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nowiknow23
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Evil  Posted: 12:56 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Back from DD's latest family therapy session. After the usual activities, DD left to grab breakfast, while wasband, the therapist (let's call her Lynn), and I talked.

As Lynn and I had previously discussed, I brought up the fact that DS had seen wasband's engagement post on FB via DD's login, and talked about how hurt and unimportant DS was feeling.
Wasband just stared at me, with a dumbfounded look on his face.

I said that as far as I could tell, DD had not noticed the post, but that she very easily could have seen it, and I was concerned about her finding out third-hand, as DS had.
Wasband = dumbfounded

Lynn took over, and mentioned that when DD talks to staff about the divorce, her biggest issue is that she feels like she didn't know it was coming and she felt left out and blindsided. She is still struggling with that.
Wasband = dumbfounded, but now staring at Lynn

Lynn and I keep looking at wasband, waiting for him to say something. Anything.
Wasband = dumbfounded

I could go on and on, but I think you get the drift.

After lots of prodding and pulling by Lynn, wasband finally spoke. And thus begins our play at home portion of today's show.

I'll provide you with some of wasband's more *intelligent* comments from today's session, and YOU, dear viewers, get to RESPOND to them Dear Wasband style for everyone's amusement. Sounds fun, right?

Ready? GO!

I guess I didnít think about that.

I guess I didnít consider whether DD might see it.

Well, DS and I arenít FB friends, so I didn't think he'd see it.

I donít know why that didnít occur to me.

That was not the best decision in hindsight.

Seems like that might have been short-sighted on my part.

Well, it hasnít seemed like a good time to tell DD.

DS and I havenít had many conversations lately, so the timing hasnít been right.

Iíve been out of town at the state fair and my phone died.

Bonus points awarded for anyone who can tell me HOW I MANAGED TO BE MARRIED TO THIS PERSON WITHOUT KILLING HIM IN HIS SLEEP.

Ahem.

Enjoy.

ps: On the whole, the session went better than I expected. No fireworks, no drama, separate sessions going forward, DD is cool with the separate sessions, Lynn is going to meet with wasband to PLAN how/when to tell DD the news, yada yada yada. All good.


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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

oh, poor Wasband... Y'all ganged up on him and all, and either one of you alone could argue that he isn't even on the intelligence spectrum.

Do you think you short circuited his brain? He could not even say definitively that he made some bad choices. "I guess?" Way to own your shit, Wasband...


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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I have typed and re-typed about twenty responses.

Some of them nasty, some of them hilariously condescending.

Since I just responded to another thread about the importance of NOT name calling, I am absolutely positively at a loss for what to say here.

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Nope - still at name calling, and none of them are PC. I will be back later when I feel less stabby for you.

Sonofagun.


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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I can't play along today- dealing with my own Wasband bullshit.

I'm just here to say Wasbands suck. They are so self-consumed and egotistical that even Jesus would hold my earrings for me...


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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

He definitely isn't the brightest bunny in the forest.


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I will be back later when I feel less stabby for you.

They are so self-consumed and egotistical that even Jesus would hold my earrings for me...

[This message edited by strongerdaybyday at 1:34 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

They are so self-consumed and egotistical that even Jesus would hold my earrings for me...

Please someone tell me that is already on the Quote Thread.

I also agree - how did you not off him in his sleep? What a horrible father to not even think about the impact of not including his kids....wtf?


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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

*facepalm*


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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I'm sorry NIK, I'm laughing so hard at lieshurt's response.

You didn't kill him in his sleep, because you have empathy toward the less fortunate. You give your used items to those less fortunate, she is welcomed to him.

It is very clear from his responses that he gave this engagement a LOT of thought. Both of them are so excited , it's all they can think about how it will make those that love them
So happy for them . They have planned their responses to everyone who will ask the happy couple how the children will feel.

I get his egotistical self not saying anything (I am willing to bet that you were the parent that handled the tough stuff with the kids and he followed your lead) he was waiting for you to notice AND continue to do his dirty work for him. He wants to be the good buddy parent only he can't think about anything that isn't whirling in his own vortex of shit that's swirling around him.

What I don't get is her going along with it? You said she treats your DD nicely. How do you become engaged to someone and NOT inform their kids? Or not even discuss telling the kids-aren't they supposed to be a couple? Hell now I'm wondering - does his fiancť know she's engaged ?

