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Beloved827
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Member # 31006
Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Today is mine and my husbands 10th wedding anniversary. In 2010 he was actively engaged in the EA part of the affair at this time. In 2011 even the thought of acknowledging this day made me feel physically ill. In 2012 he tentatively wished me a Happy Anniversary before he left for work in the morning and I told him that I wasn't ready for that yet, that we weren't in a bad place but I just wasn't ready for that yet. He'd been hopeful when he said it and I watched him just sort of deflate as he said ok. Today, 3 years later, I was ready. Not wanting to make a big deal or have a big dramatic scene I simply hugged him on his way out the door and said it. Happy Anniversary. And I meant it. I'm feeling pretty good about that


Me-BS-35
Him-WS-34
M-8 years, together for 13
DDay-9/11/10
R
"Let me make something clear, you flushed our marriage down the toilet the moment you started talking to her. You just made sure it wasn't clogged by fu**ing her."

Posts: 13 | Registered: Jan 2011
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Happy Anniversary! What a beautiful post.

Posts: 33821 | Registered: Mar 2011
musiclovingmom
Member
Member # 38207
Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, August 16th (Friday)

Yay! Happy Anniversary!

Posts: 993 | Registered: Jan 2013
Beloved827
New Member
Member # 31006
Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Thank you jo2love and music


Me-BS-35
Him-WS-34
M-8 years, together for 13
DDay-9/11/10
R
"Let me make something clear, you flushed our marriage down the toilet the moment you started talking to her. You just made sure it wasn't clogged by fu**ing her."

Posts: 13 | Registered: Jan 2011
1956
Member
Member # 33045
Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

I agree
so nice you can get back to the feelings of it being special, next year you plan something really special and show that man of yours you have really turned the corner ......

Posts: 65 | Registered: Aug 2011
LA44
Member
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

Happy Anniversary Beloved827!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2109 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
5674emt
Member
Member # 40012
Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Thanks for the encouragement. We have not made it to a year yet and it is nice to see that it can be done.


BS 53
WH 44
M 14 years at time of DD
2 young daughters
DD 12-8-12
OW=Xfriend
A-3 YEARS and her husband was an accomplice.
In R, IC, & MC Since 1 week after DD. On the mend with the help of God, Friends and Family.

Posts: 86 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Central FL
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