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kg201
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

So for the first time since the first week after dday I have a MC appointment tomorrow. All the therapists in the Northeast take August off.

I am not quite sure what we are going to talk about since we don't really have a marriage anymore, but the last the MC said to us 4 weeks ago was to take it slow. Well...we are now 2 weeks into separation, and only talking about the kids and finances.

I told her one thing I would like to hear from her is an answer to how she can lack compassion towards me when that is something she prided herself on in the past. I wonder whether she will answer that. I am hoping, but probably it won't happen, that the MC calls her on some of her justification bullshit. We'll see.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 654 | Registered: Aug 2013
nomistakeaboutit
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Member # 36857
Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

Whatever she says, I wonder if she'll be thinking this: Compassion toward you? Why? It's mostly your fault, isn't it? You didn't pay enough attention to me, You golfed too much. You have a lot to answer for, my friend. You basically drove me into the affair. Shit, I almost had no choice. In many ways, I deserved to have someone else without telling you.


Me: BH 56.........Her: WW 43
DD: 6..........DS: 4
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
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"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

Posts: 940 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: U.S.A.
kg201
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Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

That's sounds about right.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 654 | Registered: Aug 2013
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

I know its going to hurt when I say this, but why waste the money? none of this was your choice. quite honestly it has to be her choice 2 actually proceed to a reconciliation.

anything else will be your fault.

I'm sorry

strength brother


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2704 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
kg201
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Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

5454, you are correct. I figure that I want to see what tomorrow brings to see where her head is at, but continued MC doesn't make sense at this point.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 654 | Registered: Aug 2013
5454real
Member
Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

I want to see what tomorrow brings to see where her head is at

If that really is your only expectation, maybe ok. She's been showing you where it's at. I just hope you aren't looking for that miracle revelation.

I can't even begin to tell you how sorry that this has happened.

I am sending strength brother


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2704 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
kg201
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Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

No. I have never been a believer in miracles. Her head is pretty far up there right now. Not many miracles in the dark.

Thanks for the strength.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 654 | Registered: Aug 2013
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