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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, August 16th (Friday)

but what the hell.

ex-shat's stepmom told me that ex-shat is waiting for an annuity cashout to close on a house. House is located further away from me (about 45 minutes with traffic) in a bad area. If it's the annuity I'm thinking of (he had four different retirement accounts)-- it's the big one that I'm still waiting for the qdro to be processed. (L filed the qdro in late spring/early summer.) I emailed my L letting her know this and asking for the status. The fund's lawyer is on vacation so we won't have a definitive answer until Monday. But my L said that typically when a qdro is filed, a hold is put on the account.

So, here are the possible scenarios (are there more?)...

1. There is a hold on the account. Ex-shat can't get his money (which he has to pay ridiculous taxes on) and close on his piece of shit house. Ex-wife fucks him again.

2. Ex-shat somehow managed to get a payout (that he's paying ridiculous taxes on)...but company is in trouble with me and he's in trouble with company. Ex-wife fucks him again.

My understanding is that I'm not getting fucked in this situation, right?

They must think the closing is imminent...Teslet said he had to sleep on the couch last weekend because his bed was packed up. Of course, neither of them are very bright...I mean, I just can't imagine cashing out a retirement account, paying the penalties to buy a house that is in a bad town where homes are not going to appreciate.

ex-shat told his dad that stripper whore thought the place was living too far beneath their means.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4693 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
jilted12
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm certainly no expert but I think your assumption is correct in that since you already filed the qdro, you won't get screwed. I'm still waiting for mine to go through too but was told that even though it might take a while, I'd definitely get that money regardless of what ex chose to do in the interim.

I hope scenario #1 is the way it plays out.


Me: BS 40
Him: WS 39
Married 10 yrs, together 13
DS-8, DD-5, DS-2
D-Day 5/9/12, 2 days before #3 was born
Filed for D 8/12; D final 4/13

"I used to be married but I'm better now"


Posts: 188 | Registered: May 2012
peridot
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, August 16th (Friday)

If he is trying to pull a fast one, you can always add this to your list of things to go after since your going back to court.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Bottom line ~ my understanding is that the qdro will keep what you are entitled to safe.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

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million pieces
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

Could there be another account?


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
monarchwings
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

I guess that is why is so pissed about the tax return he was counting on it to buy the house. And will now be house poor. At somem point you have to just start expecting and laugh about his poor judgement.

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

omg your timing could not be any more perfect!


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3429 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Make sure your attorney knows and that the pending QDRO prevents him access to that account until the execution is final.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

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