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User Topic: What do you love...
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

about your BS?

My list today:

His ability to make anyone, regardless of ones occupation or class, feel accepted and appreciated.

His quirky sense of humor. Most people wouldn't understand it or think it's funny. But he makes me laugh. And we have fun.

How he isn't ashamed to watch sappy Jane Austen movies with me on his days off.

His strength. How he is able to take the pressure of providing for our family daily, plus handle the emotional trauma of FOO and my As is beyond me. I can see the exhaustion in his eyes, yet he marches on.

The way he smells when we go on dates. That cocktail of cologne mixed with his skin? Fragrance of the gods. *swoon*

His willingness to work on this relationship with me. Lord knows it would have been much easier for him to cut his losses and walk away. Yet here he is.

How he allowed me to download Avocado on both our phones, promptly sent me hugs and kisses thru it, and continues to do so daily. Corny? Maybe. We love it.

His integrity. Nuff said.

Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6291 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Member # 37362
Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

The twinkle in his eyes ( I did not realize how much I loved it until it disappeared afte Dday )

His childish charm

The way he gets excited about every small thing

His patience

The way he laughs uncontrollably at his own PJs (I don’t really like his PJs but I love the way he enjoys them)

WW: 28 (ME)
BH: 28 (SI profile: CrappyLife)
D-Day- 15/10/12

Posts: 334 | Registered: Nov 2012
Member # 24849
Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

His humor
His smile
His calm demeanor
He loves me
His patience
His intelligence
His wit
He is the master of random facts - ask him anything about anything and he likely knows the answer
His perseverance
He touches me any chance he gets
His commitment to our relationship and family

FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 5972 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
Member # 37538
Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

Her twisted sense of humor.

Her smile.

Her curvy, womanly figure.

Her curry chicken.

Her tolerance for and weird appreciation of my dorky hobbies.

Her knowledge of Simpson trivia and quotes.

Her intelligence.

Her sense of duty.

Her singing voice.

... Just to name a few.

I know we're worth it.
WH (Me-33)
BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

Posts: 227 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: New Jersey
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

Her unselfishness when it comes to wanting to make others happy.

Her soft and subtle curves.

Her uncanny ability to brew the perfect pot of coffee.

Her eyes...which before were electric and life and vibrancy, yet now are clouded and filled with sadness instead.

Posts: 14 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

-His unconditional love for me
-His ability to make me laugh even when I don't want to.
-His #1 priority is to provide for our family and make me happy
-His strength
-His childish, fun side

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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, August 15th (Thursday)

The short list:

I Love her huge eyes, especially when she smiles.

I Love her huge breasts too, they make me smile.

I Love the way the corner of her mouth smiles in the morning when she is barely awake and I kiss her.

I Love her wicked sense of humor.

I Love seeing the excitement in her face when she sees wildlife on our nature outings and in the backyard.

I Love how Freaking Adorable she is.

I Love her strength.

I Love how hard she tries in our relationship.

(edited for poor spelling)

[This message edited by lostmylight55 at 12:33 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

-his body and the way it feels when I snuggle next to him.

-the way he thinks himself through a crisis... he's a strategizer. I'm impulsive.

-he's a financial genius

-his hair -a full head of blonde hair at age 51, but the beard is getting grey and I think it's cute.

-how our DDs have him wrapped around their fingers - still, at age 24.

-when he folds clothes he folds my underwear, even though I've told him many times to just throw them in the drawer... he still folds them. ha!

-how he loads the dishwasher. it has to be done with mathematical precision. I just gave up because he would reload it anyway. So, I NEVER have to do that job!

-when we have pets he cleans up after them because he still misses the "chores" he had when he grew up on a farm.

[This message edited by rachelc at 12:20 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.

Posts: 5249 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
Member # 39665
Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Her ability to see the good in me, and to believe in me, even when I have been unable to do either of those things for myself, for her, and for us.

Her brains.

Her generosity.

Her unconditional love.

Her strength.

Her patience.

Her selflessness.

Her class.

Her ability to truly forgive ("Forgiveness isn't for wimps")

Her cooking.

Her laugh.

Her heart.

Oh, and those long slender legs supporting the tall beautiful drink of water that is her...capped off by intelligent, deep blue pools for eyes...and an easy smile that lights up the world around her.


Oh, and she watches sappy Jane Austen movies with me, though I draw the line at her requests for me to put on a white dress shirt, dive into a murky pond, and emerge matted and wet like Colin Firth in the BBC's legendary 1995 "Pride & Prejudice".

2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.

