so went to the therapy session.
had to go through all the family history stuff, affair stuff etc etc. and what we want to get out of this.. so he want on for his concerns on DDs behaviour. I said i was there to learn to be better parent and to see what is epxtected/ normal at this age and how to help DD to grow :)
and omg - she saw through him pretty quickly.
and explained that these meldowns and frustrations are very normal for her age - this is maturing process.
And that HE should be learning from DD (rather then trying to prevent those) to express frustrations and push back rather then keep it in and then do serious mess. That DD does not do serious mess just because she is healthily expressing herself in controry to him and that is a good thing..
i was giggling (inside of course) for a long time..
so, she will see us after few weeks to see if his 'concerns' persist - and thinks she does not need to see DD, as she sounds like well adjusted and succesful kid :)
i am so glad it is all so visible for 3rd party!
And, i now also understood his motive.
he asked whether it is good for DD to 3 of use to spend time togteher (I have always refused, in order not to give false hopes to DD)... and he has been asking quite a bit for it..