User Topic: Feeling down today
Member # 25001
Helpless  Posted: 11:19 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

I just feel down and I don't know how else to explain it. I have too many bad thoughts floating around in my head today that are not usually there. I feel alone and invisible. I'm trying to focus on me and the kids but today I feel almost suffocated by him. He's completely checked out of the marriage and back on his sites as of last week.

I just don't want to be here or anywhere right now. Some days are great where I can push it all out and just have a fabulous day. Unfortunately, today isn't one of them.

Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 30720
Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

(((sd))) I've been there. I'm sorry you have to feel this way today.

Me: BS, 34
Him: (SA/NPD)WH, 31
Multiple ddays since 2010 (Latest January 15th 2013) - not counting anymore!
FINAL FINAL DDay - August 8, 2014. I AM DONE!

Posts: 418 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: West Coast Canada
Member # 40144
Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)


I'm so sorry... This rollercoaster ride we are all on just SUCKS.

I don't have any profound words of wisdom. Just want you to know you are not alone.

Try to do some little thing that makes you happy or feel good today. Just feeling the sunshine on your face for a bit can help... I don't know...

Hang in there. You are strong!

Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 710 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
Member # 40076
Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Must be something about this week. It seems like a lot of people are feeling this way lately.

me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day

married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m

"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."

Posts: 368 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
Member # 39551
Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Hugs! I have days like that. Be sure you aren't beating yourself up for it, it just prolongs the feeling.

Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Sending some positive SI mojo your way


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52570 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)


I hate the down days, they feel sometimes impossible to get through.

May your days ahead be brighter!

BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Thank you for all the hugs, mojo, and advice.

The funny thing...I'm always on here telling people not to let what their WS spouse define them, to focus on themselves and be the best person they can be. I guess I need to start taking my own advice

I took the kids to the mall for some retail therapy and bought myself a new maxi skirt. My son bought a shirt for back to school with what was left of a gift card and my daughter bought herself some lotion from Bath and Body Works. We had a nice afternoon until, what looked like, some creepy guy following us. Then we went into one of my favorite stores, DSW and it all just went sparkly and while I was looking at shoes

Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
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