Hugs, NIK you didn't kill him because you're a saint!

[This message edited by Kajem at 1:59 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

RESPOND to them Dear Wasband style

At first I thought you meant "respond as Wasband would respond" and all I could think was "there's no stupid-empty-look-with-drool-coming-out-of-his-mouth smiley"

Then I realized you meant Dear Abby style (right? )

Dear Wasband,

Please stop hogging oxygen. You don't deserve it until you learn to use the brain it's supposed to be fueling.

Ama


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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Yes - for clarity's sake, I meant "Dear Wasband" style, as if you were responding to him as I do when I post his "gems" here.


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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Well, I would like to tack this on to every one of his comments

"because I am a selfish fuck who can't see past my dick"

Sometimes there is just no responding to stupid.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

They are so self-consumed and egotistical that even Jesus would hold my earrings for me...

Please someone tell me that is already on the Quote Thread.

It is now.


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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

So, did he actually admit that he's betrothed/engaged/married/whatever?

Cuz unless I'm blinded by his verbal brilliance, I'm not seeing that here.

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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

They are so self-consumed and egotistical that even Jesus would hold my earrings for me...
and I even think he'd hand you a ponytail holder to pull your hair back.....


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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I'll take a stab at the bonus round:

Bonus points awarded for anyone who can tell me HOW I MANAGED TO BE MARRIED TO THIS PERSON WITHOUT KILLING HIM IN HIS SLEEP.

You thought: As tempting as that was, maybe, it just might impact DS and DD in a negative way...? Hmmm, better think on it first.


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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

So, did he actually admit that he's betrothed/engaged/married/whatever?

Cuz unless I'm blinded by his verbal brilliance, I'm not seeing that here.

He didn't deny it. He spoke words in response to statements regarding the engagement that indicated indirectly that the statements were factual in a non-binding and plausibly deniable manner.

So... yes?


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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

And how damn long was he at the State Fair?

It's simple. You walk in, pay your admittance, head over to see the cows, wave at them, get your picture taken. Done.

You walk over to the corn-on-the-cob stand, order a cob, hand over your $, eat your corn as you're walking to the beer tent. Done.

You walk up to the beer tent, order a beer and perhaps some nachos, hand over your $$, drink your beer, then eat your nachos. Done.

You swagger over to the midway. Hand over your $$$ to get your wristband for unlimited rides. You hit the Tilt-O-Whirl, the Ferris Wheel, the Tea Cups ride, the World's Biggest Slide, the House of Fun, try to win a bunny shooting a basketball through a too small hoop and, Bam. Done.

On your way out, you watch the pigs race for Oreos, walk out the damn gate and get in your car.

Two - four hours. Tops.


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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

He spoke words in response to statements regarding the engagement that indicated indirectly that the statements were factual in a non-binding and plausibly deniable manner.

Ahhh...got it.


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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Clearly you've never been to THE State Fair, ajsmom. 'Cuz the IOWA State Fair? That's a week-long thing for fair-going folk. I mean, come on! You didn't even mention the butter cow. Or the deep fried butter on a stick.

And you're skipping the talent show? The giant turkey legs? The combine display???


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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I also forgot the cream puffs.

Ours kicks Iowa's ass.

Trust me.


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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Fighting. Words. Don't make me come up there!


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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I second the saint.

I have to say the I was drunk trying the play the at home wasband drinking game.

A shot for every *dumbfounded* is a bit much.


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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

NOW you mention a drinking game. That would have made the session so much more entertaining!


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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, August 15th (Thursday)


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

deep fried butter on a stick

How much are plane tickets?? This I gotta try!!!

NIK, you wusband posts keep me in stitches from laughing so hard.


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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

NOW you mention a drinking game. That would have made the session so much more entertaining!

I think we're onto something here! This could be better than the Star Trek Voyager drinking game!!


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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I guess he doesn't think about anyone but himself.

It seems his head is permanently up his ass.

He might be incapable of accepting responsibility for his stupid-ass decisions.

It might possibly be that this jackass will grow old but won't grow up.


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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

duplicate

[This message edited by Housefulloflove at 7:08 PM, August 15th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I'll play! I have one answer for all his dumbness, except the last one!

Dear Wasband, one should always think of their kids first before making any major life decisions, and how it would impact them! Of course, said one would need to get their head out of their butt in order to do so, so you are excused as we know it is lodged in there permanently.

