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strawblond30
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Member # 6263
Default  Posted: 11:56 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

He wanted to still be friends and we text blah blah and it's hurting me if he hasn't responded knowing he is slutting around . I hope it's with more then one , cus I hate to know she ( this weekend get away ladies ) is special. He has had 3 since he moved out last month OMG. We just divorced in June!!!


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

Posts: 937 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: illinois
newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, August 24th (Saturday)

You need to go NC so you can heal. Any contact with him should be strictly business (kids, finances, etc.) This is not the time to be friends with your ex.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 809 | Registered: Mar 2013
Iamhappytoday
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Member # 39051
Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, August 24th (Saturday)

Wish I had gone NC loooong ago. Trust the advice here. NC is your friend.


BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.

Posts: 131 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Free!!!
Ariabook
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Member # 39669
Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, August 24th (Saturday)

NC all the way. Its hard but needs to be done in order to heal. What if in one of those convos you find out she ( weekend lady ) IS special? Don't do that to yourself. Cut contact, set up an online calendar if there's visitation and keep it strictly business!


Separated
Wants nothing to do with our daughter
No Contact

Posts: 75 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Newwhere
strawblond30
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Member # 6263
Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, August 24th (Saturday)

She isn't that special found match .com emails to another from just two days ago


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

Posts: 937 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: illinois
newlysingle
Member
Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, August 24th (Saturday)

Stop checking in on him and his emails. Unfriend him from all social media, don't check his email, etc. You need to detach. You are divorced now and it really isn't your business what he does now anyway. You are going to keep yourself in this place of limbo if you continue to check on him. You need to work on making a life for yourself that doesn't include him. Fake it 'till you make it.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 809 | Registered: Mar 2013
Topic Posts: 6