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TxsT
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, September 6th (Friday)

hey everyone.....

Just for fun I wanted to post something lighter in nature this afternnon....try and make people smile.

one of the best parts of our R has been how we have reconnected through the simple act of kissing. while I was driving today I stopped to think about how much I had missed really taking the time to put feeling and attention into kissing my husband. I used to really be proud of how expressive my kissing was back in the day and I had come to realize that our kissing had degenerated down to that fleeting peck, air kiss, cheek butt or forhead smooch that really only shows intent but does not let you FEEL intent.

How many of you have realigned your kissing through this sad time?? Have you stopped dead in your tracks and focused completely on your spouce or do you still just send gestures. This morning my kiss goodbye to my hubby as he left for work was sweet enough and expressive enough for him to text me at lunch and say he was still thinking of the wonderful kiss I gave him this morning. That made me smile...

[This message edited by TxsT at 4:53 PM, September 6th (Friday)]


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Getting to Happy
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Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Mr Happy has big beautiful lips. We kiss a lot .

We have a parrot. She would always make kissing sounds whenever we got close.

She stopped for a while.

But now she does it all the time...She knows...

Thanks for this sweet thread TxsT!


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Well, we established a rule that whoever comes home second has to approach the other with a welcome home kiss. And mean it. My kids are disgusted. I think it means we are doing something right.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Getting....Ok the Parrot kissing noises, and lack of them, fall right into a post i read about looking at old pictures of us during tha A...something was off in our WS eyes and you can visably see it! In your house you visbaly heard it

Rebreather...this is a sweet idea. I love the kid reaction and yes it does mean you are doing something right. Our sons asked us to get a room a few weeks ago. We had to gentally remind them they were in OUR house!!!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
catlover50
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Our kissing rocks now!



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1731 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, September 6th (Friday)

The kissing is wayyyy better.

Just sayin'!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2288 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Improved 1000%!
(And the sex, too!)


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

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Posts: 1966 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
AML04
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, September 7th (Saturday)

I love kissing my H again :)


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 864 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
brokensmile322
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, September 7th (Saturday)

Yes, we took a snooze in the kissing department.

I love kissing...


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1476 | Registered: Jun 2012
struggling3
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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, September 7th (Saturday)

We never really stopped kissing in our 31 married years but I admit it has gotten a little more intense....I love it. We went to a "Weekend to remember" conference last week and one of the couple presenters said they make sure they have at least one 30 second kiss a day. I liked that...try to do it.


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 28, 25, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 315 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, September 7th (Saturday)

Thanks everyone for brightening my day. I for one am so glad that both of us are done with superficial kissing. I had forgotten how much one beautiful, sexual kiss can help the positive thoughts flow through your entire day

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

Love this!

I dare y'all to post kissing photos!

I'll go first, this one is a few yrs old, but it's the only kissing one I have:

Poof!

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 9:04 PM, September 15th (Sunday)]


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
ionlytalkedtoher
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

hmmm I think we are still in the superficial kissing stage.

I think there is still a lot lacking for us.

I need to make more of an effort.


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shatteredheart7
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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

I love love love kissing my DH! Always have! But for 2 yrs there was not one kiss between us. My kids now walk out of the room when we start. I can kiss him for hours. When he leaves for work we kiss all the way to his truck, as he is getting in his truck and then once more before he drives off. When he gets home I am waiting for him with another kiss! Those are my favorites, he wraps his hands in my hair and pushes me up against a wall. There have been many times that dinner is delayed because of his welcome home kiss leading to more. It is time to go wake him up, he is working nights this weekend, and yeap... I'm gonna wake him up with a kiss!


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
He confessed 9/9/12
A was over 2/12
7/13~ Happier than we have been in yrs!

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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

he wraps his hands in my hair and pushes me up against a wall.
Lawd, I'm getting the vapors, must sit down a spell.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
2married2quit
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

Hate to be the party pooper but I only kiss FWW goodbye and hello a peck. That's it. No making out. I will if I had a few drinks and sometimes during sex. I was her first and only kiss but now that has been broken after 22 yrs. just doesn't feel the same. Sorry. I actually wish we could go without kissing for a year so it clears the air.


BS - Me 43 WS - Her 41
DDAY - June 2012 (found the texts)
DDAY2 - Next Day (found out who) EA
TT- till 9/2012 (some PA)
Married 20yrs. 2kids
Status: in careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels

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TxsT
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Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, September 8th (Sunday)

Awwwwww 2married.....I am sorry to hear that. I could not imagine getting to where we are today and not really kissing. I hope that changes for you buddy.

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
SorrowBhindSmile
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, September 8th (Sunday)

maaaaaaaaaan...my WH is out of town on business....now i REALLY miss him and want a kiss!! LOL!

We like to play the red light game...on date nights, anytime we stop at a red light, we kiss till it turns green!! we have gotten a few honks!


Me: BW
Him: WH
OW: My former "dear friend"/neighbor
Married 20+
Kids: 3
D-Day 12/2012
Committed to R 7/8/2013
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle"

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ccw82
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, September 8th (Sunday)

Ok, how do you insert a photo? I have no idea but would love to add to the kissing thread!


