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libertyrocks
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Member # 38924
Question  Posted: 5:48 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

What's your opinion on my fWH??

For 3 years and 8OW that I know of, my recovering alcoholic H says he was a drunk and did bad things.

So, fastforward to my survival and comprehension of these matters, does it sound like he went out to play now wants to be a family man or he's seriously screwed up??

What do you all think??

No offense to others, but I honestly feel it would be a little bit better if it were just one OW or person he loved. But, 8 OW, that I know of in 3 years???

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 5:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)]


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,alcoholic, suspected NPD SA. 2 boys. M 6yrs T13.
DDay #1 Nov, 2012. 1 year+ false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (all W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 and for good Jan, 2014
Filed for D Feb, 2014.

Posts: 909 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
whattheh
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Member # 40032
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

I've read true lasting reconciliation is less likely to be successful with a serial cheater?

But some have pulled it off...

[This message edited by whattheh at 6:27 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)]


BW- mid 50's (me)
fWH-late 50's
M 33 T 35
DD-Early 2013
In R but I have PTSD...

Posts: 479 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Kierst13
Member
Member # 39197
Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

So he is blaming his affairs on drinking?


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

I see what your saying..if he fell for.one ow it is a diff sich than ons?? With 8.ow..were they ons? Or did he have a R with them?
I think substance abuse / alcohol is a
whole other ballgame. Not to excuse him at all but he uses poor judgement while drinking and maybe he wouldn't if he were sober. I may be the minority but I have a lot of addicts in my life and tend to have compassion for them. When he has been sober for a length of time, did he cheat then?


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4710 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
libertyrocks
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Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

He had relationships, he was literally dating women, hanging out with them, drinking, hotels, dates, etc. and blames it on alcohol.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,alcoholic, suspected NPD SA. 2 boys. M 6yrs T13.
DDay #1 Nov, 2012. 1 year+ false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (all W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 and for good Jan, 2014
Filed for D Feb, 2014.

Posts: 909 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
libertyrocks
Member
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

He had relationships, he was literally dating women, hanging out with them, drinking, hotels, dates, etc. and blames it on alcohol.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,alcoholic, suspected NPD SA. 2 boys. M 6yrs T13.
DDay #1 Nov, 2012. 1 year+ false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (all W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 and for good Jan, 2014
Filed for D Feb, 2014.

Posts: 909 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
libertyrocks
Member
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

He had relationships, he was literally dating women, hanging out with them, drinking, hotels, dates, etc. and blames it on alcohol.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,alcoholic, suspected NPD SA. 2 boys. M 6yrs T13.
DDay #1 Nov, 2012. 1 year+ false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (all W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 and for good Jan, 2014
Filed for D Feb, 2014.

Posts: 909 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
libertyrocks
Member
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

He had relationships, he was literally dating women, hanging out with them, drinking, hotels, dates, etc. and blames it on alcohol.


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,alcoholic, suspected NPD SA. 2 boys. M 6yrs T13.
DDay #1 Nov, 2012. 1 year+ false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (all W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 and for good Jan, 2014
Filed for D Feb, 2014.

Posts: 909 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
Ostrich80
Member
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Ok well then my answer is out to.play. Screw up once..maybe but 8 R 's? I'd say it would be quite a gamble with him.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4710 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Topic Posts: 9