Of course it is normal. The other night while fWH was driving home we got into and argument over something he said that just struck me wrong, nothing big, normal biz stuff.
To me it seems that sometimes he is falling into his old bad habits in the way he talks to me, which to me, means he is not appreciating the fact that he is still allowed to even BE here in this home with me.
He hung up on me when i asked him to stop yelling, which he claimed he wasn't and I got the silent treatment when he got home. He said his stomach was bothering him and he didn't want to argue so we went to bed with it unresolved.
The next morning he apologized for how he talked to me, I apologized for my part in escalating it but told him had he let me know he wasn't feeling well, I would have dropped it sooner.
We talked about it and I asked him to read the How to Help your Spouse Heal from Your Affair book. It took him 4 months to read not Just Friends, so we will see. He knows I was disappointed that he didn't put more effort into that. I read it in less than a week. He had many excuses.
Such a long process.Me: BS 50+
Him: WH 60
2 grown sons, 1 grown step-son
Last DDay, March 19, 2013 after a few weeks of TT- trying to have a new marriage after almost 35 years.
No more chances.