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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, September 1st (Sunday)

Just cleared out my voicemail box. Got messages from people I don't want to talk to, at least not right now.

I sent one of them a message saying "I got chores but may take the dogs for a walk instead. Being antisocial this weekend"

Inotherwords: "Don't come over, I might not be here"

I really am an introvert, and I don't feel like it is my duty to inform everyone who wants to communicate with me that I don't want to communicate.

So the short, somewhat curt, and possibly insensitive but maybe not texting works for me.

Boundaries. I gots them.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
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gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, September 2nd (Monday)

Boundaries. I gots them
I understand ! I needed to recenter this weekend too ! I have one more day to accomplish this. Stressed isn't a strong enough word.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

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letitout
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, September 2nd (Monday)

i hear ya.

I get a LOT of emails from my dear mom. I used to answer each one in very short answers because I didn't want to be bothered with trivial stuff. I finally told her that if I don't answer her not to take it personally. The same goes for voice mail. If it's not important I may not answer and my family and friends know this about me. This may be rude but it works for me and my personality and I've had no complaints from them so far.

Of course if it is important, I may do short and sweet or long depending on my mood that day.


BW 55, WH 64
2 years of prostitutes.

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