Posts: 403 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

- His smile
- His ability to make me smile everyday
- His beautiful dimples
- His sense of humour
- His kindness
- His loving eyes
- How wonderful a Daddy he is
- And an equally amazing husband
- His thoughtfulness
- How he makes me feel safe
- His big hands
- His tummy (my, I love his tummy!)
- His attitude to life
- That he is my best friend
- How he puts my feelings before his own
- His cute laugh
- His even cuter squeaky voice when he adds emphasis to his words
- How handsome he is
- How gentle he is
- That he tells me he loves me everyday
- His cup of tea making
- His love for films
- His gentle touch
- How he spends so much time trying to think of ways to make me smile
- How I believe he is my one true love and always will be

I could go on and on forever, and I intend to, but I'll keep that between him and I for fear of boring you guys

Sometimes I just forget
Say things I might regret
It breaks my heart to see you crying
It breaks my heart to see you crying
I don't wanna lose you
I could never make it alone

C x

Posts: 9 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Yorkshire
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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

His smile
His intelligence
His humor
His sweetness
His scent
His kindness
His sense of duty
His adventurousness
His singing
His silliness
His insistence on being a gentleman and always treating me like a lady
So much more...

FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️

Posts: 1499 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Member # 36446
Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Her willingness to work at R
Her kind heart
Her honesty
Her body
Her smile
Her sense of humour
How trustworthy she is
How genuine she is
How supportive she is
Her inquisitive nature

Me: WH 33
Wife: BS 32 (love of my life)
DD 4
Dday1: 12/03/12 and a number of others until 15/04/13, disgusted in myself

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Member # 39624
Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

This is an excellent thread idea!

Her voice. It's beyond beautiful. I love that it's the first and last thing I hear every day.

Her intellect. It is stunning how smart she is. Know that feeling you get when you're next to a generator? That thrumming energy? That's what it's like watching her think.

Her optimism. She sees the best in everyone and every situation. The exact opposite of what I've spent most of my time doing. I am endlessly grateful that she helps me to see the beauty in everything.

Her beauty. She's ridiculously gorgeous. There are times (S.D. beach) that I literally can see nothing else but her and am left stunned and breathless by how lovely she is. How lucky I am.

Watching her interact with our kids is a thing of glory. She's so natural, so effortless in everything she does. She can win anyone over with ridiculous ease.

The connections she makes are lightning quick. She'll often predict things before they happen. Being near her is like being near a high energy reactor. That thrumming power is exactly the same.

Her openness of perspective. This bears some explaining: She questions everything but does it without any sort of agenda or bias for her own stake in it. This humility allows her to make those connections that I mentioned. Its something I greatly admire and struggle to imitate.

As freely as she accepts information, sifting it like a gold rush miner, she gives it without seeking the implant a personal agenda. It's something so rare that for a long time I couldn't (or rather was to arrogant to) accept it. It has been such a blessing to the lives of everyone around her.

Seeing her apply her skills to anything she sets her mind to. She always excels at everything she does.

Her love for me. I am humbled and amazed by the depths of her love for me. She proves this every day through her words and actions. I am so grateful for her. Even through all of this I often find her comforting me.

She is a wonderful, amazing person. I could not be happier than when I am with her.

[This message edited by Tesseract at 8:51 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Literally lol'd JD. BTW, that's the best P&P adaption. Just finished Persuasion. That was interesting.

Love reading everyone's list and the standard "These are just a few" disclaimers.

Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6291 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

His thoughtfulness
His good memory for little details that make things special
His sense of humor
When he affectionately moos at me or our son
His kindness when he makes us food
His thoughtfulness for cleaning the room almost every day without hesitation
His interesting mind
His storytelling
His amazing green eyes
His love of comics
His understanding and making of obscure comic, movie, or video game references
His love of adventure and making trips fun
His willingness to learn new things
His nurturing nature, toward the cats and toward my Nana
His patience (sometimes and in certain areas - inspiring)
His warmth when we snuggle
His teamwork (when he's into it, it's one of the best feelings)
His patience in understanding others, whether they're having a bad day or are disabled too
His consideration for others
Did I mention his creative thinking? I love his mind.
His teasing

Probably a lot more... Hard to describe. He's just special.

ETA: Oh yeah, definitely his cologne! Didn't realize how much of a turn on cologne is until he came into my life.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 6:20 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

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Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3905 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Literally lol'd JD. BTW, that's the best P&P adaption. Just finished Persuasion. That was interesting.

Jane Austen is worth a quick t/j. The 1996 made for TV "Emma" with Kate Beckinsale and Mark Strong is really good. His proposal scene is so damn romantic. And she can say more with a turned up eyebrow or lip flutter than many actresses can with their own entire bodies, and their body double's bodies.

