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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

Taking a survey, looking for ideas. What did people do with their engagement and wedding rings after the divorce?

I don't think I'll get good money for it so I'm thinking of repurposing the diamonds into something else.


"He doesn't care. Let it go."

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I want to sell mine. I want nothing associated with my wedding/marriage to be a part of my children's future (dress, ring, jewelry, blah blah blah). I could probably get pretty good money for my ring, but I don't know how to sell it (not comfortable selling it via CL, for example).


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

If anyone has proven methods of selling their rings, please share!

I'm completely down for selling them if I can get a good deal. I've always wanted a Chanel bag, and I can put the rest into savings.


"He doesn't care. Let it go."

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I looked at the question and then at your name. then I saw your initial thought.

karma?


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
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― Sophocles, Antigone

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Phoenix9572
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I am planning to eventually repurpose mine. I am thinking having it be a symbol of the new me that comes out of this mess.


Me - 40
WH - 42
Married 18 years
kids - 14, 12
DD - May 13, 2013
DD2 - Aug 4, 2013
DD3 - Aug 27, 2013
Status - Legally separated; really wanted R but don't think that is possible anymore

Posts: 103 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Southern Indiana
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I sold ours.

First I went to a pawn shop and got an estimate, then I found a private buyer. Only got 25% of what we paid... *sigh*


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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I sold it back to ex-H. He wanted to give it to OW#2. They're not together anymore. Don't know if he got it back...


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


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PhantomLimb
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

Mine was a blue diamond, so no way in hell I'm letting that sucker go. I can wear it on the other hand (when it no longer has meaning to me) or turn it into something else down the road.

I hate to admit it, but I still open up my box and look at it sometimes. I miss it. I wear my class ring on that finger now. I feel naked without something there.


BS / D

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sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I made the decision to sell ours. I told WW that even if she changed her mind the covenant those rings represented and the promise they symbolized were tarnished forever. I took them to a locally owned jewelry shop and got about 65 percent of what I paid. I thought it would be harder than it was. Not a big deal though. Took myself out to lunch then banked the rest.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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Strongmama
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

Ok Hurtbs; that was just wrong of him! I hope the hooka sold it and he didn't get a dime from it!
I'm not sure on mine. I actually forgot all about them until my 15 y.o. And I were looking at my class ring and talking about ordering his this year.
Man, that was weird to see! I loved that stupid ring way back when.
I think I'll sell it. It ended up not meaning anything; those vows were a sad sad joke; on me.
I sure don't want to curse my sweet daughter with it. I pray she never marries anyone like her dad who would do this to her. Piece of shit!
It does have a little coal in it, and I remember an Asian woman once told me that was bad luck, boy was she right!

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Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I cut a chunk out of mine and wore it as a toe ring for quite awhile.

Then, I decided I didn't want it in my house anymore and gave it to my 8 yr old niece. She likes her "fancy" jewelry.


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 8

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I sold mine to the local jeweler. I sure wasn't passing them on to any of my kids since the commitment and marriage they symbolized was murdered by their father. Not really something they needed a reminder of, and I needed the money.

[This message edited by kernel at 9:18 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)]


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AppleBlossom
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I have sold mine on ebay. Plus a lot of other gifts.

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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, September 3rd (Tuesday)

I'm leaning towards selling mine now too. Even if I don't get much for them, I don't think I could stand to see it and be reminded of how my once devoted husband cheated and abandoned me.


"He doesn't care. Let it go."

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Mine came with a lifetime 'trade up' policy where they guarantee at least 1.5 times their original value toward a future purchase. When I am ready (not there emotionally yet) I plan to do just that and purchase something new to symbolize my new beginning. I will never give them to either DD given the utter betrayal and marital ruination they now represent.

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 12:15 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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Dadtryingtocope
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I swallowed mine and then let it come out in the form of what if represents to me now.

Just kidding. I'm going to sell it to.

Mine's platinum - anyone know how well platinum jewerly sells?


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 497 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
whatdoto
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

My diamond wedding ring was stolen years ago by a cleaning lady. I have since only worn the thin band. Once I filed for D, I cut it off then taped it to our wedding picture that I had taken down earlier. That picture and another wedding picture are leaning against the bedroom wall on the floor. WH has to look at it every morning.


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npain
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I sold it to a jeweler--along with EVERY PIECE OF JEWELRY he ever gave me.

It was very freeing--and gave me a couple hundred dollars to buy a new couch.


S,beginning D

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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I swallowed mine and then let it come out in the form of what if represents to me now.
Just kidding. I'm going to sell it to.

OMG! That would be a good story, but probably not worth damaging your internal organs for!


"He doesn't care. Let it go."

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TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I threw mine out the back door when I divorced XWH#1. Never did find the damn thing. I have not worn mine since DDay#2 with WH#2. It was my Mother's ring and I had the band made from my Mom's other old rings. I lost the band somewhere due to the infedelity diet. The other ring sets in my jewlery box now. I will probably never wear it again, but if I do, it won't be on my ring finger because all the vows associated with it were broken. If it wasn't my mother's I would sell it to the highest bidder on e-bay.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I'm getting ready to sell the marital home. We have a lovely house on an acre and a half. I'm considering burying the slim wedding band in the backyard the day I leave the house for good. Sort of leaving the past behind.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Mine was a cheap tungsten carbide band. I shattered it in a vise. She left her engagement ring sitting on the counter in the bathroom. After a while, I got tired of looking at it and sold it at a jewelry store.

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