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Dadtryingtocope
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

So it's my one year Dday anniversary and somewhat to my surprise I am all good. I barely thought about it. While I can recall all of the events and the unbelievable shock I was handed that night, I'm not really feeling bad about it. I guess it's just my past now and not a huge need to look back at is. Lessons learned, move on.


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 8)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 465 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
gardenparty
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Member # 12050
Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Time really is a great healer. So glad that you got through this day alright. I am seven years out now and although I would be lying if I said I never trigger about dates and things like that, they do not happen that often.


divorced!

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better4me
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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

so glad you barely thought about it. Cheers to moving on! (cue sound effect of the clinking of glasses)


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3011 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, August 18th (Sunday)

It takes time but it does get better!


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4375 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, August 18th (Sunday)

You are through all the firsts now - I found the antiversary of the day we got together which happened a few months before the DD antiversary was the hardest for me. By the time the DD antiversary came around I was in celebration mode.

I celebrated how different my life is now. How much more I'm getting out of every single moment of my life. What a better mother I am.

I savour all of it and I am celebrating all of it.

My triggers are different now - I trigger about things that I'm mad at myself about. I trigger about all the time I wasted being miserable. Far better than the yearning kind of triggers I was getting in that first year.

Welcome to the other side of Annus Horribilis, brother - with all of that awful stuff behind us. It is a glorious place to be!

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 6:59 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]


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Posts: 5440 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
gma56
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, August 18th (Sunday)


You're doing so well for only one year later !
I was still in the deep pit at a year out.
Next year will be even better.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

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