Me: 31
WH (1DumbHusband): 35
Married 5 years, together 7 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
TTs that came out as late as January 2014

"One is not tempted by that he does not want."


Posts: 136 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Dallas, TX
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, September 9th (Monday)

Sorrow....I love that idea!!!!!!

Tonight I had a great time just putting my hand on H's thigh while we drove back from the mountains. No other touching at all. I was so pleased that it made me all hot and bothered to just touch him again!!!!! When we got in the house I gave him a wonderful kiss and he gave me the nicest, bear huggiest hug.....the world is getting better!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
ccw82
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Let's see if this works...

Our smooch!

[This message edited by ccw82 at 6:57 PM, September 9th (Monday)]


Me: 31
WH (1DumbHusband): 35
Married 5 years, together 7 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
TTs that came out as late as January 2014

"One is not tempted by that he does not want."


Posts: 136 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Dallas, TX
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, September 9th (Monday)

So that's what you two look like!!!!! Now, get down to forgiving each other and get on with living in a better world!!!!!!!!!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, September 9th (Monday)

We kiss all the time now. We lost it during the affair years. Now, its one of the better things we've gotten back.


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

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Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, September 9th (Monday)

I am right there with you Samantha....it just calms my day now. Before it was such an after thought....

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, September 9th (Monday)

I am right there with you Samantha....it just calms my day now. Before it was such an after thought....

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
ccw82
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, September 9th (Monday)



TxsT, here is a better picture of us!


Me: 31
WH (1DumbHusband): 35
Married 5 years, together 7 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
TTs that came out as late as January 2014

"One is not tempted by that he does not want."


Posts: 136 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Dallas, TX
TxsT
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Member # 39996
Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, September 9th (Monday)

You two are cute!!!!! How do I add a picture?????


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
looking forward
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Hey pain...
Accepting your challenge!
This is one of the photos taken last year on our 40th wedding anniversary. We returned to the church where we were married.
My H is an excellent kisser.
We spend a lot of time kissing......oh, and other stuff, too ...Yes, we are in our 60s.
~ lf

[This message edited by looking forward at 9:29 PM, September 9th (Monday)]


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

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TxsT
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, September 9th (Monday)

I don't even know if I have one of us kissing!!!!! My kids, both boys, would have never tolerated taking such a picture.

Sheesh!!!

Looking...a what a beautiful church.....um yeah and a passionate kiss too

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Twentyplus
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Have so truly enjoyed this thread...all the words and the photos. Kissing my H has been one of the sublime joys of my life. While it is usually so again, there are still occasional triggers of H and his OW locked in the same embrace, fleeting images of the same shared caress. Just had one of those "movies" yesterday and it leveled me. I want to be free of it. Maybe someday soon. Maybe more kissing will help.


"But we must supply our own light." - Stanley Kubrick


Posts: 66 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: The Big Blue Sea
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Twenty Plus....reading your little story in your signature shows me how much love you have for your H. I thought I was doing bad with 4 years but 10 wow.....that's a very long time. I am really glad you got some big positive out of this thread. That's why I thought of it....I want to bring some smiles to a lot of people who might not get many each and every day. Thank you for sharing. I too am going to go and smooch my love tonight!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
1DumbHusband
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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, September 9th (Monday)

TxsT: thanks for starting this thread and PainPain thanks for the photo challenge. I can say I have a greater appreciation for every kiss CCW now gives me. They're all cherished (as they should have been all along) and I realize I could lose them at any day! It's also nice to see pictures of us kissing and then actually kiss afterwards!


Me: FWH 34
Her: 31 and deserving much better than I've given her (CCW82)
Married 4 years, together 6 years.
D-Day: June 17th, 2013
"Don't give up. You're married until you're not. You never know what tomorrow will bring."

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TxsT
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, September 9th (Monday)

1DH.....,glad to help out. I am on a mission to be more positive in posting and starting threads that have hope, happiness and a bit of a smile. We all could use a little relief. So many of us are at 1 year, so many are just starting and even more have been here for a very long time. If we can all stand up just for a minute and think of good.....maybe we will all slightly shift towards the light.

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, September 9th (Monday)

Ps.....you are a cutie 1DW


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
Patchy
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

Well, a week after Dday #1 I was able to romantically lean over the couch to give my guy a make out session he would never forget. It was amazing and lead to the most amazing sex I'd ever had.

For a while I was able to enjoy kissing off and on,, but it was always hard since kissing is the main intimate thing he did with her. SO glad there was no sex. I seriously don't know how anyone recovers from that. But the fact that he was "in love" with a woman he thought about the second he woke up and all day long and found opportunities to meet her and hold her and tell her he loved her and kiss her .... makes even watching people kiss on tv very hard for me.

After Dday #2, when he fell back in love with me and told me he never was in love with her like he thought, for a while I could enjoy kissing again ... on occasion. And then it went away. Any time there was a lingering kiss, eventually the mind movies came and I'd have to pull away. So ... without even being conscious of it at first, I just stopped kissing more than quick kisses. It was pretty hard on him at first and I think he really didn't get it. I think he "might" get it more now, and doesn't push the issue at all anymore.

