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Sad in AZ
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Frustrated  Posted: 5:55 PM, August 16th (Friday)

One week. I lasted one week. They asked me to put together a list of everything I had accomplished this week for a meeting this afternoon. I had a 2-page list OUTLINING what I was working on, and it wasn't enough.

Their reasons?

1) The owner asked me to send a fax; he gave me a fax # and a phone #--neither worked. I tried to send it several times; I even called the fax # from my phone (several times)--it was a message saying the mailbox was full--for a fax line The owner came back in, said the #'s were ok, sent the fax himself. I was nonplussed.

His wife presented me with a marked up fax cover sheet (that I created) and was incensed that I'd sent it out that way. I explained that I had given the owner the printed sheet only--it was his handwriting on it and HE had sent the fax. I didn't check to see what # he sent it too, but I suspect he got a different # (something was written on the paper that needed to be faxed--she didn't let me see it;probably the correct #?)

I spent the first two days researching databases for their business, which I'm new to. I had made arrangements to sit with the title clerk to go over what she thought was absolutely necessary before I started calling for prices. The owners felt it wasn't enough. I had presented them with an example of an employee manual and she pointed that out as having expected more from me. I explained I did not create that document in the first week...

There were other inane, ridiculous reasons, but there was no arguing; I'm out.

I suspect they had someone else they wanted more on the hook for the job who just came through this week, but then, I'm paranoid. If I get past the shock, I'm actually relieved. I realized by Wednesday that they would be impossible to please because they really don't know how to articulate how they want to run their business and would never be able to delegate. I figured I would do what I said I would do and look for another job. So here I go...

Bleh.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20017 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
KVille
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I am so sorry for you. Didn't you just move for this job? What a shit.

They sound a little crazy.


never ever getting back together

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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, August 16th (Friday)

That's absolutely horrible. I guess the silver lining is that you won't be working for people who think it's OK to treat somebody like that.

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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, August 16th (Friday)

That sucks


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, August 16th (Friday)

That's horrible Sad, so sorry. Mojo your way to find something new quickly. I agree it is a silver lining that you won't have to work for these people. They sound quite incompetent and impossible to please.

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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, August 16th (Friday)

((Sad)) Job mojo.


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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, August 16th (Friday)

(((Sad)))

I'm sorry. That is awful. I hope you find something terrific soon.


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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, August 16th (Friday)

So sorry You don't need that crap anyway and will get better employment. (((hugs)))


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Wow, and I thought I worked for a crazy person. Sorry this happened, but hoping and sending mojo that this leads to a much better job for you.


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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Bleh.
I'm sorry Sad. I know it's uber annoying to look at it this way..but it almost sounds like they did you a favor. They would have been miserable to work for.



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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Wow, they didn't give you much time to get up to speed, did they?

(((Sad)))


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Posts: 3227 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I can honestly say I'm glad I don't have to go back there on Monday. I can also honestly say I'm worried.

I've been through worse; I just need to get back on that horse...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Cheese and crackers, Sad!

Are you ok? ((((hugs))))


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm going to be on the balls of my ass but I've been here before. I'm getting too old for this.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20017 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
kernel
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Wow, that sucks. Especially considering you moved for the damn job. What losers. Sure hope you get something awesome soon!


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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Oh my goodness, Sad!
I'm so sorry to read this. I hope you land on your feet VERY quickly.


Me - 40s
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Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

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Posts: 6356 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, August 16th (Friday)

W.T.F?

Sorry Sad... but it sounds like a shithole of a place to work... so at least you're out of that.

Job Mojo on finding a new job soon... One that doesn't suck ass.


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Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Oh Sad...I'm so sorry. My fingers are crossed for something much better to come along for you.


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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Wow, is there anything you can do? You moved for this job, did they know that? It probably goes without saying, but if they can let you move across country for a job, and then they release you after a week, no empathy or values/concerns for anyone but themselves.

Sound familiar? You dodged a bullet. Maybe this is the way the universe got you to that city for something better!


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Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Silver lining? They showed their true colors before you had too Mich of yourself vested in them.

Here's hoping you find an even better opportunity. Have you even had a chance to decide if you will stay in NY or somewhere else?


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm staying. I really like it here; it's very close to where I grew up-in the summers. I've always wanted to live here.

Another relief is not working the hours they expected--but neglected to tell me about. 9am-6pm with no lunch break--you eat at your desk. And 10 months out of the year I'd be working Saturdays too. Jeez.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Yikes. What a bunch of jagoff s.

I'll send corgi mojo!


