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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, August 16th (Friday)

and here comes the bullying:

I received from your lawyer the summons to court. my tax return check was a little over $X,000 after paying the state of Indiana. I will provide you a copy when you pick up Teslet. The $Y,000 (half the above amount)was already paid to you in the direct deposits in our joint account. my records indicate that you're actually overpaid by several thousand dollars. please sit down and do the math and think it over carefully. if I have to counter sue to reclaim the money that was overpaid it's only going to hurt Teslet and I don't want that. I assumed you would have figured that all that money would have gone towards the tax return since it is well in excess of what you're owed. if it goes to court you're just going to end up owing me money.

Bitch, please.
The joint account has been closed since February. Any direct deposits received before that time and after the D counted towards CS.
Deposits made before the D was finalized have no bearing on this matter.
Deposits made to the state for CS are for CS and have no bearing on this matter.
Checks received for tuition are for tuition and have no bearing on this matter.

You will owe me half of the federal tax return. Not half AFTER you paid Indiana. I had it specifically written into the decree that way because I knew you would try that.
You will also owe my L her fees on this matter because you are a stupid piece of shit.
I do not fight a battle unless I know that I'm going to win. So puleeeeese, bring your 'records' into court...because I am going to enjoy this.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, August 16th (Friday)

getting my popcorn, taking my seat on the couch.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

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Like you're less than, less than perfect


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Oh shit, he is pissed.
Obviously I'm crickets to his dumbass and he just sent this:

If you choose to drop it I'll cover any reasonable attorney fees you've incurred. But if I have to hire a lawyer I will not hold him back like I did with the divorce settlement...I have been generous to a fault, even to the befuddlement of my former lawyer...please don't make me do this. I want only the best for my son, but your vindictivenes has grown tiresome and I won't indulge it any longer.

Wow. He's so motherfucking generous.

And extra points for the use of 'befuddlement'...did ya get stripper whore a word of the day calendar? And...uh...yeah, I don't even care.
Bring it, bitch.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, August 16th (Friday)

ETA: ok, happy popcorn was killing the page specs. here's his smaller cousin

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 8:51 PM, August 16th (Friday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Yes - I know it's huge. But there are a lot of us sitting in the stands watching this one.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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hellzapoppin
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, August 16th (Friday)

OMFG

this brought me out of lurkdom

befuddlemont of his lawyer

hahahaha

what a tool


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M 21 years
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gma56
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, August 16th (Friday)

But if I have to hire a lawyer I will not hold him back like I did with the divorce settlement...I have been generous to a fault, even to the befuddlement of my former lawyer...please don't make me do this. I want only the best for my son, but your vindictivenes has grown tiresome and I won't indulge it any longer
A threat too? Yeah, he isn't going to like the process.
You don't have to be vindictive, the law will handle his self entitlement.
He is an insult to all men.


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Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, August 16th (Friday)

But if I have to hire a lawyer I will not hold him back like I did with the divorce settlement...

Is that what he tells himself to sooth his bruised ego?

I have been generous to a fault, even to the befuddlement of my former lawyer...

What a beautiful fantasy world he has created in his head. He is such a good guy there! The best and most generous guy around. Too bad that guy is a big flaming pile o' shit in reality. I like how he uses the lawyer who is PAID to be on his side as a character witness.

please don't make me do this.

I bet he felt like the Hulk for a moment. "Don't make me angry. You wouldn't like me when I'm angry."

I want only the best for my son

Who knew that "the best" was cheating on his son's mother and starting a new family with the whore he used to destroy his son's family. Hmmm..."the best" sure is different on his planet.

but your vindictivenes has grown tiresome and I won't indulge it any longer.

Uh oh Tesla...your life on Easy St is over. He has done so much to make you happy, give your son "the best" and indulge you. I never knew that adultery was so altruistic!

After all he has done to indulge you this is what you do Tesla? You must have really disturbed his life in fantasy-land, a land where "indulge" has a totally different meaning. I'm guessing that the definition of *vindictive* is "anything that brings him back to reality.


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3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Just a thought - can you amend the summons to include Mosley? 'Cuz that would be GOLDEN.


