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imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

How much is too much?

Sure you have to have a filter but how much do you share?

I don't tell WS anything other than normal pleasantries.

I don't lie about anything.

I guess what I'm getting at is this, he does stupid shit and is a major conflict avoider unless he is causing the conflict, sometimes I really want to lay it all out there, say every horrible thing that comes to mind, vent I suppose.

But something stops me.

I don't think I am being honest with him, he really needs to know how I feel but I can't tell him.


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5225 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
mixedintherut
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Member # 40330
Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

About the A? About every day life? What is it that your struggling with telling him?

At the end of the day if your not being honest, the problems can't get resolved. No one is a mind reader! You end up internalizing things, and it builds up!

Are you scared of his reaction? Are you scared your going to regret what your saying?

Are you in IC? It could help!

Communication is so incredibly important in any relationship, but especially a healthy one!


DD 1: PA 12/4/09 He spent 2.5 years with OW1
R: 8/31/2012
DD 2: EA 8/16/13
BS: 26
WH: 25
1 young daughter.
Terribly disgusted. He refuses to give up his "friend". Headed towards D.

Posts: 136 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: kentucky
imagoodwitch
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Member # 23375
Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Anything and everything and I am afraid of his reaction.

There is no communication and I am internalizing everything.


I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5225 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)

Is it possible to write him a letter? I don't do well with conflict in person. But I can communicate my feelings thru the written word. It's worked well for me.

Hugs. It is frustrating holding all of that inside.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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