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mom of 2
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Member # 11214
Question  Posted: 6:04 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

If even the tiniest bit would you consider making a donation? This is a non-profit website and all expenses are paid out of pocket by Mangled Heart and Deeply Scared.

They do not solicit donations but if interested click on the tiny red heart to the left of your screen, above the yellow box, titled "Donations". And your donation is tax deductible!

FYI: I am not a spokesperson for SI but this site has literally saved my life. I am thinking a lot of us feel the same.

Wishing peace for us ALL!


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13260 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
nestlee
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Member # 39871
Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

This site is great..the people on here are very awesome and wise. I am very grateful to have found this site.


A woman needs a man..Like a fish needs a Bycicle.

Posts: 68 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Canada
purplejacket4
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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

I have donated and upgraded my account.

I would probably have given up during TT and broken NC if not for the advice here, and this place helps me keep my sanity about other off topic areas too. And I get a lot of laughs from F&G. AND I won the NFL pick 'em contest last year! Booh Ya!


Me: BS 44
Her: fWS 47 (same sex partner)
Together: 17 now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 1851 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)

SI absolutely saved my life.

Talk about a one stop shop for compassion, insight, and somewhere to go when you're just feeling lonely and need to talk to someone who understands.

I've had my hand held as I made good life decisions, and been gently guided away from some crappy ones all thanks to the opportunity to talk it out here.

Eternally. Grateful.

Thanks for the reminder, mo2.



For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

Posts: 14602 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

(((Mom of 2)))

you're always such a champion...thank you for everything

We are invoiced $536.00 a month just for the co-location of the servers and email accounts.

We've implemented various things we thought would help absorb some of the costs...SImplicity, the Amazon Deal of the Day, Google ads...but nothing really seems to be working. Donations are practically non-existent.

We just can't invest anymore of MH's time with upgrading the site when we're already so far in debt with SI...but thank you for always being there for us!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 191805 | Registered: May 2002
heforgotme
Member
Member # 38391
Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

I have been meaning to upgrade for a while now, so thanks to your reminder, I just did!


D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

Posts: 1035 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: FL
mom of 2
Member
Member # 11214
Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Bump!


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13260 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
mom of 2
Member
Member # 11214
Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

bumping again to keep on page one.


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13260 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
Spelljean
Member
Member # 35624
Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Absolutely. I will definitely give.


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
mom of 2
Member
Member # 11214
Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Thank you Spelljean!


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13260 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
20WrongsVs1
Member
Member # 39000
Happy  Posted: 7:34 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

It has helped a lot! Just upgraded to platinum.

You could find a much cheaper hosting solution...if you didn't care about reliability and privacy. We pay a similar amount per month, but host several profitable SaaS products on our server.

Thanks for all you do, MH, DS, and the entire staff.


^^Everything I write, IMHO & YMMV.^^
fWW: 42, amazing H and two elementary-age kids.
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing & rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about.

Posts: 762 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Redneck land
PurpleBirch
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Member # 39170
Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

I know that "ifs" and "somedays" aren't helpful, but I intend on donating once I go back to work in September. I just don't know how much I can actually afford to give.


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
ILINIA
Member
Member # 39836
Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Donated...I am now a platinum member!

Is it sad that I am somewhat excited about getting to 50 posts to check out the Investigative forum.....ah, the strange little things I look forward to these days!


Entering R slowly and cautiously...

Posts: 393 | Registered: Jul 2013
La Traviata
Member
Member # 14941
Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

I'm neutral. Some things have helped, some things have hurt me or held me back. I've been here awhile so I guess I "owe" the site owners money?

I'd prefer a subscription system rather than just a "tip jar" as it is now.


me: BW 31
him: WH, 29
DDay: 4/16/12
RelapseDay:4/15/13

A year of false R. I grew and worked, he didn't. He took off his wedding ring during an alcoholic relapse, I packed and left the next day. I went back 8 weeks later, working hard


Posts: 186 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: NOVA
Laura28
Member
Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, August 24th (Saturday)

Bumped to encourage more people to donate.


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
wildbananas
Member
Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, August 24th (Saturday)

I just threw some in the tip jar, too.

Wish it was more... thanks for all you do!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15278 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Just a Cali girl
Skan
Member
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, August 24th (Saturday)

My FWH and I just had THE financial talk this morning. He was laid off as of the 15th, so we came up with our new budget, figured out how long we could stay at this level, and when we needed to have the going to the next level talk. And then I took a deep breathe and said, I know this isn''t a good time for this, but I need to talk to you about making a donation to SI.

He didn''t even hesitate. He said, do it. He has a small pot of money for non-essentials (we both do, and once those pots are gone, we will not be re-filling them until he gets hired), and he told me to take it out of there, if needed. He said, even though he had never been on the site, that through my participation, we were both getting a great benefit and it was only right to help support it.

So, there you go! Have I said today how proud I am of Mr. Skan?


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4085 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
confused615
Member
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, August 24th (Saturday)

That's fantastic,Skan.

(((Skan and Mr Skan)))

Im donating Friday,DS...better get a bigger tip jar!


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: R? I don't know..ask me tomorrow..it changes rapidly.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 6630 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Laura28
Member
Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 2:40 AM, September 6th (Friday)

Bumping so people don't forget to help with the $$$$ needed to keep this site going.


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
Member
Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 6:35 AM, September 8th (Sunday)

Bump


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
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