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sad34
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Mine would b obsessively looking at her photos on Facebook:( I think for me it helps me realize its real. I wasn't there, I didn't know her in real life. It still seems surreal, like my ethical husband would never do this. So I just stare at her picture every night before bed. I think, what did he c in her?
Very very very unhealthy habit:( also I constantly think of ways to destroy her life. I've replaced reading etc with these habits:(
I know letting it cloud my thoughts makes her win, but I can't stop:(
So confess your unhealthy habits!


Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R

Posts: 134 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: canada
mixedintherut
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Member # 40330
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, September 6th (Friday)

I was checking his cell phone history 3-5 times a day.

I no longer have access to the online account, so it's not a possibility anymore. Which is both good and bad.

Also, the first week, I spent probably 4-5 hours a day on this website. After the first week I had to take a step back. Now, I check on here once a day or ever so many days.


DD 1: PA 12/4/09 He spent 2.5 years with OW1
R: 8/31/2012
DD 2: EA 8/16/13
BS: 26
WH: 25
1 young daughter.
Terribly disgusted. He refuses to give up his "friend". Headed towards D.

Posts: 136 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: kentucky
Nohopeleft
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Member # 40356
Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Frequentily google last OW name to see if I learn anything new

Googled business where Dh had sex with prostitute. They have a new site so lucky me got to see a picuture of her.

Randomly check Facebook page of my old high school friend


Me: late 30s Husband: late 30s
M 14 years, T 18
C: 8 and 10

DD 1: 3/12 numerous PA from 95-05 resulted in me confessing to brief PA prior to marriage

DD 2: 4/12 RA with prost.

DD 3: 11/12 RA with old professor

Hoping for R but doubtful


Posts: 33 | Registered: Aug 2013
Tripletrouble
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Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, September 6th (Friday)

My new year resolution was to give up diet coke. Its my vice since high school. I struggled for months and was down to 12 oz a day. Now I'm worse than before, probably 50+ oz today. I turn a deaf ear to the health consequences. There are worse things. But it breaks my heart because I worked so hard to kick the habit. One of many things small and large taken from me.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.


Posts: 553 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
wannabenormal
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Member # 19772
Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, September 6th (Friday)

I went full on into not great habits after dday - tons of cyber 'checking' (stalking, ok, WBN?! Because that's what it was! LOL!), drank a lot more - XH and I did together. It was a way to numb ourselves while we still lived together. I lost a lot of weight initially, which while I looked great, really wasn't healthy.

Damn myself for saying that out loud because I not only got to a healthy weight, but gained even more back. LOL! If I were TRULY unhappy with that, I'd so something. I'm not glad about how I look, just have other priorities at the moment.

All that said - drinking too much was the most unhealthy thing I kept up on. I will say, I feel I'm much better with it now. It was a crutch for me.

I will also admit I was on SI like super tons - but I don't consider than unhealthy - SI saved me in a lot of ways.


BW, divorced: 03/09


Posts: 14252 | Registered: Jun 2008
TICKED OFF
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Member # 8291
Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Well my most unhealthy habit is to each and every day think of what took place between ow and h in her house when they had their 6 week a 9 yrs ago.

You ask why do I think of this each and every day???? Well because I still happen to live 2 houses from the ow and her h. So the memories are ALWAYS there for me which led to a not so healthy environment. Try to R in a situation like mine. Not the easiest thing in the world to do.


Posts: 2386 | Registered: Sep 2005
whatnow8
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Member # 36576
Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, September 6th (Friday)

I used to work really hard at trying to be patient with people, because you never know what they are going thru. And now I've just given up, I don't care. I have zero patience for people, their stupidity, and whatever their excuses are for it. And, of course, it has affected the way my kids treat each other.


wtf?? How insane does your life have to get that you want to polygraph your freaking HUSBAND. ~ OldCow18

It's hard to make a decision when you're too tired to hold on and too in love to let go. ~ unknown


Posts: 175 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: midwest
TICKED OFF
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Member # 8291
Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, September 6th (Friday)

"wahtnow" ....yes that is exactly true. I have no tolerance either for stupid things that not only people do but anything stupid that my h now does. I learned that trait very quickly after his a.

Posts: 2386 | Registered: Sep 2005
sad34
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Member # 40358
Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, September 6th (Friday)

I also no longer care as much for wh when he is sick or about his work :( and ya people piss me off a lot faster!!


Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R

Posts: 134 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: canada
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