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User Topic: 9 mths since DD and getting better
Heartbroken2013
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Member # 39722
Happy  Posted: 4:11 AM, August 30th (Friday)

Ever since DD my hubby has been attentive, loving, so truly sorry, honest, open and utterly ashamed and mortified by his online affair (which lasted 3 mths)

Im not saying its been a breeze, VERY far from it. I still have triggers, I have sad days, and when I do ... we talk. I cry, he holds me. I get annoyed, he listens to me. We talk more now than ever before. we are more open about our feelings than ever before.
I wouldn't wish an affair in whatever form on anyone ... it bloody hurts. BUT .. we have come so far since DD and I just wanted people out there to know, it does and will get better as time goes on.
I love my husband as much now as I did before DD (if not more) He is extremely sorry and ashamed of his actions and I believe him when he says he will never do anything to jeopardise our marriage again.
Yes, im still sad that this has happened, but in some ways, I am pleased because it HAS brought us closer together, and made us talk about things in our life...

(for those of you that don't know my husband was born with Bladder Exstrophy, a condition where his bladder was on the outside of his body. This resulted in his private parts being 'short' and not being able to penetrate during sex EVER ... his online relationship with this other woman was fictional, he pretended to be someone else with her. She didn't know about me or our children, he never talked about our life (for which I am grateful)

So now we talk a lot more about everything, mostly our sex life, what I had been missing and what he feels being 'him' ... we did MC together and separately. We are getting through this TOGETHER ...

If you love your partners, keep at it.

Today is a good day, last week was a good week ... bring on the rest of our lives together ...


Me 45
WH 45
4 kids aged 3 - 25 (2 x adopted in 2013)
Together 15 years
Married 8 years
WH had online cybersex with various sluts!
DD = Nov 23rd 12
In 'R' and getting to a place we never been before

Posts: 123 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: UK
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 5:48 AM, August 30th (Friday)

(heartbroken2013)

May we all feel the peace your post speaks of.

God be with us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3411 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, August 30th (Friday)

Heartbroken,

Thank you for sharing your positive steps forward with us .

AN


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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