As far as the state fair/phone thing...well, the above applies with an addon....

if one were thinking of their kids first, they would have been at the fair with them, as fair are for kids, not for grown idiots who want to believe they are still kids.


Did I do ok? How many drinks to I get to drink?


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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Bonus points awarded for anyone who can tell me HOW I MANAGED TO BE MARRIED TO THIS PERSON WITHOUT KILLING HIM IN HIS SLEEP.

The real question is how did he not kill himself by forgetting to breathe? I thought you had to have a brain to keep yourself alive.

[This message edited by kernel at 7:50 PM, August 16th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

What a fucking jagoff.


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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

Dear Wasband,

What ARE you smoking? 'Cause if you ever had a few brain cells, well... you don't now!


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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

They are so self-consumed and egotistical that even Jesus would hold my earrings for me...

C'mon - admit it wasband, you were dropped on your head in the D.


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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

They are so self-consumed and egotistical that even Jesus would hold my earrings for me...


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All those fairly tales are full of shit.
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

I plead the fifth, sbb.


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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, August 15th (Thursday)

NIK, your Wasband sounds as clueless as my STBX.

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Default  Posted: 2:53 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Dear Wasband,

What? Wait...what??

Nevermind...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Lavender - he is clueless. Not sure if it's innate or a deliberate choice, however, and I don't care enough to figure out that puzzle.


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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Iíve been out of town at the state fair

I think he was being sincere.

I mean HOW was he supposed to think clearly about his actions (or lack of) with the all those sparkly lights (ohhhh pretty lights) and aroma of fair food in the air?

(Insert smell-o-vision of homemade lemonade, cinnamon buns and candy apples)


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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Dear Wasband,

What. The. Fuck. ?
I believe I know your long lost twin. Surely, you two were separated at birth. In fact, I suspect that you may have been conjoined twins...between the two of you, you had but one brain. Somehow through a miracle of modern medicine, you two were separated. But clearly, the half a brain that you each retained was severly damaged. Oh well. Thank you for all your comedic relief.


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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, August 16th (Friday)

What I don't get is her going along with it? You said she treats your DD nicely. How do you become engaged to someone and NOT inform their kids? Or not even discuss telling the kids-aren't they supposed to be a couple? Hell now I'm wondering - does his fiancť know she's engaged ?
Kajem - just saw your edit. Based on some new fourth-hand evidence, I now believe that she actually proposed to wasband.

I know, people. I know. I'm just as baffled as you are. This one's gonna take time and potentially a couple of stiff drinks to process...


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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Dear Potential Future Mrs. Wasband-

1) Facebook is your friend, you will be able to find out many details via posts to friends, but beware and be sure you are FB friends with all of schmoopies FB accounts.

2) Nothing important should be going on in your life when he is at the fair.

3) Sleep with one eye open. Better yet, don't sleep! That way you can keep up with all the activities and life plans that don't absorb into your brain via osmosis.

4) Wasband sees things much better in hindsight, I've found that being in the rear view is much more conducive to emotional health and overall lifestyle.

Enjoy!

Sincerely,
Life is better without him

PS (I really did drop him on the head)


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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, August 16th (Friday)


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, August 16th (Friday)

With the counselor there, my response to his "brilliant" answers?

"What WERE you thinking about, and WHY is that more important than your children?"

If Jesus doesn't hold your earrings, I will!!!


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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, August 16th (Friday)

They are so self-consumed and egotistical that even Jesus would hold my earrings for me...

and I even think he'd hand you a ponytail holder to pull your [hair back.....

No! No ponytails! They are too handy of a "handle" when in an altercation. (I learned this as an RN on a unit where we frequently had inmate patients...nuff said.)

Okay. I'm gonna take a stab at the responses. A la PMSy Dear Abby. Because I'm just in that kind of mood today...

I guess I didnít think about that.
Clearly not. One requires more than the reptilian brain for thinking of a higher order than that to which you are accustomed.

Come to think of it, this answer pretty much applies to all the dumbfuckery.

Bonus points awarded for anyone who can tell me HOW I MANAGED TO BE MARRIED TO THIS PERSON WITHOUT KILLING HIM IN HIS SLEEP.
Well, for me, it was a lovely blend of love, naivete, denial, rug-sweeping, and benzodiazepines. Your answer may vary.

[This message edited by solus sto at 3:03 PM, August 16th (Friday)]


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