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry you have to deal with all that drama! But, ya know...the good thing about running a website viewed all over the world is that you have people behind you in all sorts of lines of work. I'm sure someone on here who lives in Jersey has an "uncle" who runs a "garbage disposal" business that can offer his "services." Probably shouldn't have said that on the Internet....I mean....all is on the up and up in Jersey!!!

Seriously though, I think I get what you mean. Even though I have plenty of people who see my worth and could tell me I was needed, I still knew it would last for that moment, they would go home, and something else would have their attention instead. What is going to last? Really...nothing. My kids need me, but not always. My WH needs me, but not always. My parents love me, but I'm sure I'm not on my dad's mind when he is fishing. I guess self worth is where it's at. You never leave you. And I've learned as a teacher that you can't touch lives all the times. It's moments. That's what you get. Reminds me of Seasons of Love from Rent:


Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundred twenty-five thousand moments so dear
Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure, measure a year?

In daylights, in sunsets
In midnights, in cups of coffee
In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife
In five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure, a year in the life?

How about love?
How about love?
How about love?
Measure in love

Seasons of love
Seasons of love

Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
Five hundred twenty-five thousand journeys to plan
Five hundred twenty-five thousand six hundred minutes
How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?

In truths that she learned
Or in times that he cried
In bridges he burned
Or the way that she died

It's time now, to sing out
Though the story never ends
Let's celebrate
Remember a year in the life of friends

Remember the love
(Oh, you got to, you got to remember the love)
Remember the love
(You know that life is a gift from up above)
Remember the love
(Share love, give love, spread love)
Measure in love
(Measure, measure your life in love)

Seasons of love
Seasons of love
(Measure your life, measure you life in love)


[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 7:54 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)]


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WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Man, somebody was REALLY pissed about all those printed emails.


"You have insulted my footwear."

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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Well... I wrote a book. Does that count?


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Man, somebody was REALLY pissed about all those printed emails.

No shit. Exposure always brings in the nuts who are looking for their chance to be on the evening news.

DS, we can saddle up the Marble Collectors whenever you need us. I know you read that thread, and we won't let you down. I can hear the theme music playing now


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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

We're all your kids. xoxo
Amen.


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- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

We're all your kids. xoxo

Exactly. And we'll be forever grateful that you opened your heart to all of us. Thank you so much.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

but what legacy will I leave behind?

You will leave behind one that says you are an incredibly loving and caring person. You take so much crap from people (related to this site), but you keep this site going. That in itself is a legacy


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
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Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

If you want to know what kind of legacy you've left behind, you can ask our DD. She knows about the troubles we've had, she knows about this forum, and she knows what it has done for her. I'd be glad to let you talk to her. Who knows... maybe you'll meet us and her, someday.

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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

((((DS)))) I am a few years ahead of you in age...and in approaching my Sr. years, I've also wondered many times 'what kind of footprint will I leave behind'?

I see you as having left a HUGE, wonderful, giving, and very loving footprint through the body of SI. You have been instrumental through your site in saving lives, saving sanity, helping those who have fallen to get back up and keep going. I could go on and on about the great things you have done. It is awesome to realize that you have reached millions of people, most of whom you will never know, through this site!!! You've done great sister!

I am so distressed to hear about the threats against you and your husband. That tears me up inside and I've never even met you, though I feel that I 'know' you. God bless you, I am keeping you both in my prayers. ((((DS & MH)))).


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I was going to PM you because I didn't want to come off all brown nosey in public but fuck it -

Thanks Jrazz, so ditto that^

DS,

I too, see the irony of posting that question on this forum. It seems so obvious but I guess it isn't or you would not have posted.

I hear what you say about you blurted out the "because I cheated" explanation. Around these parts we call that a filter lapse. But be clear in this: that statement doesn't define you. It might define the moment that led to all of this, but THIS community is a bigger definition of what you have done, what you leave behind.

If the site closed tomorrow (God forbid!) you would still leave the legacy of the work done and the lives touched. And the friendships created. I have found dear dear friends here that I would otherwise have missed.

Oprah has a legacy. I have watched her show and have read her magazine. But I sure don't feel like I "know" her.

Not only is this site here day after day, but you are as well. You are a known personality, and you have carefully cultivated an atmosphere of kindness, caring, generosity, forgiveness, and grace. All while interspersed with some of the most colorful language I have seen anywhere on the planet!

I am a parent. I have influence on those 2. I am a teacher. I reach a few handful of children through the classroom. I actually feel like I have as much of a footprint here as "caregiver" as I do anywhere else in my life. And you made that possible!

I think it is down right fitting that this community has been able to "give back" when you were feeling low.

(((DS))) and prayers.


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FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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peridot
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Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

I hope the police get whoever is threatening you. So sorry that you are going through that.

Like every one else has already said, you have left your footprint here on SI. What you two have done here is amazing.

I don't know where I'd be today if it weren't for SI.