Just last week I brought this very thing up at counseling. It's my most difficult trigger and the one that affects him the most.

Sorry to be a downer on your thread that was meant to be light. :/ Lookomg forward to a day I can be excited about kissing the way you describe again. It does happen on occasion, but pretty rare these days. :(


Me BS 44
Him FWS 45
Married 23 Years
DDay 1 July 2012
DDay 2 Christmas Day 2013 same woman
EA with kissing, very strong bond and talk of leaving spouses for each other.

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TxsT
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

Patchy....to me there are no more downers.....just new realities. I am sorry that this act has become a huge trigger for you. It is as big of a trigger as the reflection I get when my H and I connect sexually in a way that has been missing for far too many years. I get that same aha moment after making love to him and I have to strike it from my mind as quickly as it enters. Yes it is hard to know that my H was sexually intimate with another person.....not sure I will ever be completely over the twang I get when I realize I could have lost those wonderful moments forever with my H. But really, the worst of it all was how deeply in love he felt he had fallen for someone who has been proven to love the idea of them more then the them.....she manipulated that love, pulled it from him only to throw it back at him in silence and unreturned words. She never said she loved him to him once during the 4 year A....she reserved that for when he had NCed her and realized what a sham the whole thing was to begin with. Sometimes I wonder who really got hurt the most here. Many times I fear his own persona was so cruelly treated by someone who had no real interest in him except her own. And to almost throw 32 years away because of this blind love....it is no wonder my H is lost in his own world of hurt.

I hope one day you and I can relish in Knowling that everything will be ok. That this part of our lives is completely behind us.....this might take years but I am willing to tow the effort it will take to close my eyes and never see her again with him, ever!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
olwen
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Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

So lovely to hear these happy stories

Oh yes there has been a lot more kissing in this house lately. He says it's cos he nearly lost me and now can't get close enough.

We discovered we had actually forgotten how to French kiss properly!!! It was a bit awkward at first but we are really getting into the swing now lol.

I love this thread so much it's got me thinking and I have started another about improved sex life too. after all after improved kissing....well it kinda follows on doesn't it


Together 19yrs
me BS 36
him WS 41 (silent lucidity)
ea 1 facebook flirting with an ex 2011
ea/pa - co worker 6wks feb to apr2013 pa for 1 wk with sex one time
too much tt to count = latest tt 30/7/14

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TxsT
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

Thats how I got the idea to start this thread in the first place. I had to drive our dog to the kennel for the weekend(45 minute drive round trip) and I got smiling over the wonderful kiss we had when he left that morning. I haven't thought about a kiss in 20 years, so the idea of thinking of one now made my mind wander to how wonderful life has become now that kisses mean so much more again.

Thank you everyone for contributing

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
confused615
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, September 10th (Tuesday)

I realized,after dday, that WH and I hadn't REALLY kissed in a long time. And I missed it.

We kiss a lot now..several times a day. My FWH is(OMgoodness...I just typed an "F" there...first time since January..and it *feels* RIGHT) an amazing kisser. He makes my knees weak..even after 15 years together.

Kissing him is one of my favorite past times.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7428 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

FWH is(OMgoodness...I just typed an "F" there...first time since January..and it *feels* RIGHT)

Wonderful confused'!!!!! I remember the first time I used FWH......now I used RH or just H......progress, even the smallest steps feel so wonderful don't they???????

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
confused615
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

They certainly do T.

But..for my *F*WH..his steps have been big ones.

It's true..when a wayward gets it..really and truly gets it..you,the BS,KNOW. You are no longer questioning everything and anything. The change in him is as noticeable as night and day.


We are going to be ok. I haven't really allowed myself to believe that until the last few days. But we're going to make it.

And..so with you and your *F* Mr T(lol ). I've followed your posts....your husband "gets it" too.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7428 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

He does, he really does. He is such a loving wonderful man and I am happy that we can build from our past mistakes.

i was sneaky this morning. I went into his briefcase and hid an anniversary card for him to open at work. I knew he hadn't had the time to go and get one for me yet but I couldn't let the opportunity to pass me by to surprise him with some unexpected love and kindness. The fact that I openly feel like my old self in this respect is making our 25 th anniversary everything I always wanted it to be but never thought I would feel!!!!

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

Loving the pics! More, more!

And LF, WHAT a gorgeous photo of you two and the church! Just beautiful!


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
looking forward
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

Thank you, pain!
Here's one from a few years ago in Negril...

Considering what I had done with OM, I am truly, truly blessed with having a husband who overcame an extraordinary hurdle.
Yes, he still struggles with all of this infidelity crap I saddled us with, but what huge, huge leaps forward!


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

Posts: 2839 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: Where a river runs through it
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

Ok now I have to go and find one of me....sheesh

And now you even upped the anti and have swim attire on!!!!!!

Looking Forward I am so glad you were able to get beyond this terrible time we are all facing. You two look so sweet together. I never think that of many people who have ditched their first spouse for their second, it never really looks natural. You on the other hand look deeply meant for each other.

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


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