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User Topic: It really shouldn't bother me, but
Spitfire77
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Member # 24486
Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, August 29th (Thursday)

His dumbass is back in contact with the first OW.

I know, we're divorcing. It shouldn't matter.

But his dumb ass added her birthday to the calendar to his phone that still gets shared to our family Sky Drive calendar.

Is it wrong that it pisses me off? That I felt that same, sick to my stomach sort of feeling when I saw it on the calendar?

I'm really not okay, am I?


BW (Me): 32
WH (Him): 32
Married: Dec. 04
Two kids, 6 & 4
Divorce will be final 26 SEP 13

Posts: 305 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Someplace I'd rather not be.
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, August 29th (Thursday)

You don't have to be ok with this. If you need permission to be angry - I'll give it. I've been divorced for 10 years, I would not want to see her birthday on my calendar. I would definitely be angry.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5013 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Spitfire77
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Member # 24486
Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, August 29th (Thursday)

Thanks Kajem.

I just feel like after four years of telling me that she meant nothing, obviously she did if he was willing to pick back up with her after OW#2 dumped him.


BW (Me): 32
WH (Him): 32
Married: Dec. 04
Two kids, 6 & 4
Divorce will be final 26 SEP 13

Posts: 305 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Someplace I'd rather not be.
brokenandconfuse
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Member # 39381
Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, August 30th (Friday)

The same thing happened to me. The second that I filed for D, he went back to OW1 and OW2 and his ex-wife. It hurts like hell.


2DS, 2DD
BS-Me 32
WH-Him 43
DDay-All 14 years of our relationship. 3PA's, 3 one night stands, and 6 EA's and still counting as we go. Gained enough strength to face it 11/2012

Getting Divorced


Posts: 101 | Registered: May 2013 | From: United States
Fooled Me Twice
Member
Member # 34824
Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, August 30th (Friday)

Try and look at it like this - she's just sloppy seconds. How special is she really - he's only with her because he's lonely now - a place and time filler. That's not what I want to be to someone.


ME: BS 33 (now 34)
HIM: WS 33 (now 35)
OW: 22, howorker (now 24)
July 2007: Porn found on computer along with profiles on dating websites.
DDay: January 16, 2012 - suspicious since Dec 2011
Divorced: June 11, 2013

Posts: 209 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Here and There
Topic Posts: 5