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struggling3
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Member # 34671
Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Today is our 31st wedding anniversary and it feels like we are in a really good place. My H has really stuck with the ups and downs of that roller-coaster (as he should). He has shown such remorse, compassion, and has made me know that I am his everything. He knows that I still have some struggles and is time after time there for me and makes me feel beautiful and wanted after all of these years. After two years of dealing with this shit...I am rapidly feeling better. Had to share my good
day.


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 28, 25, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 293 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Sadwife222
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Member # 40050
Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Our marriage counselor, who was cheated on eleven years ago, told me it took her two years to get to the other side.
I'm happy for you and hoping I will feel happy again when I'm at the two-year mark. It is getting better but it's ever so slowly.


Me BW, Him WH
DD #1, caught 4/12/13
DD #2, tells me the whole truth, 5/21/13
DD #3, TT until 8/9/13 then full disclosure w/timeline
DD #4, 8/26/13, OW texts me more info, he tells me the whole truth
DD # 5, 9/11/13, he tells me the whole truth??

Posts: 130 | Registered: Jul 2013
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

This is great to hear. Congrats, struggling3!

Posts: 6216 | Registered: Dec 2010
AFrayedKnot
Member
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
nekorb
Member
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Wonderful!

You give me hope....


Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Heading for Divorce
3 kids: 15,17,19

Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.


Posts: 1688 | Registered: Aug 2013
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Wonderful update!

Posts: 33855 | Registered: Mar 2011
Twentyplus
New Member
Member # 39593
Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, August 21st (Wednesday)

31st anniversary coming up in Nov. While not where you are, so very much better and actually looking forward to celebrating this one,

Appreciate your post.


"But we must supply our own light." - Stanley Kubrick


Posts: 50 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: The Big Blue Sea
ohiocarrie535
Member
Member # 39709
Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

I've heard over and over the 2-5 year mantra. At 6 months it's disheartening to think I have another 18 months of this roller coaster! Ugh!!!

Posts: 83 | Registered: Jun 2013
forgivingnow
Member
Member # 33549
Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Happy Anniversary!!!!


Me-BS 51
FWH-51
M 31 yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yourself.
R

Posts: 597 | Registered: Oct 2011
struggling3
Member
Member # 34671
Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

Thanks everyone for the good wishes. I went to his office to surprise him for lunch. It is far from home and she works in the same building. It was great...no triggers...very romantic. We had the very best day and I was on cloud nine.

Ohiocarrie535

I've heard over and over the 2-5 year mantra. At 6 months it's disheartening to think I have another 18 months of this roller coaster! Ugh!!!
I wish I could tell you this isn't so but sadly it really is. I have had just about the best case scenario with my H doing everything right and it was still damn hard at times. I can still have some really bad moments. Just hang in there and try to stay in the present as much as possible. I'm not saying to rugsweep your feelings...let them happen...talk about them and try to let it go and get back to the present and staying close. Good luck


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 28, 25, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 293 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
bionicgal
Member
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

So nice to hear!


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1740 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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