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User Topic: Where I'm at now
whatdoto
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Member # 28555
Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

First, I love my IC. She gets it, she gets me, she's awesome.

She likes me to update her between visits. I sent her this email last night:

"Hi there! Just thought I'd update you.

Put in an offer to purchase the house. XX Bank is processing my application. Lawyers are working on the divorce decree, finally.

DS15 and I are hanging in here. WH makes everything depressing. He's drinking more and talking less to DS15. Last night, he got totally wasted drunk. Great dad! DS15 noticed. So sad.

Took mom to have a hidascan on Friday. That was a very long day. Waiting on results of that to see if she needs to have her gall bladder removed or what.

I've grown very fond of Cymbalta. Good friends we've become.

School started today and my baby is a Sophomore.

Considering our situation, DS15 and I, as a family, are doing real good.

I can see some light at the end of the tunnel."

Her response:

"A tunnel of numbness, sadness, alcohol and silence illuminated at the other end by busy bankers, lawyers, a Sophomore, gall bladder specialists and Cymbalta.

Good job woman."

I'm making progress. I'm proud of myself. I started this D journey scared, now I'm empowered, I have control now. I'm happy too. I also got "hit on" by two separate guys at the grocery store.

Note to WH: "Can you see me now?"


"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

Posts: 1187 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Texas
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, August 27th (Tuesday)

"Good job woman."

I think I love her.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5399 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

She is awesome. So are you!

Congratulations on seeing that light.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1666 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
devistatedmom
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Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

I can see you now. You are doing Awesome.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5361 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

You're on the way. Awesome job, and great counselor.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7417 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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