I would love to know the answer as well.
I did remarkabley well with forgiveness and love after dd1 and dd2 but dd3 has done me in and left me in a very bad place emotionally.
I'm still trying to hold out help for my children's sake. I just worry what it will cost me.Me: late 30s Husband: late 30s
M 14 years, T 18
C: 8 and 10
DD 1: 3/12 numerous PA from 95-05 resulted in me confessing to brief PA prior to marriage
DD 2: 4/12 RA with prost.
DD 3: 11/12 RA with old professor
Hoping for R but doubtful