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, August 16th (Friday)


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, August 16th (Friday)

oh Sad I'm so sorry.
I'm so upset for you. You deserve better than this.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Thank you. Despite what they said, I really am a good office manager. I'll never be a sparkler, but I'm great with back office stuff.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20017 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Insane. Total insanity.

I'm so very sorry.

(((Sad)))

AJ's MOM


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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Wow !!
After you moving and they act like this !!
I hope you get a job with their competition.
Then help new company increase sales 100% in a year.
I have no idea what field they're in but if anyone needs a karma stop, it's them.
Hugs and mojo for fast employment !
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Can you file for unemployment?

Craziness.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I am sorry you had to deal with people like that :( Sending mojo your way!


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Wow. They sound NUTS!!

(((sad)))


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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, August 16th (Friday)

WOW. I'm just floored. What asshats.

I can tell you, though, after spending nearly 5 years working for someone that will NEVER be pleased myself, I agree with the other poster that said they did you a favor. 5 years of this shit put me in a VERY bad emotional place. I truly wouldn't want that for you.

Hugs and MOJO coming for you to find a FANTASTIC opportunity and they can just F-off.


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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, August 16th (Friday)

So sorry Sad. That sucks.


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Divorced 2012

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Sending you better job quick mojo. That does suck. It would be worse if you ended up with heart, lung or brain damage from the carbon monoxide. All real possibilities of carbon monoxide poisoning long term. I am glad you like the area.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, August 16th (Friday)

How can they not allow you a lunch break? Sure, eating at your desk is not denying you a meal but it is not a break.


DDay: I can't remember but there were more than one

Divorced 06/2007

EXWH passed away 8/31/2011


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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, August 16th (Friday)

That is craziness!!! I'm so sorry lady - you deserve better, but I will say, although it's far from ideal, they are obviously not a good fit for you, or well, for any sane person! ((Hugs)) Something will come up soon!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

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It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Ugh! Gah! (((Sazzy)))


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20 years of OWs, WTF?
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, August 16th (Friday)

(((((Sad))))) I'm so sorry. It sounds like they weren't treating you well. Hopefully this means that a door is opening to meet much nicer people who appreciate the hard work you do.


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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, August 16th (Friday)

So sorry, Sad

I hope you quickly find a wonderful employer that deserves you!


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yewtree
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Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm sorry they treated you so badly. You are better off! Here's to your next new beginning!


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No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


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Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

So sorry. Do you have grounds for any legal action? Did you get a severance at all or did they just turn you loose? I thought there were laws prohibiting stuff like this.


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Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

WTF?!

Hope you find something better real soon!


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D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

Depends if it is an employment at will state, which, I just looked and NY is. Basically that means they can terminate employees at will without grounds for cause. (My HR is old and rusty....)

What I can't remember is if you can file unemployment after only a week...I"m sure it varies by state, so at least worth checking it out.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry.

Sending you job hunting mojo.


Me (BS)47
XH (WS)53
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two sons 21 and 23 in college

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uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

I'm so sorry, AZ. I'm sure you'll find something soon. You come across as a serious asset to any employer lucky enough to get you.


Me: 37

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

damn S-AZ! I am so sorry. They are pretty damn pathetic!

Hope a perfect job is around the corner b/c this one barely sounded like a decent job.


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Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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Cally60
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Oh no. That's awful, Sad. I'm so sorry.

I suspect they had someone else they wanted more on the hook for the job who just came through this week, but then, I'm paranoid.

Sounds plausible to me. Or, since they seem clueless, maybe they liked the idea of an office manager, then decided they didn't like having to pay for one.

I'm with gma. I hope you get a much better job with a rival company! Or an even better one in some fascinating field. I'm glad you're still happy about relocation. And on a positive note - it should be easier to find another job there now that you're on the spot.

I really, really hope you won't have to job-hunt for very long.

Edited to clarify:

My "Sounds plausible" referred to the firing theory, NOT to the paranoia one.

[This message edited by Cally60 at 5:27 PM, August 17th (Saturday)]


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Those rats! After that huge move you made!

Sending you mojo to find a way better job soon.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

WTF!! I guess it's a blessing in disguise. I know you'll find something great!

(((HUGS)))


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NoTriangles
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

WTF??

I'm so sorry.

I wish you mega job hunting mojo.


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Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Sending job mojo your way, and a wish for the karma bus to make a stop by their establishment.

Hugs,
K


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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, August 18th (Sunday)

Wow, that sucks!

Some people are just horrible people. I'm really sorry for you that you've lost your employment so suddenly, especially after uprooting yourself to move there, but I'm certain you dodged a much bigger bullet not having to work for them any longer. People like that can do so much harm to you -- you are better off not having their toxic assholeyness fumes to breathe.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, August 18th (Sunday)

Thank you all for the support; it means a lot to me.