There's a great book about the making of the P&P adaptation which goes into the casting, the production, set design and location choices, the dialogue, the dance scenes, etc. etc. Jennifer Ehle was a controversial choice, and Colin StudFirth was a nearly unknown who couldn't ride. He, btw, was on Leno once and I have rarely seen such a self effacing, truly funny dude. Just spun some great stories, funny as heck, about moving into a new home in London, and getting locked out in the backyard naked and the neighbor he's never met's cat coming over, and the neighbor yelling "here, kitty, kitty". And the cat going "Meow, meow" from Firth's side of the fence...well, you get the picture. But the book is great, really interesting. Amazing what they put into that production.

And how about this for putting it all on the line, for love. Mr. Darcy, on like fourth down and 42, down 6 points with the Super Bowl on the line, busts out to Miss Bennett:

"You are too generous to trifle with me. If your feelings are what they were last April (Note: when she rejected a prideful and prejudiced marriage proposal from Darcy) you must tell me so at once. My affections and wishes are unchanged. (Pause) But one word from you will silence me on this subject forever".

Spoiler Alert: He marries the girl.

End t/j

2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.

Posts: 403 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
Member # 38348
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I love her smile.
I love her laugh.
I love the sense of humor she has.
I love her ability to perform titration chemistry whilst improvising J.S. Bach ... and then make a fart joke.
I love her tenacity and drive to get things done when she has a mind to.
I love how well-read and cultured she is.
I love her insight, her intellect, and her intuition.
I love her morals and her logic.

Me: fWS 32
Her: BS 35 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 4yo
M: 7 years
DDays: 2012/11/14, 2013/02/05, 2013/03/09
"Everything that happens now is happening 'now.'"
"What happened to 'then'?"
"We passed 'then.'"

Posts: 801 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
Member # 29971
Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

That he is him and nobody else. I love that no one else gets to know him and love him like I do. I love that he is himself always. I love him for who he is, what he's done and whatever he will do. I love him for being our sons best role-model for being a husband, a father and a man. I love him because he exists. I love him because he is him and nobody else.

[This message edited by stilllovinghim at 10:35 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]

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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Her smile and her laughter (two things I haven't seen nearly as much of since dday, which is a true shame)
Her strength
Her willingness to do what's best for us even when it's so much harder
Her dedication and loyalty
Her gorgeous eyes
Her smooth legs
The way she smells when I climb into bed with her
The look in here eyes when I tell her she's beautiful
The way she makes me laugh
The way she raises our children
Her thoughtfulness
Her grace
The way she hold me accountable to the standards I left behind for so long
Her patience with me in life and in the kitchen
Her beauty
Her love for our family
Her everything

Me - 34 - Wayward
Her - 37 - Betrayed (smittennomore)
Two kids
D-Day: 12.19.12

2 Year Physical & Emotional Affair (Co-Worker)

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Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Tesseract - does she know you feel this way? That was pretty in depth. print this off and give it to her, maybe??

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

The conditions we face do not define us. They remind us of who we are and who we want to be.

Posts: 5249 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, August 16th (Friday)

The small list

Her beautiful strawberry blond hair
Her Smell
Her touch
Her love for helping others
Her ability to keep a house full of little girls happy
Her undying love for me (which I do not deserve)
Her chicken broccoli casserole
Her Amazing Body
Her Amazing rear-end
Her Amazing Breasts
Most of all, The smile and hug I receive when I walk through the door at the end of my work day.

Married 13yrs
DD July 13,2013
6 month EA 2-ONS

Posts: 23 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Phx
Member # 37775
Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I love his eyes
I love his touch
I love his strength
I love his drive to succeed
I love his intelligence
I love his sense of humor
I love when he holds me
I love cuddling up to him at night
I love making love to him
I love his cooking
I love watching him dance
I love holding hands with him
I love kissing him
I love his home fried potatoes
I love playing golf with him
I love that he puts our family first
I love making plans with him
I love that he believes in us

BH Tred
M 16yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people

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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, August 16th (Friday)

The effort she's making to understand and forgive me
Her smile (on the rare occasions when I see it genuinely come out now)
Her touch
Her referring to me as "Her Steve" even though its been extremely hat on her some days
The way she talks with her hands
The way she feels when I hold her in bed at night
The way I feel when I wake up in the morning next to her and just look at her
The curves of her body (especially the booty)
Her long shapely legs
The scar on her stomach (from a previous surgery)
The feel of her hand when we hold hands
Taking showers together
The sound of her voice (when she's really happy...this is something I miss a lot now and understandably so)
The excitement she gets sometimes just looking at me
The way she likes to spout random science facts
The fact that we could be perfectly content lying in bed and watching Netflix
Her sense of humor and the ways we can make each other laugh.
The way her hair curls on humid days

The list goes on and on. But these are the first things that come to mind. I have learned to appreciate these more and more every day because at any day, she can take them away by asking me to leave. I am so lucky that she gives me one more day. I try to focus on these now when we go through a trigger. We haven't reconciled, but I will keep working towards it for all the reasons above and more!

