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TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

how can they fucking sit right in front of you, look you right in the eye and FUCKING LIE.

Everything he SWORE to last night, fucking EVERYTHING, is one big fat damn lie.

Fucking liar. why do I even bother? I actually believed him last night. I wanted to start trusting him again and now here we are right back to the fucking beginning all over again...LIES upon LIES upon LIES

And he swore to me he was telling me the truth. Fucking liar. he wouldn't know the truth if it came up and slapped him in the face.

It comes down to this simple TRUTH: if he wanted to be with me, then he'd be with me.

And until that happens, that fat fucking bitch whore slut who is also bi-sexual can continue to play house with him. Note: no offense intended to bi-sexuals but I was not aware of that before

Sorry for the rant but I still had to get that out of my system after going for a 3 mile walk and weight workout.


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Posts: 247 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast
TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

thanks for letting me get that out...

I am now going to meditate for a bit to find my center again.

And then off to my CODA group meeting.

What a life I have now


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Posts: 247 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast
TICKED OFF
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Well hell, I guess you just have to do what you have to do to let it all out. If saying the word fuck 20 times in one paragraph makes you fell better then that is good by me.

Oh, and do like me, make sure they are heavy weights you are lifting. And then go to the stationary bag, grab a bar and beat the hell out of it. It really does work. Oh sure, the trainers at the gym will be looking at you like you are nuts but who gives a fuck what they think.


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pewpewpew
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Whatever works hun.

I've been drinking wine - everyday for a year... Usually just 1 glass but sometimes more on my "bad days". Probably should do something more productive...


ME: 30
WH: 35

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.


Posts: 308 | Registered: Jan 2013
TheRealDeal
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Thanks for the support - I just signed up for a kickboxing class to work out my anger. It doesn't start for a couple of weeks though

my anger is just now starting to come to the surface and I can clearly see I need another outlet.

Prior to all this nightmare starting I hardly swore at all; that has certainly changed. And it's not a good thing so I add that to my list of things I need to work on too. But at least it's only here on SI not IRL.

hope I didn't offend anyone too much but that sure felt good to get it out.


Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
We are in R and trying to make it
Never lose yourself trying to hang onto someone who doesn't care about losing you.

Posts: 247 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Northeast
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Offend someone? Here? 'Cuz you used the f word a few times? Oh dear!

Here, let me share with you one of my favorite sayings. Feel free to use it when you're trying to understand the insanity:

"What the fuckity fuck?"


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9475 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

What the fuckity fuck?"

NG, I find that one is actually even more helpful if I add one more word to it, as in "What the fuckity FUCKING fuck?"

YMMV, of course.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2698 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

NG, I find that one is actually even more helpful if I add one more word to it, as in "What the fuckity FUCKING fuck?"

YMMV, of course.

Fuckin' A! That might just fucking work!

FTR, I do not talk like this IRL.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9475 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
StepAside
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Member # 29826
Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

"What the fuckity FUCKING fuck?"

FUCK YEAH!

((TRD)) Let it out hon, you are safe to do it here, nobody will look sideways at you...not that that old prissy biddy at the grocery store the other day while I was minding my own business stomping through the store mumbling obscenities. WHAT? Like you have never done that?!


Me 48yrs, douche midlife crisis poster boy- 50yrs
too many A's to bother to count, he is a predator that targets loosers like himself
Last Dday April 12/10-Divorcing
We live in a world where the fear of illusion is real

Posts: 1513 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Ingersoll Ontario
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

FTR, I do not talk like this IRL.
I never used to, but I lost my filter in the divorce.

RealDeal - remember the immortal words of Shrek - "Better out than in..." and vent away. ((((hugs))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 24789 | Registered: Aug 2011
Tred
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

If I recall, there was an entire thread to just saying fuck in some way or another. It was all the rage for a couple of days . I don't think you need worry about venting.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3849 | Registered: Dec 2011
gonnabe2016
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Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

But at least it's only here on SI not IRL

Ha. Ha. Ha. Prepare for that to change....especially if you continue to engage with a liar that is living with his OW.
Pre-Dday I used the 'f' word very sparingly and I cringed when I said it. Seriously. Think Bree from Desperate Housewives.
Today I was inside a church sanctuary, talking to someone about the possibility that s/he was being scammed by a Liberian. I kept using swear words (although I *did* bite my tongue on the 'f' word, but all others were fair game). I would say a sentence. Then I'd immediately apologize for swearing....

Point is -- get used to it. There's a new game in town.


But more importantly.....STOP sitting in front of this guy while he's LIVING with an OW. He has nothing of use to say to you, other than "what's the name of your L," so long as that situation continues......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7880 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
mixedintherut
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Sometimes throwing the cuss words in there just take the edge off a little bit more!


DD 1: PA 12/4/09 He spent 2.5 years with OW1
R: 8/31/2012
DD 2: EA 8/16/13
BS: 26
WH: 25
1 young daughter.
Terribly disgusted. He refuses to give up his "friend". Headed towards D.

Posts: 136 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: kentucky
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

"What the fuckity FUCKING fuck?"

Oooooo....

Already liked "What the fuckidy fuck?!" but this is New and Improved! Me likey!!!!!


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus. Be mindful, compassionate, and responsible Something valuable I learned on SI. :)

Posts: 3900 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Vent away RealDeal! The lies are mind-blowing. During one convo years ago, where I again asked if he was involved with the ow, my H swore on our CHILDREN'S LIVES that he was not and that he was telling the truth, but that was another lie!!! Of course he was lying to continue covering his ass but to swear on your own children's lives...when you know you're lying...wow, unbelievable.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9689 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
Take2
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Bad language could be good for you, a new study shows. For the first time, psychologists have found that swearing may serve an important function in relieving pain.

^^http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-do-we-swear

I shit you not! That's my story and I'm sticking to it - Swearing is a form of pain relief!

(I scarcely ever swore before Dday, now... )

[This message edited by Take2 at 10:29 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)]


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crazyblindsided
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

my H swore on our CHILDREN'S LIVES that he was not and that he was telling the truth, but that was another lie!!! Of course he was lying to continue covering his ass but to swear on your own children's lives...when you know you're lying...wow, unbelievable.

Mine did the same thing. Fucking Bastard!


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

Mine did the same thing. Fucking Bastard!

Same here. Swore on the children's lives, swore on his mother's grave, swore on all that was holy, cried out for God to strike him dead... What a fucking lying bastard. Fucker.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9475 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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