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sunshine226
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, August 19th (Monday)

I can't seem to stop checking on OW through my fake account

This is what she posted around midnight last night

"did you ever have one of those weekends you wish it didn't have to end ?Well I finally did ,wow it was amazing"

And stupid me clicked on who liked it and discovered yet another friend has added her, WTF. Not that this was a close friend but OMG, she too has been deleted from my real account. I just dont want people on my friend list who are not true friends. I will be seriously thinking about who is on my friend list and unless they really matter to me, they will be deleted.

I got FB to reconnect with old friends, classmates and family. So unless they are someone that I would want to spend time with, they are gone

I got my fake account to help with farmville and cityville games and since I don't play them anymore, I am getting rid of it, it has done nothing but hurt me since WH started cheating. For every post that makes me laugh that she posts, theres one that upsets me. Its just not worth it

I am done letting OW, WH, BIL, SIL, WH's cousin take up space in my head. Time to fill it with good people and happy thoughts, which none of the above mentioned provide me

Good riddence fake account, good riddence bullshit posts by the skank

I feel so empowered by this now, wonder what else I can do to rid myself of the drama?


Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

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sunshine226
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, August 19th (Monday)

finally deleted the texts from WH I was saving on my cell

Kept them for over a year because:

1. at the time they gave me comfort knowing he was coming back to me, because he said so

2. i would use them against them if I had to

Well, back in January, OW wanted me to send her some of them to prove what i was telling her, I did and boy do I wish I didnt, it didnt do a damn thing but piss off WH, and OW is always bringing it up, both the texts and the conversation we had, according to WH

I feel such a weight lifted by deleting my fake fb and now texts, next thing I think I will face is packing up the rest of his shit that is in my home!!!!


Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2013
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, August 19th (Monday)

Sounds like some good housekeeping/purging is going on. I remember the sense of relief that I got when we blocked OM and all of his friends and family. There are definitely better things to fill up your time, energy, and space with. Great job.

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BrighterFuture
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Default  Posted: 2:12 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

That's exactly what I felt about fb. After DDay, I not only deleted and blocked my ex, I also deleted all his relatives but still kept some of his friends. Then 2 months ago, I did more clean up deleting all friends that I knew through him plus people that I don't communicate with. Now, the only friends I have are people I actually know and communicate with. I'm very peaceful that way not knowing about my ex, his family or his friends life. My family deleted and blocked the POS too.

[This message edited by VeryHurtbroken at 2:18 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)]


Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.


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soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

Good for you sunshine!!
I did the same thing, but then went back in to my fake FB last week and it sent me spiraling to a very bad place. I won't make that mistake again.
I think it took courage to delete those texts. I'm still holding on to mine because there are things on the thread I could use against him if he starts to misbehave during the divorce.
Kudos to you!!


Divorced 1/3/14

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

That's fantastic, sunshine! Very empowering and cleansing. Onward.


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Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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sunshine226
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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I deleted them off my phone but i have them saved on my computer, just in case! Wish I recorded all our telephone conversations too, and any time he was here


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DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

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ShedSomeLight
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Default  Posted: 7:08 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I deleted my Facebook account because the woman he had the affair with, stalked me on there. She began stalking me thru Facebook because he was trying to end it and she "stalked me" through facebook, phone calls to my cell and work phone and emails to me. I actually got her name from the police and then he confessed !!! Social media is great until you get "stalked". He was blown away that she went so far to "stalk" me. She even sat in her SUV in front of our house when I was working from home. I am no longer on Facebook as the police told me to delete my account. I also had to delete all the emails she sent to me and not continue to reread them hundreds of times. I am a emotional cutter ! I am not sure if our relationship can be saved as I am only three weeks in... in counseling and he is truly remorseful...however I have been completely violated. My Dog and I might just be moving on. Thank God for pets...they love you no matter what !!!

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Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

Shed some light....yes, I understand your phrase emotional cutter. I never thought of it that way.

Sunshine....we have kept the A quiet with just a handful who know. The OW was not known to me or H until 3 months before the EA started. None of our friends knew her either. We are not Facebook friends but I can still check her public page. After the PA ended, her mutual friends shot up to 35. As of yesterday there are 62 mutual friends. She added one last week. This is a person that should have no real relationship with anyone we know. I feel the need to have a way to check up on her and she provides chuckles from time to time. The OW is such a narcissist that her page is very public. Everyone in the kingdom should be interested in her life. I cringe when I see who she as friended and I have no idea where she links with them.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


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