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Oh snap, he just got served

I'm pretty sure that it's stated somewhere in the bylaws that he is now obligated to participate in a dance off.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, August 16th (Friday)

He must have been indulging you when he broke into your home and stole his son's dog.

I feel a reality check coming soon for him.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm pretty sure that it's stated somewhere in the bylaws that he is now obligated to participate in a dance off.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Pass the popcorn please.

Tesla, he hasn't asked a question-no need to answer.

Hugs,
K


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Oh, I'm loving it!! Is he serious? For real? Bring it! He is waiting for you to take your "door mat" pill. I've got my popcorn. Crickets to him ~ let him shit bricks.


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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Late to the party, is there any popcorn left??

I have NEVER heard of indulging vindictiveness. What a verbal magician he is.

This will be so much fun.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, August 16th (Friday)

I'm pretty sure that it's stated somewhere in the bylaws that he is now obligated to participate in a dance off.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, August 16th (Friday)

This should be interesting. Yes, it's hilarious that he feels he's been indulging you all this time and working in his son's best interests.


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XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
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1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
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FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Good god, his texts slightly triggered me. He sounds exactly like my XH can sound at times.

What a fucking POS. Does he really think you would take something to court without knowing for sure that you would win?

I hope he gets his sorry ass skewered in court.

And what in the hell does any of this have to do with Teslet!? Why even bring his name into this!?

God, I hate him for you.

[This message edited by FirstLoveGone at 10:23 PM, August 16th (Friday)]


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CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Just a thought - can you amend the summons to include Mosley? 'Cuz that would be GOLDEN.

I second the motion!

Didn't the *befuddled* lawyer quit? As in, I'm not representing this asshole quit?

I truly admire you. I don't think I could "crickets" this, I am super impressed.


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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Ehhh!!!


your vindictivenes has grown tiresome and I won't indulge it any longer

LOL! I heard the same thing from my ex.

What a pompous, condescending asshole!

"Grown tiresome"?

Fuck you, you cowardly little prick!

He's an insult to the entire human race. Hell, he's an insult to the tiniest little bacteria on the face of the earth. Fucker.


BS Divorced.

They were right about you.


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Really? He won't indulge you your right to seek the settlement you have already been ordered but he had no issue indulging his own ego and wants by having his A? Well FTG!!!!


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Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
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tesla
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Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

The befuddled lawyer did quit. Anyone who represents him and tells him that he has a case will be stealing his money.

There is nothing but crickets from me going forward. What is there to say to this fool?

As to Mosley...I'm giving very serious consideration to reducing the amount he owes me if he returns Mosley. I highly doubt he will do it because it is the one thing that I want and he will not give it to me. I could forgive him the whole amount (and I'm not because it is too large a sum of money) and he wouldn't give me Mosley. He's just that kind of whiny bitch.

Here is how I predict this will go down: He'll cool off and realize that he can't get out of paying me my half. So he'll indulge me--be the bigger man--do the right thing for his son and write the check out to his vindictive bitch of an ex-wife.

He will get lots of reassuring blow jobs from stripper whore.

Which will be a win for both of us. I get my money and he gets to continue on in fantasy land.

I can't get lucky enough for this to actually go to court.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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gma56
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

I could forgive him the whole amount (and I'm not because it is too large a sum of money) and he wouldn't give me Mosley. He's just that kind of whiny bitch.
That is the definition of NPD !


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Default  Posted: 1:06 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

I'm pretty sure that it's stated somewhere in the bylaws that he is now obligated to participate in a dance off.

If he does do it it won't be because he wants to do the right thing, be the bigger man or for his son. It will be because his half a brain cell has rubbed up against something else soft inside his head and registered that there is nothing to fight here. It is in the decree and he's only costing himself more money in his/your attorney fees.

I do kind of hope his half a brain cell doesn't bump into anything and that he helps your lawyer and his add a wing to their condos.

But I'd much prefer he just does it so you don't have to interact with him even legally.

Fuck....That....Guy....


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Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Default  Posted: 1:25 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

He's sooo generous, Tesla, how can you not take him up on this offer?!

