I have many nights when I just can't sleep in our bed. This is not because I don't want to, I do very much. The OW was never in our personal bed.....just the one she shared with him when he was far away from me
My reasons for having to sleep somewhere else is to stop the movies in my head or stop the thoughts of what if that can infiltrate my mind at night. I need my sleep now big time. Having a heart attack makes sleep manditroy and for those nights where my mind is far too active I find relief sleeping in other locations. From now on the better way of doing things might be to ask her why she couldn't sleep in the same bed with you. There might be a good explination. You might find out a good way of helping her through her hell that you didn't kow about because you never asked.
I now know to tell my hubby why I had the need to sleep somewhere else. He appreciates my openness. He always comes and finds me and he always brings me back to our bed and snuggles me under his arm.Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)
Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!