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livebythesea
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Member # 38900
Default  Posted: 7:05 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

All this shit started March 9th when I went to visit a "medium/physic" and she told me that my husband had cheated on me. She was right on! She even told me that there was one women that he had been with more than once. So what does he tell me, he says he was with this one women "twice". Not sure, maybe he was with her more than once.

Anyway, Sept 3rd I have an apt with the same physic. Need to know if he has told me everything, if he truly is remorseful, what else does she see in my cards!

Seriously wondering if I should go there. What if she tells me something I do not want to hear (and who knows, she may be wrong). I have been having night mares about this visit. Should I go or not.


HIM - 56(looks older by the day)
his time has come
ME - 56 (heart aged lately)
DD1 April 5 2013 (told me a lie)
DD2 April 23 2013
DD3 June 22 2013
3 children
1 grand child

Posts: 195 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Near the ocean ... Canada
poopylala
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Member # 30119
Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

I am wary of psychics so my answer would be "no." I only say this with kindness. There is no science that supports this kind of thing, but to share with you what my IC said: if your gut says something is up, trust it; ideally, you'd be going to your H about things but if he isn't giving you information, you should find a solid way to get the answers you need to confront him (text messages, emails, etc) because even though the psychic has been right so far, I don't know how seriously your husband would take your information :/


BGF (me)- 25
FWBF (him)- 24
Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

"To err is human.
To forgive,
divine"


Posts: 960 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Houston, TX
livebythesea
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Member # 38900
Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

I would never reveal to him that I received the info from a physic.


HIM - 56(looks older by the day)
his time has come
ME - 56 (heart aged lately)
DD1 April 5 2013 (told me a lie)
DD2 April 23 2013
DD3 June 22 2013
3 children
1 grand child

Posts: 195 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Near the ocean ... Canada
livebythesea
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Member # 38900
Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, August 22nd (Thursday)

I regret so much for not pursuing the damn polygraph test. Just the other day I brought the subject up. He definitely will not take it. His reason for not taking it is "I will stand up on my two feet, like a man and fix this" (mess). REALLY??? Like a man ... I will get the truth out of him. I will ...


HIM - 56(looks older by the day)
his time has come
ME - 56 (heart aged lately)
DD1 April 5 2013 (told me a lie)
DD2 April 23 2013
DD3 June 22 2013
3 children
1 grand child

Posts: 195 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Near the ocean ... Canada
circlingthedrain
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Member # 25733
Default  Posted: 6:21 AM, August 23rd (Friday)

Might want to tell him that 'standing on his own two feet like a man' means doing everything that you need to heal. Tell him before he can be a man, he needs to grow the fuck up.


BH (me), 53
FWW (Her) 55
DD18, DS15
D-Day 12/23/2007
R going well

Wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then --- Bob Seger


Posts: 326 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: East Coast
AStar
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Member # 39971
Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, August 23rd (Friday)

Apologies on advance if I offend anyone - esp livebythesea with what I write.

I am skeptical when it comes to mediums or psychics... I am open enough to know you do get gifted people who know things they can't know: I am related to one. However, livebythesea, you are looking for answers and those answers rightfully should come from your H.
You need to talk to him and get those answers.
The choice to go to the medium remains yours, but you may be looking for answers in the wrong place.


Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
livebythesea
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Member # 38900
Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, August 23rd (Friday)

I agree. However, he tells me I have the whole truth. I beleive him , not totally though. I keep reminding myself that he refuses to take the poly test. His refusal makes me doubtful. Beside this medium was right on. I had no idea he had cheated.


HIM - 56(looks older by the day)
his time has come
ME - 56 (heart aged lately)
DD1 April 5 2013 (told me a lie)
DD2 April 23 2013
DD3 June 22 2013
3 children
1 grand child

Posts: 195 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Near the ocean ... Canada
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