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strawblond30
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Member # 6263
Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

He is already on match . Com . I should really mess with him.


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

Posts: 957 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: illinois
hurtbs
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Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

I should really mess with him.

why?


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
sparkysable
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Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

Eh, let him and his cesspool of shittyness wallow in his own stink. He'll get his, don't you worry about that. He will. Don't waste your time.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3390 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

Mine did this too. I reported him because he claimed he was already divorced, when in fact he was indeed quite married (and still is). I reported him to eharmony, too.

Other than something like that (reporting him), I think you should not "mess with" him. Playing games will only backfire on you.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9821 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
strawblond30
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Member # 6263
Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

So true I'm just hurt


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

Posts: 957 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: illinois
Strongmama
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Member # 33062
Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

Oh mine did that too; along with the pic of my sweet baby girl! Grr!!
I took a snap shot and sent it to my lawyer to send to his lawyer telling them I didn't give a rip if that pos was on there; our D wasn't final, but obviously a little thing like marriage vows were never an issue, but DON'T YOU DARE PUT A PIC IF ONE OF OUR SWEET KIDS ON THOSE sites! Omg I was gonna cut a bitch! I get that it hurts, and they are so pathetic, but if there's no pics if kids or anything I'd ignore and let him live his own pathetic life. That's what it is. Pathetic and full of lies that some poor fool will believe for a bit, but that's all.
(((Strawblond))) I'm sorry, and you didn't deserve this. Try NC, and venting here and ignoring!

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Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, August 18th (Sunday)

I'm just hurt

Continuing to give him so much head space, especially by actively focusing on him (sometimes we can't help the passive attention we give, but we sure as hell can do what we want about the active attention we give!) - sorry, what was I saying? Actively focusing on him enough to "mess with him" is only going to prolong the pain you feel.

They say that the best revenge is living well; that's not about him regretting you're living well, it's about re-claiming your head and heart and energy for yourself!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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