After all, you're OBVIOUSLY wrong, but he's so generous he'll pay your attorney fees if you agree to drop the lawsuit.
Seems legit.


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Married 4, together 7yrs total
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Default  Posted: 5:27 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

Jagoff. Loser. Whiny bitch.

The trifecta of asshattery, it seems.


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NoTriangles
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Default  Posted: 6:11 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

Umm, does he not get that yourlawyers has already "done the math" before she filed suit??

What a bullying douche canoe.

FTG!


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Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, August 17th (Saturday)

Crickets.


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Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

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Beyond
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Interesting that he knows what "befuddled" means, but doesn't know what "generous" means.


XOW.

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Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Interesting that he knows what "befuddled" means, but doesn't know what "generous" means.

It appears he doesn't know what "indulge" or "vindictive" mean either.

Tesla- perhaps you could send him a dictionary as a thank you present. It's the least you could do since he has done so much for you.


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3 beautiful young children
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

... if it goes to court you're just going to end up owing me money.

Then bring it on! I seriously doubt his interest here is one of altruism toward Tesla.


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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

His douchebaggery has grown wearisome.

(Did I make that sound as impressive as he thinks he sounds? I tried, yanno.)


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

First of all, his texts sound exactly like the bullying texts that I receive from my ex when he doesn't get his way.

Second, I would definitely try to see if you could take a lesser amount, in exchange for Mosley


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Personally, I rub my hands with glee when my ex is a fuckwit. It makes it so much easier for me to be superior and laugh at him.

You clearly have his measure, Tesla. I cant wait to hear about him leaving court with his tail between his legs.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:50 AM, August 19th (Monday)

More bullying. Received this early this am. So happy I put his texts and calls on silent.


Check with your lawyer, I faxed my tax returns to her firm. I will email them tomorrow copies of the deposits I made which I believe but will confirm shortly is well in excess of the entirety of the tax return. I will lawyer up in 3 days unless you turn from this nonsnse...I will require confirmation from your lawyer.

...unless I've turned from this nonsense...
FTG

[This message edited by tesla at 5:57 AM, August 19th (Monday)]


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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 6:07 AM, August 19th (Monday)

Maybe he really is confused on what he was supposed to pay.

I say this because, in our D decree it states no over nights with lover/paramours, and I get the first right of refusal. So, XWH spent the night with OW with our son there, then left son with Ow and went to work. HELLO!!!! When I emailed him he said since they had been together 3 years it was ok. WTH?

He had to leave work to go bring child to me.


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him - 46
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children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
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tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, August 19th (Monday)

I think he sincerely believes that the money he deposited into our joint account BEFORE we had a D settlement should count to offset this tax return. Or, he is thinking that the money he deposited from post D till I closed the joint checking account should count towards paying the tax return. (But that was counted towards CS).

I'll be interested to see what he faxes and emails over. I'm not worried about it...I have a good lawyer...he is clearly the one worked up about it.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, August 19th (Monday)

What he doesn't seem to understand is you're trying to follow the decree - not fuck him over. Y'know - the decree he signed and 'lawyered up' for last time. One of the ones that quit? Remember him asshat?

A free consultation with an L would give him all the answers he needs in the great CS vs Tax Return mystery.

What does your L say about his chances if he does fight this? Because you just know he's going to try.

What a schoolyard bully. I hope he pays costs for this 'nonsense' he is pulling.

Don't offer for Mosley. Lets see if his pea brain comes up with that one all by its little self. No need for him to know that that 'give a fuck' isn't yet broken.


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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, August 19th (Monday)

my x's lawyer was allegedly befuddled by his "generosity" too.


when facts that she wasn't told came out at his deposition-she was not pleased!


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, August 19th (Monday)

I think he sincerely believes that the money he deposited into our joint account BEFORE we had a D settlement should count to offset this tax return. Or, he is thinking that the money he deposited from post D till I closed the joint checking account should count towards paying the tax return.

I agree with this. He doesn't seem to understand that his overpayments don't count as pre-payments. He's kind of too stupid to read up on what's legal.


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