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strawblond30
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

She said my marriage was over years ago when he started cheating. And she thinks he is a narcissist


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

Posts: 957 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: illinois
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

((strawblond30))

It hurts but sometimes it helps so that you can let go that which you cant control (him) and focus on you.

You are the prize. Focus on you now and getting to a better, stronger, healthier you. You are worth it.


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 752 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Did it help you to hear that from someone not connected? I hope so because your IC is right. ((Hugs))


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4614 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
gonnabe2016
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Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Well talk about cutting right to the chase, huh?

The 'label' itself doesn't really matter. It is what the 'labelee' (your wh) is doing about himself.

I appreciate straight talk and I would have SO loved an IC that said what yours said to you... to me...instead of my having to use the 'figure it out for yourself in due time' mindset that so many IC's seem to have.

And you are aware that people with personality disorders, which includes NPD, are pretty much NOT going to change, right? (change IS possible for any human, but that human has to be desirable of the change.....and PD'd people have to be total 'change workhorses' in order to have any effect)

Start detaching, SB.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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