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Dadtryingtocope
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

So it's my one year Dday anniversary and somewhat to my surprise I am all good. I barely thought about it. While I can recall all of the events and the unbelievable shock I was handed that night, I'm not really feeling bad about it. I guess it's just my past now and not a huge need to look back at is. Lessons learned, move on.


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 518 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
gardenparty
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Member # 12050
Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

Time really is a great healer. So glad that you got through this day alright. I am seven years out now and although I would be lying if I said I never trigger about dates and things like that, they do not happen that often.


divorced!

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better4me
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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, August 17th (Saturday)

so glad you barely thought about it. Cheers to moving on! (cue sound effect of the clinking of glasses)


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3130 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, August 18th (Sunday)

It takes time but it does get better!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4516 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, August 18th (Sunday)

You are through all the firsts now - I found the antiversary of the day we got together which happened a few months before the DD antiversary was the hardest for me. By the time the DD antiversary came around I was in celebration mode.

I celebrated how different my life is now. How much more I'm getting out of every single moment of my life. What a better mother I am.

I savour all of it and I am celebrating all of it.

My triggers are different now - I trigger about things that I'm mad at myself about. I trigger about all the time I wasted being miserable. Far better than the yearning kind of triggers I was getting in that first year.

Welcome to the other side of Annus Horribilis, brother - with all of that awful stuff behind us. It is a glorious place to be!

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 6:59 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5557 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
gma56
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, August 18th (Sunday)


You're doing so well for only one year later !
I was still in the deep pit at a year out.
Next year will be even better.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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