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BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, August 19th (Monday)

Does anyone else do this, or is it just me?

It started back when I was engaged in college to my fiance. I don't communicate well when I am angry/frustrated- I tend to get vindictive, call names, yell, etc... In order to help prevent that, I would practice what I planned on saying and addressing the topic while I was in the car, etc...

It gets worse. I have gotten to the point now where I will "say" outloud whatever I am feeling in the car on the way to work as soon as I drop off my daughter. I sometimes don't even mean to. Some of the stuff is preparing what I plan on bringing up that evening. Some of it is venting out loud.

Anyone with me? Is this completely unhealthy?


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


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cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 3:58 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I don't know if it's healthy r not, but I do the same thing. Driving alone is the worst, I talk, sometime these moans come out.

At work I keep saying, "what am I doing?" and then I reply to myself, "stop saying that".

Thankfully, my co-workers are great people and my boss has actually been through this with his wife. So he doesn't think I am totally crazy.

It is embarrassing though.


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dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013

attempted R, it was all a lie

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Posts: 1097 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 5:17 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

Of course I talk to myself. Im the only one who understands me.

(I think it's normal. I *hope* it is...anyway... )


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: R? I don't know..ask me tomorrow..it changes rapidly.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 6669 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
devasted30
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

Oh, Oh. I've always talked to myself. This isn't normal?
Ooops.
And yes, I too am the only one who understands me.....I need this.

Posts: 497 | Registered: Jun 2013
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I talk out loud in the car constantly. I am a very entertaining guest.


me - BS (45)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"An affair is more akin to a mental illness than a relationship."

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Posts: 1360 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

actually, studies have shown its a sign of intelligence...


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 47
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

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SadFlower
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I talk to myself all the time. Sometimes it's just venting, sometimes it's rehearsing difficult conversations, such as the big D-Day conversation (rehearsing did help a lot!). Saying things out loud helps me process things.


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 18 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 318 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
daisychains
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I've always talked to myself - now the chats tend to be a lot longer - though it's nice to know it's a sign of intelligence.


LTA 3.5 years

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Scubachick
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

I don't really talk outloud to myself but I shake my head, roll my eyes, smile based on the conversation I'm having with myself in my head. I don't realize I'm doing it...my son points it out. It's really bad in the car. I bet I look insane at redlights.

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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

It's really embarrassing when I'm in a full roll and then realize I am at a stop light and other people are around. This is where pretending to be on the phone comes in handy.

[This message edited by Rebreather at 2:24 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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