I've got a plan of action--several phone calls to make; I've reinstated my job hunting email alerts; and I've joined a couple of meetups so I can get out of the apartment and meet people.

I've also got several books rolling around in my head that I've wanted to try to write. I'm not sure how to fit it in with job hunting, as that tends to consume me, but maybe this is the right time. We'll see.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20017 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
clba317
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Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, August 18th (Sunday)

I'm so sorry to hear this. I believe my friend's daughter may have attempted to be office manager at the same place! She had a strange ending there also. Good luck in your job search. It is a great place to live.


BS
DS9,DS5
M 11, D 8/1/05- not soon enough!

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, August 18th (Sunday)

Good grief sad! How horrible! You must be incredibly strong. Something like that would send me off the rails.

I'm so sorry.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
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persevere
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

I have no expertise in unemployment benefits, but is it possible that you could qualify for benefits either from New York, or possibly Texas, because you only moved knowing you had this job, which you have now been terminated from?

It seems worth checking into just so you know for sure.

Though I'm sure you will find something soon!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

I'm really sorry that happened. Sending good luck that you find a much better job really soon.


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, August 19th (Monday)

Oh, Sad, bugger all! "Asshats" is too good a word for these sorry excuses for humans. I don't know NY or US labour law, but around here (Ontario, Canada), this is the law:

Eating Periods
An employee must not work for more than five hours in a row without getting a 30-minute eating period (meal break) free from work. However, if the employer and employee agree, the eating period can be split into two eating periods within every five consecutive hours. Together these must total at least 30 minutes. This agreement can be oral or in writing.

They may be breaking labour law by not allowing a break from your desk.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

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amitheow
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, August 19th (Monday)

Hey Sad

Same thing happened to me a few years back. I started working for a marketing company in sales, and had no sales experience. He said he would teach me, he never did. He also asked me to contact all my old clients and I had already told him before I was hired I wasn't going to go after the business of my former employer. Those people were off limits. He forgot we had that conversation and was VERY upset when I told him no.

We did a lot of presentations and he came to me once and asked me to do a presentation for a mosquito killing/ridding company. He wanted some quotes on hats, t shirts, fly swatters, etc .. and I did that for him. Everything he asked for I did for him. He came back and said I didn't think out of the box and didn't go above and beyond. I only gave him what he asked for. SIGH

so the next time he asked me to do a presentation I included all the things he asked and then added like 4 additional items. He came back and asked me why I could not FOLLOW DIRECTIONS.

Eventually I was fired. It was a relief. It was a witch hunt from the beginning. I ended up at a temp company making a lot less, but I kept the roof over my head and it was WORTH IT.

I'm sorry this happened BUT it sounds like you would have stayed (like me)and it sounded miserable!!!

P.S. the next job I got, I came in like a beaten dog. I hung my head, stayed quiet and waited to get fired. He destroyed my confidence. Well, I have become a rock star here. Promotions, confidence back. It will be ok!


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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, August 19th (Monday)

Oh man ... just saw this - sorry to hear about your predicament.


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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

Great to get away from those 'entrepreneurs'; lousy to be out of a job.

I don't know if a week is enough to qualify for unemployment, but they may owe you notice, which might be added to the week and qualify you.


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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

You may be able to get unemployment even though you were only there a week. Sometimes unemployment will use your previous employer for the time needed. They file on the previous employer's taxes that are paid for unemployment.

I would apply for unemployment. I would also talk to an attorney and see if maybe they broke some laws.


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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I appreciate the support, but there is no UI; my previous employer was a foreign government who does not pay taxes. I couldn't get it when I was laid off in May last year either.

It's not an issue; I have some support. WH even offered to help (ever my KISA...) No; I won't be going to him.

I'm looking into temp work, but I'm not sure I want to go that route. I've never done it before.


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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

Temp work is actually a good way to bridge the gap or, it can be a way to find the next permanent gig.

I did it many years ago. What I found was that you could define some parameters and tell the agency that you are not interested in real short term assignments. You could indicate that you want to replace folks on maternity leave or disability. Not only does that give you a little more stability, but sometimes the regular employee chooses not to return to the job and it opens the door for you.

Crossing my fingers that the next great opportunity comes along real soon!!


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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I'm looking into temp work, but I'm not sure I want to go that route. I've never done it before.

I did this years ago as well, and it moved me into a permanent job while paying bills during the interim. It also gives you a chance to try different jobs/organizations to see what you may really like or don't like.


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