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Phoenix9572
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Member # 39987
Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, September 6th (Friday)

We just separated last Tuesday and my WH has his first date tonight. He has wasted no time in joining at least 2 dating sites. It hurts that our 22 years together has been walked away from so easily. It is also sad that he can't take the time to reflect on what went wrong between us before he goes wooing the next woman in line.
Don't get me wrong, I know in the long run I am better off without him. He's an SA that is in complete denial about his problems and may never change. I had to get out to save myself but it still leaves a little bruise to think about. I think that tomorrow being my bday doesn't help either. He would always spoil me. <sigh>


Me - 40
WH - 42
Married 18 years
kids - 14, 12
DD - May 13, 2013
DD2 - Aug 4, 2013
DD3 - Aug 27, 2013
Status - Legally separated; really wanted R but don't think that is possible anymore

Posts: 103 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Southern Indiana
lieshurt
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Member # 14003
Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, September 6th (Friday)

It's just more proof of how broken he truly is.


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

Posts: 13818 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Ouch. How did you find out about his date? It's so hard to comprehend, isn't it.

I hope you spoil yourself tomorrow on your special day ~ HaPpY bIrThDaY (one day early)!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2284 | Registered: Oct 2012
Mousse242
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Member # 6330
Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, September 6th (Friday)

I don't know your story but you've had d-days going back to May. Honey, he's already been "dating".

((hugs))


Posts: 5473 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: Chicago
Got2GO
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Member # 26576
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, September 6th (Friday)

You know a man just can't be alone. They'll be on their death bed still online looking for the next woman!
Just be glad that your away from him!


BS (me) 47
WS (him) 70
Together 7 1/2 years
married 6 years
no children together
Happily divorced 1/29/13!

Posts: 111 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: got2go
jo2love
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Red  Posted: 9:10 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Got2GO -

GENERAL STATEMENTS: Please refrain from making statements that generalize gender, WS/OP/BS, race, religion or political alignment. Also do not presume to speak on behalf of other people.
Thank you.


Posts: 36043 | Registered: Mar 2011
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Please read "She's Special" - its the second article down.

http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/12/20/a-vain-fantasy-his-one-true-love-the-exception-that-confirms-the-rule/

It gave me so many lightbulb moments when I first saw it here.

((Phoenix9572)) It won't always hurt this much. You do need to maintain strict NC - no snooping, no gossip, no talking to him. Nothing. NC will help you detach.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5619 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
sartre
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Member # 40071
Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, September 6th (Friday)

I'm alone! :)
I was in the middle of writing up a long post on a topic very much the same and I just wanted to say I understand. My wife waited slightly longer than your husband (almost 2 weeks) but, to make up for it, skipped the entire dating part and just started having sex with random strangers. Yeah it's further proof that they are broken, but it still stings (a bit, or like a motherf***er, all depending)

Posts: 8 | Registered: Jul 2013
still2suspicious
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Member # 31722
Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, September 6th (Friday)

I'm sorry. I can imagine the sting of that.

I will send a Happy Birthday hug just for you (((((Phoenix)))))


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1310 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
stillstrong
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Member # 36144
Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, September 8th (Sunday)

Oh Phoenix honey, I'm sorry, but very gently...this isn't his first date. He is just out in the open now.
I'm sorry you had hope. I did too, once, and it hurts all over again when they don't even try to fix what they broke.
(((Phoenix)))


Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13


Posts: 848 | Registered: Jul 2012
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, September 8th (Sunday)

((((Phoenix))))

Hope you had a nice birthday, honey.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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