We say (and see) it all the time here, and many of us have lived it as well.
If you are empty and not truly happy and at peace with yourself, you are going to attract the wrong kind of person.
I recommend taking the focus off of dating right now. Get off of the OLD sites. Focus on yourself. Discover (or rediscover) some new hobbies. What are some things you've always wanted to do or learn? Spend time with friends and family. Become a whole, happy person on your own, and once you've done that, you'll be ready to welcome a good woman into your life.Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny