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SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, August 26th (Monday)

Any of you have the same problem and if so how many is enough I thought we were in R but now I'm not so sure. I've been on here before but lost my information but he's going back to his old routine

Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, August 26th (Monday)

Kick him out? Change the locks?


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 637 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, August 26th (Monday)

If FWH stayed out all night one night we would be done, done, done!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9539 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Morhurt
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, August 26th (Monday)

Yup, one night out all night would be too many for me. But my H knows that very well so him doing it would hold a lot if meaning.
I'm sorry for what you're going through.


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 902 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, August 26th (Monday)

During the last period when XWH and I were "reconciling", he stayed out all night after going to a party for a coworker who was retiring.
He had my OK to go to the party, but he was supposed to be home by 10ish.

The next morning, he comes traipsing into the house around 6am. He claims he slept in his car (in the parking lot of the building where the party had been held) because he was too drunk to drive. There were three very obvious problems with that statement:
1. He never bothered to call or pick up his phone - all night.
2. If his car had been in that lot all night it would have been towed (there are signs posted).
3. His clothing was way too "fresh" looking for having been been slept in all night. Were that story true, he should have been wrinkled and disheveled and he was not.


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - R looks possible..

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6358 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
confused615
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Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, August 26th (Monday)

Unless it was planned ahead of time..a hunting trip..fishing with DS..or he's working...if he stays out all night he better be in jail,the hospital, or dead.

He sure as shit wouldn't come walking through the door the next morning and continue on as if everything was peachy.


Edited..because my typing sucks.

[This message edited by confused615 at 12:50 PM, August 26th (Monday)]


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7310 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, August 26th (Monday)

It was planned but he was supposed to be home by 9 last night one he doesn't have a car helped a friend move which he lives almost two hours away to a town thats 45 min away. Two he called into work said he'd be late their brilliant idea was to tell him don't come in WTF he told them he's late cause he couldn't find the keys it pays to have friends that work with the WS they don't sugar coat nothing. 3rd his clothes always look wrinkled cause we have to go to the laundry mat once a week cause our dryer broke. 4 he called work and not me? I have an 11 year old that wakes up in the morning wondering where dads at our oldest two even though they say thee used to it I know damn well they are not so I'll have to cut some of our cost down considerable because I'm on disability and can't afford luxuries if he's not going to be here. I love him but I'm so tired of this

Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
confused615
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, August 26th (Monday)

..so how long are you going to tolerate this?

If he does this so often that the kids are used to it...that's bad.

(((((SoOver96)))))


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7310 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
SoOver96
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Member # 40169
Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, August 26th (Monday)

He's only done this twice since his last affair ugh I hate that word I've been faithful loyal been with him when his grandma died his uncle dieing his mom going Batty Prison terms when is it my turn to have the man I adore and love so much want to be with me what did I do wrong?

Posts: 171 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
crazyblindsided
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, August 26th (Monday)

I would be done too if mine stayed out all night.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Fire96
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, August 26th (Monday)

What I would do.

1)Take all of his clothes and throw them out in the yard.

2) Change the locks to all of the doors.

3) Turn off all of the phone ringers.

4) Find a copy of your marriage license, and nail it to the front door with a big X XX across it.

I never go over-board, do I?


Me, BS-54
WW-49
DD, 1/9/2011

Posts: 168 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, August 26th (Monday)

When my XS/O stayed out all night for the first time, he arrived home next night to find my bedroom door locked. A few weeks later I was gone, gone, gone. But that was after years of philandering.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7180 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, August 26th (Monday)

He's only done this twice since his last affair

Question: How do you think your "ability to put up with bad behavior " meter is working?

Do you think it is:

A. Just right
B. Too unforgiving
C. Too permissive


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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