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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Here's part of an email I wrote to my dad....

At 5:30pm I was feeding the cats supper. As usual, Jonesy was in front of his dish waiting. I put the food down and when he approached the dish, his head was tilted to the right. He walked about almost crouching and went into the dining room and laid down on the floor. I followed him and he would get up and move about 2 feet from me and lie down. I brought in his food dish but he wasn't interested in it. After the third time, he went into the bedroom and laid down. I noticed he was breathing hard. I left the room and would check on him every couple of minutes. About 20 minutes later, he calmed down so I brought in his food. He sniffed it, stood up, and ate. I gave him a couple of treats and he ate them too. He started to purr when I petted him and purred when I brushed him. About 10 minutes later, I checked on him again. He purred when petted so I figured he was fine and left him in the bedroom.

When I was in the living room, I heard a meow or the sound Jonesy makes when he pukes. I go into the bedroom and he is on the bed rolling around and I see a pee stain on the carpet. I leave him on the bed since he appears safe and let the seizure run its course. I grab a roll of paper towels to clean up the pee stain. He rolls off the bed and on to the floor and against the wall. I grab a bath towel and use it to put him back on the bed. He continued to roll around with his feet flailing. He stopped flailing and looked like he was having trouble breathing. Then he died.

I called Sue and she couldn’t understand me since I was crying. She was in her car right around the corner.

Today at 9, I will be bringing Jonesy to the vet so that they can take care of the rest. He’s in a copier paper box. Last night, I put the box in the corner of the bedroom where he would sleep with us. He wouldn’t sleep in bed but would sleep in the corner so he could keep an eye on us.

The house seems so empty. When we would go to the basement, he would run down with us to where we store the treats hoping to get one. Or when we would give the cats treats at 9pm, he would sit right next to me on the couch so he wouldn’t miss any.

Me - BS
Her - WS
affair length - 6 months with MM
married since 7/92
d-day 4/2002
NC violated 4/02, 6/02, 8/02

Posts: 136 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Massachusetts
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, August 16th (Friday)

((((((toonces)))))) I am so very sorry for your loss, honey.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, August 16th (Friday)



Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, August 16th (Friday)


Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
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Posts: 1298 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm so sorry. (((toonces)))

Posts: 3232 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, August 16th (Friday)

I am so sorry for the loss of your Jonesy

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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, August 16th (Friday)


I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm so sorry for the loss of your furbaby. They capture our hearts in such a special way.


BW 44, SAWH 45(sorry1)
M24 yrs
DD 23,16,13 DS 21, 19
Dday1-7/3/09 EA OW4
Dday2-9/1/09 PA OW4
Dday3 3/14/10 Farmville sexting, OW3
Dday4 3/13/11 Secret texting, would be OW5-she said no
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, August 16th (Friday)


so sorry for your loss.

Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead....Adele

Posts: 960 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Upstate NY
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, August 16th (Friday)

..very sorry to hear your sad news..

..we have 3 cats and love them all so much, neither of us can bear to think of losing any one of them.

..two of them are 10 years old, they are so precious.. heart goes out to you and your wife..


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf

Posts: 4129 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
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Default  Posted: 11:46 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm so sorry.

It's the hardest part of having pets.

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

Posts: 11237 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
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Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, August 16th (Friday)

(((toonces)))) Many hugs and my heart goes out to you at this time...I have five furbabys..They are all special in different ways..I know you will miss Jonesy...

He knew he was loved so much by you...

Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
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Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Me: late 40's
XH: A parasite and that might be a compliment
My S-23, Our D-15
Married 5/93 D-Day: 11/18/03
Divorced 5/19/08

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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm so sorry!! I can't imagine how horrible that must have been for you!!


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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

I'm so sorry

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

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It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
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Posts: 4632 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

Toonces, I'm so sorry.

It sounds like Jonesy had a stroke. Believe me when I tell you there was absolutely nothing you or anyone could have done.

I had one of my cats suffer a stroke, but unfortunately I had to make the decision to put her to sleep rather than live a few more weeks disabled and suffering.

{{{hugs to you and Jonesy}


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6587 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

I am sorry for your loss.


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Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

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Posts: 3247 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

I'm so sorry for your loss. Keeping you in my thoughts. I know how important pets are in people's lives. Hang in there!


Trying to rebuild each day

Me - WW 39
Him - BH 40 (mpb1974)
2 Furrbabies - sweet cats

Met - 8/13/99
Started dating - 9/11/99
Moved in together - 3/03
Engaged - 6/5/09
Married - 8/21/10
D-Day - 1/24/13
Affair started 5/09

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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

I'm so sorry. (((toonces)))

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

Posts: 6656 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
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Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, August 18th (Sunday)


So sorry for your loss. He is special to you and will always be in your heart.

Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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