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broken2
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Finish the sentence,....

When in doubt,.....

I say, go with your gut.


Posts: 2019 | Registered: Nov 2007
Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

More wine.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13181 | Registered: Jul 2011
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Use a condom.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 6983 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Throw it out!


Me-BS-59
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 2895 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Oh wow. What a sequence we've created.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13181 | Registered: Jul 2011
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Sleep on it.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22533 | Registered: Aug 2011
kernel
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Member # 27035
Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

... get tested. (sorry to be obvious)

...don't ask the due date.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

Posts: 4631 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
meaniemouse
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Member # 10798
Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

keep quiet.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2053 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

... Charlie out.

This is a way to remember "to choose C" on a multiple choice test. At one time C was a statistically slightly higher correct answer choice with randomized testing answers. However, since then, and due to the release of this "fact" I am sure the correct answer is in fact some other answer choice.

I still tell my students this "fact" though. A consistent guess will bring more correct answers than just random guessing. And if they feel even slightly more confident that they have a strategy, they are more likely to do better on the test as a whole.

Sorry for the lengthy explanation to a simple question!!!


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 12 DS 9
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5288 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
jrc1963
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Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

Do without!


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 23959 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Undefinabl3
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Member # 36883
Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, August 26th (Monday)

Duct tape and WD 40


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
~Some days are better then others~

Posts: 1608 | Registered: Sep 2012
Jpapageorge
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Member # 31800
Default  Posted: 3:40 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Use more frosting.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1653 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
silverhopes
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Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 4:19 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

...Use subjunctive.


(Can't take credit for that one - that's what my Spanish teacher used to say.)


Find peace. Or sleep on it.

Posts: 3761 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Threnody
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Member # 1558
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Do the opposite of what your Facebook friends suggest.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14039 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
ajsmom
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Member # 17460
Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Don't ask your Facebook friends.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21005 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Menu out.

(that's how the Nav system in my car works, lol)


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 5851 | Registered: Jan 2011
sportsfan
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Member # 9918
Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

... call a time-out.

Posts: 1915 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: PA
TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Send TCD fifty bucks. What? That doesn't work?


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 10 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 8, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

What am I doing?


Posts: 1547 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
AStar
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Member # 39971
Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

* chuck it out
* choose option c
* turn right


Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

say "fuck it".

(except for the condom thing)


Me: 41
Two boys: 16 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25502 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Kalleigh
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Punt


I love my husband and kids, but there is something missing, LIKE MAYBE A LIFE!!!!!!!

Posts: 6479 | Registered: Mar 2003 | From: Wisconsin
heartbroken_kk
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Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

don't hit send


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1001 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
TrulyReconciled
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Member # 3031
Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

^^^ good advice ^^^


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

Posts: 20473 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
Brandon808
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Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

...about major life decisions ask yourself is it what you want to do or what you think you should do?

p.s. I hope it goes without saying that this does not apply to promises, contracts or vows. You kind of already made the decision in that case.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 3363 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
atsenaotie
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Member # 27650
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

When in doubt,.....

do as the doubters do, or does that only apply to Rome?


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

Posts: 3961 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
Lucky2HaveMe
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Member # 13333
Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Spit it out!


~L2HM~
Every Storm Runs out of Rain ~ Gary Allen

Posts: 5429 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
purplejacket4
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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Order out (I'm a food sniffer... too many bad experiences with left overs!)


Me: BS 44
Her: fWS 47 (same sex partner)
Together: 17 now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 1848 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Snapdragon
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Member # 4286
Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, August 30th (Friday)

When in doubt
I whip it out
I got me a rock 'n' roll band
It's a free-for-all

~Ted Nugent - Free For All


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


Posts: 3055 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, August 30th (Friday)

Keep your mouth shut.

ok it doesn't rhyme, but it's taken me nearly 43 years to learn this one.

Snapdragon:
Love the Nugent reference btw


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 14 & 16
Married for 21 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 6526 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, August 31st (Saturday)

Kick it out

The 7-8yo coach of my DD's soccer team used to say this to the girls while trying to teach them strategy

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4002 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Must Survive
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Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, August 31st (Saturday)

Smile


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 588 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
alphakitte
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Member # 33438
Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, August 31st (Saturday)

don't


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

Posts: 331 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: 3 klicks north of Ambiguous
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Member # 18449
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, August 31st (Saturday)

Turn This Mutha Out

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1q2TA2zPtac


Posts: 10904 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: North Carolina
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 1:42 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

...throw it out.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8725 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
wannabenormal
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Member # 19772
Default  Posted: 3:10 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

When in doubt, make sure whatever you do can't be traced.


BW, divorced: 03/09


Posts: 14252 | Registered: Jun 2008
Laura28
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Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 5:34 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

stay silent


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

throw him out

Well at least it rhymes!


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 5:37 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

eat chocolate

(It doesn't rhyme but always helps me think)


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
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