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Lostly88
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

Why is that everytime you say something good or kinda brag about how good your relationship is going they always do something that makes you a lair. Like today I just posted In the positives to say how great things were going since I've found this place and started reading and taking advice.............. It makes me feel like I can't even be proud of the progress we made cause for every one step we take two steps back ..... Ugh.....


Me_26 EA _ 1 1/2 years ago
Him_24 PA _ 1 year into relationship
Together 5 years
D-day_April 2013 (not sure what day)
May all the pain and sorrow be lifted by the rays of clarity and happiness warm out hearts. 💏

Posts: 10 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: California
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

There were plenty if times I was scared to post positives for that exact same reason.

Don't get discouraged. There will be plenty of steps forward and back. Its part of the process.

I don't know what happened today but remember change isn't like a light switch. It takes time and effort.

Hang in there.


BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2628 | Registered: Aug 2012
BeautifulEmpty
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Member # 38763
Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, August 25th (Sunday)

It's dumb that it matters to me but it does. My H isn't a friend on Facebook for exactly these reasons.
During our 3 year false R I was so happy. Posting all these happy, proud, loving things...now they just slap me in the face. What a fool I was. The truth is, he's the fool. Not me, for loving him and us but it still burns and burns.
One of these days, I'll try again as a positive step forward in R but god...it's stupidly scary.
People always comment on how cute we are as a couple. How lucky I am...blah. My H even tried to tell me that people would be jealous of our relationship. >.< I stopped him there because if I can't be prideful, neither can he. I said no one would be jealous of us if they knew our history. No one.
It's a problem he's had with his OW too...they are jealous and they want what I've got but once they see what a shit he is to me, they don't want H's crap anymore because he can't handle two women. He can't give both of us an awesome experience.
He seems to have finally learned that lesson. I hope one day I'll be proud again...happy with us.


Me: 42 BS
Him: 38 ws
Ow: 44 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 21, 18, 17, 15, 10
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.

Posts: 264 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington State
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