Me: FWH 34
Her: 31 and deserving much better than I've given her (CCW82)
Married 4 years, together 6 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
"Don't give up. You're married until you're not. You never know what tomorrow will bring."

Posts: 121 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Dallas
Member # 38336
Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Here are a few reasons I love my BH, in no particular order:

I love that he is not giving up on me and working so hard with me in therapy.
I love his smile.
I love the lines by his eyes (his krinkles).
I love his laugh - it's infectious.
I love his ability to debate a topic with insight and ease.
I love the way he makes our house and yard so beautiful.
I love the nicknames he calls me and our silly little language.
I love the way he protects me and makes me feel safe.
I love way he comforts me when I've had emotional breakdowns.
I love his goofiness.
I love our adventures together.
I love riding bikes with him.
I love laying in bed with him watching our favorite shows together.
I love our Twilight Zone marathons.
I love that he thinks I'm beautiful and tells me all the time, even when I don't think it.
I love that even though he likes pickles, he ALWAYS gives me his.
I love how it feels when he holds me.
I love that he's making future plans for us.
I love how he's an amazing cat daddy! (Meow)
I love the tiny kisses he gives me on my face.
I love his intelligence.
I love that he loves me, even though I feel like I don't deserve it.
I love how much he loves his family.
I love running my fingers through the hairs on his chest while I'm resting my head on his shoulder.
I love how he'll drive when I'm afraid to - long trips, snow, etc.
I love that he cares about me.
I love drinking new beers with him. (We're going to start brewing together)
I love going out to eat with him.
I love when we reminisce about all of our adventures and happy moments.
I love how he smells.
I love when he does little things for me, like filling my water bottle so I don't have it get out of bed to do it.
I love camping with him.

And I agree with 1DumbHusband on the following (substituting the shes for hes):

The list goes on and on. But these are the first things that come to mind. I have learned to appreciate these more and more every day because at any day, she can take them away by asking me to leave. I am so lucky that she gives me one more day. I try to focus on these now when we go through a trigger. We haven't reconciled, but I will keep working towards it for all the reasons above and more!

[This message edited by pizzalover at 9:32 PM, August 16th (Friday)]

Trying to rebuild each day

Me - WW 39
Him - BH 40 (mpb1974)
2 Furrbabies - sweet cats

Met - 8/13/99
Started dating - 9/11/99
Moved in together - 3/03
Engaged - 6/5/09
Married - 8/21/10
D-Day - 1/24/13
Affair started 5/09

Posts: 487 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 36345
Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

There are many many things I love about my husband and I only wish that I realized what I had before I did this. But nonetheless, these are just a few things I love about my husband.

I love the way he looks at me
I love his smell
I love his body
I love how feeling his touch makes me feel safe
I love his determination
I love the cuddling we do
I love how we can still hold each other like when we first started dating
I love how playful he still is
I love being able to talk to him about anything and he always knows what to say to help me
I love how he can always make me smile even on days that I don't want to
I love his sense of humour
I love how he will sit and listen to me talk for hours and not get bored
I love how he is still interested in me
I love how his laugh just lightens up a room
I love how fantastic he is with our kids
I love his ability to instant calm down our son with the sound of his voice
I love the way he looks into my eyes with such passion when we are making love
I love how he can make a conversation out of anything
I love how patient he is with me
I love his tolerance for me
I love how when his nose is itchy, he scrunches it because he doesn't like touching his nose. It is absolutely adorable
I love the connection we have together
I love how his body feels against mine
I love his loyalty and honesty
I love how I married my best friend

I could go on and on but I don't want you guys to get bored. So this is just to name a few...

There is so much I love about my husband and I am glad that I get to spend the rest of my life with him.

[This message edited by FR2012 at 7:06 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)]

BH (him): 28 ~ FWW (me): 27
Together 9 years
2 kids
D-Day: April 19, 2012

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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

His Smile.

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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

For all of you hard working WS's I want to let you know of a very new section of cards at Hallmark stores. They are in a section called "Between you and I". They are incredibly well written and I can assure each of you that you would find an appropriate one to give your BS.

I wanted to share this because I had a surprisingly hard time picking out the anniversary card I gave to my RS for our 25th anniversary today. I didn't like any of the fluffy "Lovie" ones they seemed surprisingly inappropriate to me. I don't want to make him feel I under appreciate all the hard work he has put in to get to where we are today. I also thought they made light of our specific struggles through this,something I will never do again.

Last night, before bed, I gave him one of these new cards....basically thanking him and validating how important all of his work has been in this hard process. Even he asked where I got the card....he loved every word in it and felt how appropriate they were.

I love when you guys do this thread.....makes me know we are all healing, BS's and WS's alike.


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!

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