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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Long story, but an unknown friend of OW#3 just came to my house to drop off some firearms that DS20 was supposed to pick up. That, in itself, is a fucked up situation full of more POS lies, but this woman was put in the middle and was in tears with sorrow over what POS did to his family. I was calm and was trying to weedle info out of her, and boy did I hit the jackpot!

Apparently OW#3 has a child around a year old with POS. Why am I not surprised? She and the OC left the state about a month ago, and is in fear of POS. She is also having financial trouble because of POS and the cost of having to move. At least he is consistent! The "friend" (whom I could tell was genuine) said she told OW to get away from POS because he is frightening, has anger problems, and she thinks he is a con man.

So I guess I will have to change my tag line now... What an unbelievable piece of shit! Amazingly, I am so numb to his shit that I am really not that upset, just glad I am getting that fucking POS out of my life...

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 9:53 PM, August 16th (Friday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Soooo glad he is OUT of your life!!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Yikes! You are very fortunate to have that out of your life! It sounds like they are quite frightened of him.

It's sad that another child has been brought into this.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Oh, man. That poor kid.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Since my anniversary was yesterday, I guess this is my belated gift. Happy fucking anniversary to me...not


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, August 16th (Friday)

((((Phoenix)))) I'm sorry, honey. I know you are fortunate to have him out of your life, but that shit can leave a mark.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, August 16th (Friday)

On the bright side, since both POS and the whore left the state I don't have to worry about running into either one at the grocery store! I knew there was a positive side to this if I just thought long enough!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

On the bright side, since both POS and the whore left the state I don't have to worry about running into either one at the grocery store!

That is a good way of looking at it! It was a great relief to know that Ex's whore was thousands of miles away and I'd never have to see her face.

What he gave you during the relationship was probably the very best of him as sad as that is. The bottom of the barrel scraps of shit is all any other woman can hope to get at this point. Sounds like OW#3 learned the hard way what her "prize" really was unfortunately not without another innocent child having a POS father.

Men like him should be castrated.


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

^^^ Well, I''m pretty sure that I still have the gelding irons that I used to use when I helped a large animal vet. Although by the sound of things, tweezers and an eyelash scissor ought to do the trick.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4802 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

I am using the newfound info as leverage. He didn't get the dissolution paperwork in the mail as he said he would. I kindly let him know that I know about OC and now have witnesses to the A and if the paperwork is not in the mail by Monday I will be at an attorney's office on Tueysday filing for at fault divorce. His response? He said the paperwork will be in the mail on Monday and "no need to be nasty." So I guess finding out about his secret family is not a big deal and I should be fucking congratulating him on his virility... new baby at almost 60 years old. If I could reach thru the phone and rip his nuts off I would. He's got serious issues, and this really drove home that divorce is the right decision. I could never be with him again knowing just how fucked up he truly is. The really telling part of his text is that he didn't deny any of it.

On a positive note, the kids and I went to go have professional family pics taken of just the four of us...no POS. I can't wait to get them and display them proudly! That was a big event to start my new life and we all had fun doing it. MIL will be getting one (kids only so as not to rub it in too much) and POS will know EXACTLY what it represents and that he was excluded as we used to take family pics almost every year. He will likely never ever have an opportunity to do the same, and he knows it. The point will be very clear of just what he fucked up and ran away from. Actions have consequences, asshole...

I will bring the popcorn to the public castration if anyone wants to join me!

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 9:15 PM, August 17th (Saturday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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