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Stupidlytrusting
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Well I'm back again. November last year my hubbie started an emotional affair whilst working overseas I found out he had met her for coffee twice too. Naively we worked through it and he is home again and I have found recent messages. All sex chat with the same woman plus one other!! I am heartbroken and back to square one, I haven't done anything yet, last time I dived straight in but need to be cleverer this time round so need some help and advice from this site which has helped me through my process and I thought reconciliation.

Posts: 3 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Uk
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Sorry that you find yourself back here under these conditions.

So are you wanting to confront your husband right away, or are you wanting take some time to look for more evidence or do you want to just take some time to write out what you want to say to you H?


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Posts: 51898 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

((((ST)))))

God I hate to see the people who return because of false R.

People will come along soon to help you...I just wanted to give you a hug. I'm so sorry this is happening again.


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 30 years 9/2/13
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
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3Xthefool
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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

coming from the cliché that "hindsight is 20/20". I would advise you to wait and gather evidence as much as possible. Also, don't tell him how you got the evidence, as knowledge is power and he will use that knowledge to take his activities further underground to cover them up.

Posts: 59 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New York City
Stupidlytrusting
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Default  Posted: 2:04 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Thanks for the advice, I am gathering more evidence then just before he goes back to work next week I am going to deliver the news that he will not be welcome back in our home. Too many lies and false promises he acts like we are all great planning our future and all the while having sex chats online

Posts: 3 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Uk
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