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click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

How'd that happen?

I haven't had a date or just a "meet for a drink to size up the other person in person" in over a year.

I wasn't expecting to be asked out so fast. There was just a question or two back and forth. Usually I like to talk a lot longer than that before agreeing to meet, but why not talk in person?

Eeeks.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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ArkLaMiss
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Happy  Posted: 11:53 PM, August 21st (Wednesday)

Relax! It's only a date. Have fun and please report back asap!


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

Breathe!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

I think it's awesome, clicky! I hope you have a great time.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

YAY!!!! I hope you have a blast! (And please update us!)


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

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HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:20 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

I have a lot of guys who ask me out in the second email. They just don't like/want to bother with the email chatty stuff.

Usually I tell them I like to chat just a bit before meeting, or ask for their first/last name to google them before agreeing to meet.

Some poof after I ask for their name


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)

YAY Clicky!!!!!!



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click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

Its not till Tuesday. But I will keep you all posted.

(The cynical part of me says - he will cancel anyway)

I know, I know, stop trying to think so negative.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

Oooooh I'm EXCITED!!!

I'll try my best not to be a nuisance Wednesday morning.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

AWESOME clicky! You GO girl! You soooo deserve this. Enjoy!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

Yay for first dates! Have fun, honey.


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Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

Here I go wondering...

The last thing I said was "yes, 7pm should work for me."

And then nothing.

And yes, I looked at his profile a few more times to get his details again so I wouldn't be going "blind" to this meet up.

But now I wonder if he thinks damn why does she keep looking at my profile and now changed his mind.

Damn full moons, its making me nutty tonight...


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
click4it
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

WELL, here I am about to head out the door, makeup on and rushed to get dressed and SOMETHING told me to check online to see if there is any last minute messages from him.

And wa-la there is one. He sent me a message online at 3pm saying he is unable to make it tonight due to work and can I meet tomorrow. Good enough reason, however, he had my number (as he gave me his) and could have TEXTED me this information so that I didn't get ready and almost head out the door. What if I hadn't checked online?

So, I politely replied that its a good thing I checked online first before leaving and that I am unavailable tomorrow.

If I didn't rush to feed my son before leaving, I'd just say hey kids lets go eat since I'm ready to go!

Worst feeling when you are all dressed up and nowhere to go. Oh well, time to dress into my PJ's and settle in for the night.

decided to go get a big hot fudge sundae.

don't think anyone is reading my update..maybe that's a good thing.

[This message edited by click4it at 9:56 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)]


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Sooooo... How was the sundae?

Xoxo


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

De-lish! I just gained 5lbs.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Good call on the sundae, clickie.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Yeah you can never go wrong with a sundae. ty wild.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
ArkLaMiss
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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Awwwww, sorry! He's a jerk!


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:38 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

well Ark, I don't know, but I do know he didn't handle the cancellation well.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
ArkLaMiss
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Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Well, he could've handled it MUCH better than he did, for sure. We women take HOURS agonizing on everything regarding clothes, hairstyle, makeup, shoes, etc. Jeez, how rude of him to flake last minute!


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

So, I politely replied that its a good thing I checked online first before leaving and that I am unavailable tomorrow

GOOD RESPONSE!!! SCREW HIM! Sorry...but I'm glad you told him you were unavailable the next day. I wouldn't have given him the reason why either (cause its none of his business) but he needs to know that you are a beautiful and available woman who is very busy and your time is precious. If he wants to meet you , then he needs to be more thoughtful and considerate. I would think long and hard before I would agree to another date.

I had my 1st poofer do this to me twice. But, he cancelled the night before the date....enough time for me to get excited about it and then let down. He had seemingly legitimate excuses but then never rescheduled the last time he did it. We had the token "1st date" that never materialized for a 2nd one.

Hold out for the right one. The right one will never cancel on you and the right one will never keep you guessing! (I guess I need to take my own advice most times! )


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Glad your sundae didn't disappoint.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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click4it
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Nope, the sundae's never disappoint.

Oh Shelly, I've been around the block so to speak on the dating game and I now know what I am up "against". 6 years ago I might have actually agreed to meet the next night because my self esteem was in the toilet at that time. But now I am out of that mind set and in a totally new frame of mind.

This is the second time in a year that this has happened to me and it does suck, but I know that I'll be ok.

Do I sit and wonder if I'm destined to be alone forever, sure I do. But I'm not as upset as I would have been in the past.

I showed my boys that I could shrug it off like it was his loss and everything is still ok with me and the world.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

I showed my boys that I could shrug it off like it was his loss and everything is still ok with me and the world.
This is just fabulous, click.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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