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Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Ex spent all his time telling the boys and I EVERYTHING we wanted was too expensive. We only had money for things he wanted.

After he left, the kids wanted to go to Niagara Falls, but, it was just not manageable, I told them I wanted to take them, but, I couldn't, but, I was going to take them. I promised them.

So, I've spent years throwing dollar bills and change into a jar. The kids didn't bring it up anymore. I counted it all out recently.

I have enough for a rental car, the gas, food, a hotel, and a few of the touristy things. I told Aussie he may wanna take a couple vacation days. We're spending Labor Day weekend in Niagara.

The kids are ecstatic, they said "mom, you promised and we're going!" I'm pretty excited about it too.


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 9

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Very cool. It's a fun place for kids.


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

that is way cool!


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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

That is awesome! I hope you all have a ton of fun and don't forget to take lots of pics!


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Posts: 5297 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Awesome Weatherly! Enjoy!!!


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devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

Fantastic Weatherly! I wish I had the time to drive down and meet you!

One warning...I happen to know Slo-Pitch Provincial Championships are going on down there this weekend...so watch out for those in baseball gear!

If you can afford it and have time, do the maid of the mist. It's a boatride under the falls. The kids will never forget it. Also, the wax museum will have lots of figures of people they would know.

Enjoy!!


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WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

That's awesome, Weatherly! I hope you and your boys (and Aussie, if he goes) have a great time!


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, August 28th (Wednesday)

that is so cool. good for you!!! you are the best mom


But that's just a lot of water
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Around corners I have turned

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Default  Posted: 3:17 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Way to go, Weatherly. You just showed your kids that saving money (without being a tightwad miser) is a GOOD thing, and that you follow through. Good for you!

And....have a blast!


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Default  Posted: 4:35 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Wow that's cool. Hope you and your kids make some wonderful memories there.


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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Aaawwww...that is awesome! It is so beautiful there...take lots of pictures!


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Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

If you can afford it and have time, do the maid of the mist.

Already got the tickets, I saved enough for a good trip. We got some package deal, Maid of the Mist, Journey Behind the Falls, Niagara's Fury, and White Water Walk.


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 9

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Just fantastic, Weatherly. Hope you all have a fabulous time!


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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

That's awesome momma! I need to try this! I'm always scraping by but a little goes a long way!

Have a blast!! Take lots of pics!


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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

I forgot you need a passport, but if you have one, take a drive over to Niagara-on-the-Lake. It's so pretty.

Maid of the Mist will blow your mind.


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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

I love this mamma. LOVE.


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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Faithfool..isn't it funny, I just assumed she meant the Canadian side! The American side of Niagara Falls isn't as built up as it should be, with this natural wonder. Never even occured to me she might not be on the Canadian side.


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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

You rock, Weatherly.

AJ's MOM


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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Good for you! You did it Mama!

NL


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Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Me too, DM. I just assumed the Canadian side.
And with the attractions you have mentioned Weatherly it's definately the Canadian side. I did the same package with ex when his aunt visited from Europe.
Maid of the Mist is a blast and the White Water Walk was a little scary for me since the water level was pretty high.
Clifton Hill has a ferris wheel that goes so high it overlooks the falls. It was fantastic at night as well.

Have a great time Weatherly!!!

ETA: Prepare to get wet!!! All of those attractions are potential soakers.

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 10:13 AM, August 29th (Thursday)]


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Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

I just assumed she meant the Canadian side

We're going to both sides, part of what I saved for was the kids passports as well so they could go into Canada. We'll be there Friday-Monday. But, we're staying on the US side.

Aussie and I went a few years ago, so, I kind of know what to expect, but the kids don't quite get it. They've seen a lot of waterfalls, but none like that.

I'm kind of glad I couldn't have afforded it back then, I don't think they would have been big enough to enjoy it. Now they are.

I need to try this! I'm always scraping by but a little goes a long way

It's worked well for us, just because you never really miss that $0.50 in the bottom of your purse. And, I ended up saving more, because I stopped using my debit card to pay for things and always took out cash so I could get change when I bought groceries or gas or whatever. But, I spend less money when I use cash. Your baby is little, you save now, in 5 years you can have a heck of a trip with her.


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 9

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

We do this as well. Or at least I do and I'm slowly converting TG to cash. We save our cash for christmas time activities/gifts. We've saved quite a bit this year doing this.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, August 29th (Thursday)

Years ago I got a big empty plastic water bottle... The ones that are used for water coolers...

I put it in my closet and everyday I'd empty my pockets of change... Years went by and the bottle kept getting my daily change...

Well, the thing got filled up... I didn't even think about how heavy it would be... It took me, a dolly and a friend to get it down the stairs and into my truck for a drive to the bank...

The people at the bank were amazed when I rolled the thing in...

An hour later they handed me about $10,000...

A little here, a little there adds up!

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, August 29th (Thursday)

Do you have a hotel yet because NF books up early on long weekends? This is THE premier long weekend of the year.


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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, August 29th (Thursday)

*waving to you from the American side*

Have fun! I'm a lifelong resident of WNY, but this summer at my g2g was the first time I did the Maid of the Mist. It was great! I can't wait to take my kids at some point.


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