Thank you for giving us SI.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

You have done something exceptional. When I think of the horrible mistakes I might have made and how I might have hurt my children if I had not had SI and simply lashed out blindly and angrily without the support and help of this site...

This is your legacy. Be proud.


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Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

So sorry for your threats..DS and MH, you have shown others that you can get beyond infidelity and get back the life you once had...

For someone to threaten you and MH that is just awful...

You and MH have a wonderful footprint and we are all your children...

I came here after my divorce in 2006..I was 5 yrs out when I was told about you..I wish I had known about your Site before...It would have helped me so much to get beyond the hell my XH put me through at that time...

I have posted on and off..Have made a few cherished friends along the way...You don't know how much you mean to me and all your other children...

What is bad is, I am older than you and I will never leave the footprint that you have....

I give my time donating platelets to cancer patients and doing taxes for free with AARP..I believe in the golden rule...And I believe in KARMA...What goes around comes around...

I have lived to see some of that happen...So hang in there and know that you and MH are loved by many.....


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poopylala
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Tsol25 told me about what happened and I'm absolutely outraged that anyone would even consider some ridiculous stunt like this.

DS, I know I'm really young still, but even I wonder about my impact and the value of the days I spend on this planet. The way I see it is my goal is to help people- whether that is by being the ear they needed for a serious vent or by holding their hand through joyous and sorrowful moments in life.

In fact, it can even be as simple as what I did today- I work at a kids performing arts camp and a boy asked me a question about science (I have a science degree but love teaching dance). I answered him in a way he could understand and tonight, I drew up a whole thing on the topic to help him further understand it. It's not curing cancer or fixing our economy, but it is showing he matters and his curiosity is definitely respected. That can make or break a childhood (and the rest of their life) because my dad was sick of my asking questions but my mom encouraged it. I felt validated and understood by my mom.

All I did was answer a kid's question. We don't often realize the impact of our existence to others. You have touched more people, inside and outside of SI, than you realize. It's easy to minimize that impact but it still exists.

PS- I can be your child


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FWBF (him)- 24
Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

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"To err is human.
To forgive,
divine"


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DragnHeart
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

***waving Hi to our new cop member***

That was my first thought to do when I read about it. But ya got to it first

I am turning 37 this year. Not old, not really young. Yes I have kids but I constantly fear that my affect on them is only to screw them up

I have thought about my "footprint" ever since I was young. I actually fear that NO one would show up to my funeral. My paternal grandmother passed and 90% of the people at her funeral were 20 or younger. She left a huge footprint on many of my and my brothers friends. She was "grandma" to all. That's legacy.

For me, well what will people remember? Don't know. But staring up at the stars a few nights ago watching a meteor shower I couldn't help but feel "wow, I am really insignificant in the grand universe".

I also thought "I wonder if there's someone on another planet out there staring up at the stars thinking the same thing right now?".

Your legacy is undeniable! As everyone has said this site alone, whether we know you both in person or not!!!, has made such a profound difference in so many lives.

Your footprints are set in concrete.


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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

Well, I can honestly say that if it wasn't for you and MH and SI, my daughter would not have been born because my WS and I would not have reconciled. So every footprint she makes has a little of you in it - and I know she isn't the only SI baby!


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you to everyone that lifted me up yesterday...I really appreciate all your kindness and words of comfort

I'm doing much better today...no need to respond but I didn't want anyone to think I didn't appreciate their help


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I am now imagining DS's 450,000th post in 2033, saying: 'Gee, I'm about to turn 70, and I don't feel old.'

On that same day, MH unveils the Stereophile skin....


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, August 15th (Thursday)


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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UnexpectedSong
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, August 16th (Friday)

I don't think about my footprint at all. I have family and friends. I have seen 2 out of the 3 fantasy places I have dreamed of. I have learned. I have listened to music.

My "footprint" is that I have lived and loved.


WW(SA)
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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, August 16th (Friday)

It hurts my heart that you don't see immediately what a HUGE footprint that you - and MH - have....

((((DS))))


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***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I am now imagining DS's 450,000th post in 2033, saying: 'Gee, I'm about to turn 70, and I don't feel old.'

2033!?



"You have insulted my footwear."

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uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, August 17th (Saturday)


Well... I wrote a book. Does that count?

After slogging through only two pages of the steaming garbage "50 Shades Of Grey", no.

May need electro shock therapy to evict that 5 minute waste dump.

Seriously, pretty cool. Anyone that can do that is in my admiration circle. I have to take adderall to get through Chilton's manuals and those have pictures.

DS, you've left behind a huge footprint even if you were beamed up tomorrow. This site is just one of the amazing legacies you have, I'm certain. Death threats are no joke and I'm sure you're both quite shaken. I'm so sorry. 


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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bbee
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Well, I can't say anything that folks haven't said already, except that I love you, DS! (And not in a creepy way.)


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


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