User Topic: Reeeeeally?
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, September 6th (Friday)

So apparently the email that I found that revealed the affair was an email my wife had written to the AP and my MIL saying my WW was going to stay with me. Apparently the AP and my MIL were pushing my wife to stay with me. So she was going to stay with me, not reveal the affair, and continue being "just friends" with the AP. So I was wrong to have all of my "erratic behavior" over the last five weeks, My anger at her has sealed my fate. even if she was to go NC with the AP, she still " wouldn't want to be with me any more"

Feeling is mutual.

[This message edited by kg201 at 7:26 PM, September 6th (Friday)]

Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 738 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Gee, blameshift much, WW?

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9861 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, September 6th (Friday)

And that is supposed to somehow magically make the A a figment of your imagination that never happened????

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet

Posts: 1208 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Amazing the shit they can convince themselves of.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4694 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, September 6th (Friday)

My anger at her has sealed my fate. even if she was to go NC with the AP, she still " wouldn't want to be with me any more"

Damn. This is exactly the bullshit my ex tried to feed me. It wasn't his affair that led to the situation we were in, it was my reaction. And even if AP wasn't involved anymore we couldn't be together "for a long time" because of what *I* did (the horrible offense of showing anger towards his heartbreaking betrayal, lies and blameshifting).

FTB (F*ck that Bit*h!) Amazing that a lying, cheating ass, unremorseful wayward can still feel like a prize.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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