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broken2
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Finish the sentence,....

When in doubt,.....

I say, go with your gut.


Posts: 2041 | Registered: Nov 2007
Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

More wine.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13801 | Registered: Jul 2011
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Use a condom.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7769 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Throw it out!


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3667 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Oh wow. What a sequence we've created.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13801 | Registered: Jul 2011
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

Sleep on it.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25756 | Registered: Aug 2011
kernel
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Member # 27035
Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

... get tested. (sorry to be obvious)

...don't ask the due date.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5271 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
meaniemouse
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Member # 10798
Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

keep quiet.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2127 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

... Charlie out.

This is a way to remember "to choose C" on a multiple choice test. At one time C was a statistically slightly higher correct answer choice with randomized testing answers. However, since then, and due to the release of this "fact" I am sure the correct answer is in fact some other answer choice.

I still tell my students this "fact" though. A consistent guess will bring more correct answers than just random guessing. And if they feel even slightly more confident that they have a strategy, they are more likely to do better on the test as a whole.

Sorry for the lengthy explanation to a simple question!!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5861 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
jrc1963
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Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

Do without!


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24596 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Undefinabl3
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Member # 36883
Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, August 26th (Monday)

Duct tape and WD 40


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2012
Jpapageorge
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Member # 31800
Default  Posted: 3:40 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Use more frosting.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1751 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
silverhopes
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Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 4:19 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

...Use subjunctive.


(Can't take credit for that one - that's what my Spanish teacher used to say.)


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3905 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Threnody
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Member # 1558
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Do the opposite of what your Facebook friends suggest.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
ajsmom
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Member # 17460
Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Don't ask your Facebook friends.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21071 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Menu out.

(that's how the Nav system in my car works, lol)


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6549 | Registered: Jan 2011
sportsfan
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Member # 9918
Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

... call a time-out.

Posts: 1970 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: PA
TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Send TCD fifty bucks. What? That doesn't work?


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1727 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
AStar
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Member # 39971
Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

* chuck it out
* choose option c
* turn right


Me BS (41)
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D

**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 115 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New Zealand
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

say "fuck it".

(except for the condom thing)


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Kalleigh
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Punt


I love my husband and kids, but there is something missing, LIKE MAYBE A LIFE!!!!!!!

Posts: 6507 | Registered: Mar 2003 | From: Wisconsin
heartbroken_kk
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Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

don't hit send


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1221 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
TrulyReconciled
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Member # 3031
Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

^^^ good advice ^^^


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

Posts: 21306 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
Brandon808
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Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

...about major life decisions ask yourself is it what you want to do or what you think you should do?

p.s. I hope it goes without saying that this does not apply to promises, contracts or vows. You kind of already made the decision in that case.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4000 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
atsenaotie
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Member # 27650
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

When in doubt,.....

do as the doubters do, or does that only apply to Rome?


FBS 54
Separated and Divorcing

Posts: 4133 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
Lucky2HaveMe
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Member # 13333
Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Spit it out!


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6566 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
purplejacket4
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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Order out (I'm a food sniffer... too many bad experiences with left overs!)


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2243 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Snapdragon
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Member # 4286
Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, August 30th (Friday)

When in doubt
I whip it out
I got me a rock 'n' roll band
It's a free-for-all

~Ted Nugent - Free For All


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


Posts: 3086 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, August 30th (Friday)

Keep your mouth shut.

ok it doesn't rhyme, but it's taken me nearly 43 years to learn this one.

Snapdragon:
Love the Nugent reference btw


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8714 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, August 31st (Saturday)

Kick it out

The 7-8yo coach of my DD's soccer team used to say this to the girls while trying to teach them strategy

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5279 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Must Survive
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Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, August 31st (Saturday)

Smile


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 785 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
alphakitte
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Member # 33438
Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, August 31st (Saturday)

don't


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

Posts: 350 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: 3 klicks north of Ambiguous
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Member # 18449
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, August 31st (Saturday)

Turn This Mutha Out

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1q2TA2zPtac


Posts: 11753 | Registered: Mar 2008
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 1:42 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

...throw it out.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9827 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
wannabenormal
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Member # 19772
Default  Posted: 3:10 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

When in doubt, make sure whatever you do can't be traced.



Posts: 14389 | Registered: Jun 2008
Laura28
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Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 5:34 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

stay silent


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2754 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

throw him out

Well at least it rhymes!


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2754 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Member # 28997
Default  Posted: 5:37 AM, September 1st (Sunday)

eat chocolate

(It doesn't rhyme but always helps me think)


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2754 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
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