Wayward Side
User Topic: Need Advice from an fws
New Member
Member # 40354
Default  Posted: 7:15 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

hello ... i would really appreciate some advice from a FWS. My husband has had multiple sexual affairs that I found out about 3 months ago. He begged me not to leave him(we have 2 teenagers) so I agreed to MC. After being in MC for 3 months I learned a few days ago that he is having an EA and SA with a different woman whom he says he loves. We have gone through 3 days of intense conversation and counseling. He has now allegedly discolsed everything.
So now - the most painful thing for me is watching him grieve the loss of the OW. He is being honest with his feelings but the NC has been very difficult for him.
How long can I expect it will take to watch him greive this loss. When do the feelings begin to subside? If he truly wants to R (as he says he does), what can I expect of his process. (yes, I know I have my process to contend with but part of my process is watching his.)
Any advice would be most appreciated. Thank you!

Posts: 15 | Registered: Aug 2013
SI Staff
Member # 10
Red  Posted: 7:22 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Hi Lifejourney,

BSs aren't allowed to start threads in this forum. You can post your question in the I Can Relate Forum under BS Questions for waywards.

Thank you.

Posts: 10000 | Registered: May 2002
Topic Posts: 2