I had my monthly cancer care-givers support group this evening. I told them my story about my wife's infidelity, and how her decision to stay with the OM has forced me to stop providing her the care that a husband would a sick spouse.
My group is not kicking me out despite my new status as a cancer non-care giver. It is a good group and I felt supported this evening.
Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Divorcing, 3 children
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S
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MovingUpward Guide Member # 14866
Posted: 7:29 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)
That's good to hear. AKA Moo
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
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devistatedmom Member Member # 24961
Posted: 7:35 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)
That's so night kg. They know you are a caring individual, they want to support you through this, while you help others with the cancer care. They sound like a wonderful group. BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
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nowiknow23 Guide Member # 33226
Posted: 7:42 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)
You can call me NIK
"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."