I cannot understand what kind of person behaves that way, and honestly I'm glad. I don't want to understand THAT. It's too toxic.
I don't want to understand it either. If I started to investigate why, as an empathetic, sympathetic person, would I feel for these people? Would I begin to understand it somehow and give them justification for some trauma they went through or FOO origin issues? BUT I DON'T CARE. I DON'T WANT TO UNDERSTAND IT!! It's sick and twisted and fucked up beyond my recognition, and I don't want to waste any brain space on it.
We are who we surround ourselves with. We are what we buy. We are where we go.
My life was a black hole of crap, trying to find a way out and show him the light.
Now that I'm physically away from him, my life is filled with family, old friends, Boy Scout moms, moms of my kids' classmates, grocery stores, libraries, book stores, playgrounds, water parks, my mom's pool, church with my kids' cousins. I love my life now.
But stupid FTFred and his skank are constantly trying to bring me down, bothering me, texting me, emailing me, cursing me out, dicking me around with the kids, sending me a horrible song on my 10th anniversary about how she doesn't care if I'm dead or alive, financially ruining me, the list goes on and on. How the hell do I cut that crap out of my life??
Just as you said, this behavior is toxic, and I want it out of my life as soon as possible. I guess it's up to me to stop letting it get to me, but damn, it's a struggle. I don't want to understand it and try to figure out how to make it stop, I just want it to go away...
Even though the skank continues to send me texts, I've yet to block her. I'm thinking a few more and I will have enough for a restraining order. That toxic bitch better watch her back. I'm cutting this shit out any way I can think of..
And if I can figure out how to play my cards right, Mr. Toxic FTFred will get fried in court.
These assholes don't deserve children. Perhaps they deserve play time every now and then, but true loving parents they are NOT..
ETA: By the way, Nature_Girl, thanks for officially dubbing him FTFred. I love it